First, give students the love they are willing to accept.
Many teachers, like parents, are always nagging and educating their children. I thought I said it for his own good and for his own good. Whether the students can accept it or not, I just give the students the so-called "love" in my own way. The heart is always good, but it often backfires. Many times, these "nagging love" will only backfire, and students will not listen, but will be more likely to rebel. You told him to go west, but he went east. Even the teacher's "love" is dismissive and blind. Over time, the prestige of teachers has also been challenged. Why is there such a result? Many teachers are puzzled. This fully proves that our teacher doesn't love students, and he doesn't know what kind of love children can accept or what kind of love children are willing to accept. Although something is good, it is not what you want, and you will definitely not cherish it; Although the truth is right, if they preach the truth every day, even the truth will be dull and numb.
Therefore, it is not enough to rely on a cavity of love and be full of lofty sentiments and great love. Teachers need wise eyes to discover the needs of students; Exploring children's psychology requires a wise mind. Let them know, understand and even accept the teacher's love, consciously respond to the teacher's love and willingly return it. Only in this way can education be effective and lasting.
Second, don't spoil the "top students"
A "top student" with excellent academic performance is a leader in the eyes of many teachers and parents. Because their grades are among the best, their feelings for "top students" are almost innate and do not need to be cultivated. No teacher does not favor top students. Therefore, these "top students" are favored by parents and teachers.
Generally, it has the following characteristics: 1. Being in the top position of students for a long time is arrogant and conceited, which is easy to produce vanity. 2. Under the pressure of abnormal enrollment rate, some "top students" tend to have narrow feelings of mutual jealousy, intrigue and unfair competition in their studies. 3. Being praised, respected, envied and easily frustrated since childhood. Especially in the background of exam-oriented education, many teachers only pay attention to the award-winning scores, "one point is good to cover up a hundred ugly points"
Their other advantages have been exaggerated intentionally or unintentionally. Their unique ideological deviation and personality defects are largely ignored by educators.
All this is because we love "top students" as parents love their children.
. According to my experience, we should pay attention to the following two points in cultivating excellent students: 1, to help "excellent students" know themselves.
Guide eugenics to scientifically analyze and evaluate students' comprehensive qualities such as personality cultivation, knowledge framework and ability structure, so as to give full play to their potential and develop their due talents. Through the calm analysis of the successful experience and failure lessons in the learning process, we can understand ourselves correctly and comprehensively, and then develop ourselves in a targeted manner.
Cultivating "top students" is frustrated. 2. Top students who have been at the top of the pyramid for a long time rarely taste failure and being left out, so their tolerance for setbacks is relatively weak. As a teacher, first of all, the identity and status of gifted students should not be specialized in the class, but should be treated equally with other students. Secondly, eugenics should not engage in "lifelong system" as student cadres. Organize the construction of student cadre mechanism to cultivate students' flexibility and ability to go up and down. The mistakes made by gifted students must not be accommodated, but should be severely criticized.
Third, pay more attention to "underachievers"
It is almost every teacher's nature to like top students, but the difficulty lies in liking underachievers as well. Because they are slow to respond, the effect of education and teaching is not obvious, and their academic performance is not good, they always drag the class back, like a burden, which is a burden. So it is difficult to get the teacher's love. Almost every class will have individual "special people". The teacher doesn't care whether he studies in class or finishes his homework. Because "rotten wood cannot be carved", it was ignored, rejected and discriminated by the next teacher. . . . . . . And they seem to have long been accustomed to this neglect, have accepted the fact that they are poor students, feel lonely and inferior, and hide in the forgotten corner to give up on themselves. . . . . .
Someone said, "There is no soldier who doesn't want to be a general." I said, "There are no students who don't want to learn well." Who doesn't want to be concerned by parents, teachers and classmates? Who doesn't want to be appreciated by stars? As a teacher, we should believe that every underachiever will have the psychology of "following good advice". They also want to learn well, but due to long-term laziness and lack of self-control, they have formed bad study habits and incorrect attitudes that are difficult to change. Thus forming a vicious circle. In fact, the formation of poor students is largely due to the indifference of parents and teachers. It is this carelessness that makes today's forgetfulness more serious than tomorrow. . . . . .
Therefore, in view of the underachievers, we should deeply understand, study and investigate, find out the reasons for their "poor" and prescribe the right medicine.
Love is the premise of education. For underachievers, this kind of love should be sincere in particular. Of course, it is difficult to educate underachievers once and for all. We can't make underachievers become excellent students through a heart-to-heart talk, a home visit and a theme class meeting. "Make mistakes, admit mistakes, correct mistakes, make mistakes, admit mistakes" is a common cycle for underachievers. We should pay more attention to them, have more patience and confidence, and "hold your son's hand and move forward with him".
Education should not only focus on grades. The bounden duty of a teacher is not only to teach, but also to educate people. We must never judge heroes only by their achievements. Do you know that the main body of our education should be people who are progressing and developing in Qian Qian?