Cause and analysis
1, from a physiological point of view
Adolescence is the heyday of individual growth and development, and it is also the initial stage of sexual maturity. During this period, the physical and physiological functions are undergoing drastic changes, becoming the peak of growth and development, also called the second accelerated period (the first accelerated period refers to 0~ 1 year). During this period, the growth rate of children's height, weight, shoulder width and chest circumference is increasing rapidly, and their sexual function is also maturing rapidly. Accompanied by the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics such as breast development, body hair growth and voice change. From this perspective, teenagers feel that they are adults and should make their own decisions, so sometimes they dare to contradict their parents.
Related information report: The latest research by American scientists shows that the rebellious behavior of teenagers is related to the degree of physiological development. In other words, teenagers are rebellious, abnormal and anxious because their cerebral cortex is immature, unable to deal with complex thoughts and feelings at the same time, and lacking the ability to control multiple tasks at the same time. The researchers conducted experiments on volunteers aged 9-20. The results show that people have the ability to remember multiple pieces of information only when they are 13~ 15 years old. Until 16~ 17 years old, the brain has the ability to handle multiple tasks at the same time.
Monica, who is in charge of this research? Luciana said: This discovery reminds many strict teachers and parents. Don't ask teenagers to have clear and standardized thinking.
2. From a psychological point of view.
With the improvement of modern people's material conditions, children's physical development is also accelerating, and they have entered a mature state early. However, the speed of psychological development is not completely synchronized with physiological development, and the speed of psychological development is relatively slow. It is precisely because of the disharmony and imbalance of physical and mental development that teenagers' self-regulation ability is fragile, which easily leads to various contradictions in psychological development and deviations in psychological behavior.
The development of adolescence is extremely complicated and full of contradictions, so it is also called difficult period, crisis period and psychological weaning period. Its main characteristics are the imbalance of physical and mental development, the intricate contradictions between self-maturity and semi-maturity status quo, and the psychological and behavioral deviations brought about by these contradictions.
The psychological contradictions in this period are: the contradiction between psychological adult feeling and semi-mature status quo; The contradiction between psychological weaning and the hope that parents will give spiritual support and protection; The contradiction between psychological atresia and the need to understand and communicate; The contradiction between independence and dependence.
In psychological counseling, a 14-year-old son confided that my mother was very strict with me since I was a child, and I rarely got her affirmation and praise whether I played the piano, wrote calligraphy or painted. Most of the time, my mother scolded me for my poor playing, writing and drawing, not to mention my academic performance. When I ranked lower in the exam, I was defeated. I always feel that everything I do will never meet my mother's requirements, so I always feel that everything I do will never meet my mother's requirements, so I become less confident and gradually lose interest in learning.
What the child said is very representative and can explain the problem.