Trust degree
It is important to choose a counselor who matches you. The so-called collocation means just like a teacher giving a lecture. Maybe every teacher is an excellent head teacher, but everyone's teaching style is different and students' experience is different. Some students like humorous teachers, and he quickly accepted them. Some students like strict teachers, and he thinks it can give them proper pressure. A suitable teacher can make the learning content easier to understand and digest, and he likes this subject better. And a teacher who is not suitable for himself may have the idea of giving up this subject. So is the counselor. A psychological counselor who makes you feel approachable can be more professional in the questions you consult. His consulting style makes you easier to accept and allows you to build trust in her quickly, and the degree of trust determines how much inner world and real thoughts you can open to him. The more open, the truer the expression, and the more it can play a consulting role. If there is no information from beginning to end, or the information you gave is covered up and false, then such consultation is definitely useless.
Consultation time
We set the consultation time as 50 minutes to 1 hour, which is based on scientific theory. If the visitor hopes to solve all your problems in this consultation, it is impossible. It takes time to accumulate problems, and of course it takes time to solve them. People's thoughts will change rapidly, and the development of the situation will change rapidly. We can't freeze the past, present and future in one time. Therefore, if you think it is useful to solve all the problems in one consultation, and it is useless if you can't solve them, then even the top consultants may be liars who lie to you.
Degree of disease
If the psychological problems of visitors are relatively minor, then psychological counseling will play a great role. However, if the psychological problems of visitors are not only emotional disorders, but also serious neurological symptoms or mental symptoms, and some of them may also have physical symptoms, then simple psychological counseling may be useless, and professional psychiatrists need to intervene, make authoritative grade judgments, and consider whether to take medicine. With the help of medication, psychological counseling will play a role.
The effect that tourists want to achieve
Some visitors come to consult, hoping to solve others' problems instead of their own. For example, if my husband is having an affair, can you ask him to transfer? My children don't study hard. Can you make him listen to his teachers and parents and not oppose me? My boss gives me trouble everywhere. Can you ask him to be lenient with me? Wait, wait, wait. Then what I want to say is that we can't change non-visitors. We can only help visitors make changes and adjustments, and give some suggestions and methods to achieve the goals that visitors want to achieve. If your purpose is to change your husband, children, boss, mother-in-law or parents, rather than yourself, then such consultation is useless. If you really want to change yourself, then counseling must be useful. It will make you become a better self, or find an unknown self, so as to look at life from a new perspective!
Visitors' own beliefs
I once read a humorous story that a man believed in God, and as a result, there was a flood in his hometown, and he was waiting for God to save him. As a result, he waited and waited, and God did not appear. After he died, he went to God and said that I had trusted you for so many years. As a result, I met a disaster. Why didn't you come and save me? God said I have sent someone to save you. I sent a water ski, a life buoy and a helicopter to save you. Why didn't you catch it? The same is true of psychological counseling. Through mutual understanding and interaction, there will be some homework, some methods to help you improve, some behavior exercises, and some people will seriously abide by them, and the results will benefit more and more. Even if they are repeated, they will generally spiral up and get better and better. And some people still won't make any adjustments and changes according to these methods. He had countless reasons to say to God, I thought you would only point your finger at me with a wand, so I went to a safe place. If that's what you think, then psychological counseling will never work for you. Solving problems and restoring emotions is a process in itself. He needs you to strengthen your faith, exercise with positive behavior and accept with an inclusive attitude. Like a man falling into a pit, the fireman came to save him and threw him a rope. You can just grab the rope and get up, but you don't even want to reach for it. How is that possible?
Psychological counseling is useful and useless, depending on everyone's feelings, but as a professional listener, psychological counseling must be the safest tree hole, let your mind be released, let your gloomy mind squeeze into the sunshine, accompany you with love, and accompany you to grow up!