People who know psychology will show high "emotional intelligence" in their lives. They know how to create the feeling of heartbeat, how to promote deep communication, how to find a comfortable distance between the two sexes, how to pay, and how to establish a sense of dependence between the two sides.
Next, according to the five laws of psychology, the logic of love psychology is expounded from the aspects of heartbeat feeling, deep communication, comfortable distance between the sexes, reasonable contribution and the establishment of gender dependence.
1. How to create the feeling of heartbeat? There is a "suspension bridge effect" in psychology. It is said that when a person crosses a dangerous bridge, subconscious fears and worries will make his heart beat faster. At this time, if the opposite sex meets, it will mistake this feeling of heartbeat for the other person's heart. When is it easiest for a person to fall in love with another person? The answer is that when a person's inner anxiety fluctuates.
Nowadays, social competition is fierce, and most people are more or less anxious or deeply uneasy about the future. The psychological feelings brought by these external stimuli are gradually internalized into people's subconscious. You can see it now.
Single men and women, if 202 1 want a divorce, might as well give encouragement, support and warmth to the person you admire at this time. This subconscious change will greatly increase the probability of falling in love. Give love and care when she/he needs help most, and love will happen with great probability.
2. How to promote spiritual communication between the two sexes? The barrel effect is how much water can be held in a barrel surrounded by multiple boards, depending on the shortest board, because no matter how long the other boards are, water will flow out from the shortest board. With the rapid development of society in recent years, unconsciously, the whole social structure is facing a reshuffle, and the advantages that many people used to be proud of are gradually weakening.
In other words, in the same circle, it is difficult to distinguish the length of the wooden barrel board! The fierce social competition makes everyone's life very difficult. At this time, people's concept of emotion has quietly changed, and many people's subconscious expectations for the other half have gradually tilted to the psychological and spiritual levels.
Being isolated at home, people lose a lot of unnecessary social activities and have more time to communicate online. And online communication, spiritual and psychological communication, compared with the cold and boring material level, is easier to impress people and produce a sense of harmony of love.
3. How to find a comfortable distance? In the cold winter, two hedgehogs embrace to keep warm. If they get too close, their thorns will hurt each other. If you are too far away, you can't keep warm until you find the best distance to get along with each other. Nowadays, many people are forced to stay at home. Married, get along with your partner day and night; Unmarried, the number of meetings with the other half is reduced; Single people spend more time online than offline.
At this time, many people began to reflect, what is the most comfortable distance between men and women? Getting along with men and women is an art, and partners are independent individuals, so it is uncomfortable for both sides to be too restrained; Without restraint, feelings are at risk of fading. Therefore, whether it is home isolation or online chat, we should pay attention to keeping a comfortable distance between two people and creating a beautiful love.
4. How to pay in love? The Overrun Effect tells a story: A writer went to a fund-raising activity, and the host spoke for five minutes. The screenwriter felt very moved and wanted to donate 500 yuan, but the host didn't stop him. 10 minutes later, the screenwriter thought that donating 200 was enough, but the host still talked for half an hour, and the screenwriter left without donating a penny.
There is a limit to being kind to a person. Especially married women, get along with their husbands day and night, do housework and take care of their daily lives, and remember not to be obsessive-compulsive. Complaining about others, nagging will only backfire. Give it a try, pay only half, enough is enough, so the relationship between two people may be better.
At the same time, if you are chatting online or sending gifts by express delivery, you should also pay attention to the limit. Appropriate efforts will not make the other party feel pressure, but will further enhance the emotional atmosphere between the two.
5. How to build a sense of dependence on both sides? "Ba Brauff effect" is about human's "conditioned reflex". Constantly and regularly stimulating things will make the other person form a habit.
Nowadays, single men and women chat more online. At this time, the "Ba Brauff effect" is used. You can turn the chat between two people into a "timed stimulus" and start chatting only at a fixed time and for a fixed duration. Then, over time, the two sides will form a habit, and suddenly one day you will miss him very much, thus establishing a sense of dependence and increasing the distance between the two sexes.
Loving a person depends partly on attraction and partly on habit. I can't live without you, sometimes not because you are unique, but because I am used to having you around and your company. Single people, in the process of getting along, might as well try the "Ba Brauff effect", which may have unexpected effects.
This paper briefly expounds the above five psychological skills from five aspects: the feeling of heartbeat, deep communication, comfortable distance between the sexes, reasonable effort and establishing gender dependence. We can discuss it further.