Zhang Defen, with his simple brushwork description, revealed the deep-seated reasons that troubled people's troubles and pains, and was named the chief soul bestseller in the Chinese-speaking world, which was deeply loved by people. Many people have a positive change in their attitude towards life because they have read Devin's book.
In the past five years, I have studied various methods of spiritual growth and psychotherapy, and read relevant works in Chinese and English. By living in the present and observing one's self-cultivation, I have gained a lot of experience in spiritual and personal growth. Obtained the license of China National Psychological Counselor. What we are most concerned about now is "the evolution and promotion of human consciousness" and contribute to the bright future of the earth. Settle in Beijing for a long time with my family.
In June, 2007, the first novel about physical and mental growth, Meeting the Unknown Self, was published in Taiwan Province Province, and ranked on the best-selling list of major bookstores in Taiwan Province Province. The reader responded enthusiastically and became a best-selling author.
August 20 10, the internal space website was established. Her original intention is to integrate her spiritual growth experience and spiritual resources accumulated over the years and share them with more people, hoping to provide a comprehensive support for physical and mental lovers.
The new editions "Meet the Oneself You Want" and "Live a New Oneself" went on sale on June 20 12.
20/kloc-in September, 2003, a brand-new work "Willing to make the person you love suffer" was published, which further led us to explore the deeper growth topic in life-the relationship with others.
Since 2002, I have been inspired and guided to quit my high-paying job and concentrate on studying yoga and various spiritual courses in the new era. Over the years, I have studied various methods of spiritual growth and psychotherapy, and read more than 100 Chinese and English books. Through daily observation and meditation, I have learned a lot about spiritual and personal growth. What we are most concerned about now is "the evolution and promotion of human consciousness", hoping to help more people discover their inner self and happiness.
Major achievements
Willing to make the person you love suffer.
Meet the unknown self again
Meet the person you want.
Live a new self
To meet the unknown
German:
Whether husband and wife can grow up together is not necessarily related to whether you need to give up a marriage.
I can't decide whether to give up for you.
Because I have seen many examples, some women have suffered for a long time, she gave up her marriage and she became very, very happy. But there are also some people, like my parents: my mother was very bitter when she was young, but she was unable to support us and could not bear to part with us. I had to go on living under my father's arrogance for many years. But when my father gets old, he becomes very good.
Now my parents, they really care about each other and are very loving. But when I was young, my father was really a big jerk. It was terrible. He has all the bad habits of men. How do you think? So I can't help you decide whether to leave or not. But I can only tell you, don't let marriage stop your self-growth.
On the road of your constant self-growth, when you have enough inner strength and inner wisdom, there will be one to influence your husband and make him change. Secondly, you will clearly see that this man is not what you want, so you can put it down and leave.
Whether you hurt your child depends entirely on your inner state, not the actual marriage mode.
The most important influence on children is that two people together may not have a good influence on children, but two people apart may have a bad influence on children, which is completely beyond your own energy. If it's so bitter, you cry when you say it. You have so much pain, your divorce is also very bitter, and the children will feel the pain of their mothers. The child has helped his mother suffer a lot, and it's no use carrying it on his back.
Your child, you don't want to hurt her, but you are already hurting her. Because you have a lot of pain, you can't digest it yourself, and you can't accept it, so it is actually unhappy for children to see their mother in this marriage. Then she accepts your pain, feels your pain, and carries it on her back, which makes her very unhappy. Therefore, divorce or not depends entirely on your inner state.
If your child sees that you are getting happier and happier after divorce, you can still get along with your father as friends, which is good for your child! You tell your children that everyone else has a home, and you have two homes: father's home and mother's home. If you have this attitude, the children will feel good. Even if you have a boyfriend, you will tell her that everyone has a father and you have two. It's easy to earn! The children are walking with the vigor of their parents.
It doesn't matter if you say your wife can't grow up with you. What matters is whether you have learned a lesson, whether you have grown up and whether you can grow up in this marriage. The most important thing is whether you use this marriage as an excuse to stop yourself from growing up, and whether you use your husband as an excuse to stop yourself from learning and learning lessons.
My friend attended the meeting in Zhang Defen and came back to share with us.
At the meeting, Zhang Defen said, "I got divorced again last year. I can get along well with my parents and children, but I can't handle intimate relationships well. This is the topic of my life. When I didn't do well enough, my ex-husband would say, read the book yourself. Sorry, I can write, but I can't write all of them. I am practicing hard. "
This news caused a heated discussion in the group, so I also want to talk about my own views. Before sharing my views, I want to clarify two basic positions.
First, I don't think a woman's marital status is directly related to her happiness. Therefore, unmarried, married, dink, divorced, remarried, divorced and remarried women may be in a happy or unhappy state.
Secondly, in my opinion, if readers' trust in Zhang Defen is reduced, and even they are suspected of denying themselves, it does not mean a total denial of her works and related theoretical systems.
The different opinion of the group is that Zhang Defen has been divorced twice, and her own family relationship has not been properly handled. Is she qualified to publish a book as someone else's life mentor?
At this point, I immediately thought of learning from the teacher. The master we are talking about is most easily associated with martial arts and art. If we want to learn from a teacher, should we find someone who is outstanding in this field? Or find someone who is good at telling the truth and summing up experience? I am inclined to the former. The apprentice can shine brilliantly on you, but the master himself should be equal in strength.
On the entry of Baidu Encyclopedia, Zhang Defen's name is followed by "Chief Body and Mind Writer of Chinese World in Taiwan Province". I don't know where this title came from. If you look at the "world" and "chief" above, you are really a master. If you are a master in this field, your own practice must be able to serve the public.
Presumably, Zhang Defen knew this very well, so he said, "This is the subject of my life. Sorry, I can write, but I can't write all of them. I am practicing hard. " Some friends like her generosity and generosity, but in today's developed network and information, it is almost impossible for her to hide it, right? The rest is revealed by others, so it's better to say it yourself first.
There is also a name "writer" on the entry, right! I always thought that Zhang Defen was a writer, so her books were literary works, not reference books. Literary works are like a hundred Hamlets in the eyes of a hundred people, and everyone may have different understandings. Literary works don't have standard answers like reference books, and they don't know what a word means like Xinhua dictionary, so they look it up how to make sentences.
Therefore, authors of literary works can appreciate it, but there is no need to worship it. Similarly, you can disagree with the author's personal life choices, but there is no need to deny her works. After all, Zhang Defen only used common language and simple examples to illustrate some truth. Her book is based on grand theories such as psychology, meditation and Vipassana. And the foundation of the theory cannot be denied because of her personal problems.
Zhang Defen also mentioned that she studied the methods of spiritual growth and psychotherapy, and read relevant works in Chinese and English. By observing her self-cultivation, she gained many insights about spiritual and personal growth. In this sense, she is also a porter of words.
So in fact, the marriage is divorced and several books have been published. What is the point of our argument? Finally, to borrow a sentence from the friends who participated in the sharing meeting in the group: "We read so many books, which is nothing more than being ourselves and respecting others."
Many of the above words are online, in order to let everyone know about a person, more celebrities and their hard work, so that we ordinary people can see ourselves clearly, understand ourselves and keep learning. Also let us know that an ordinary person can get what he pursues through constant introspection and growth. When I was studying psychology at the beginning of 2009, someone recommended Zhang Defen's book to me, because I didn't think she had the background and knowledge of psychology, so I used the title of psychology. Psychology is so affirmed by small events in life, unless it is a genius. Later, when I was seriously troubled by depression after giving birth to my second child, I used the internet to collect some celebrity stories and celebrity books. Growing up, Zhang Defen actually divorced several times and suffered from depression at the age of 40, which made me feel at ease. More celebrities or successful people are trying to explore themselves. When they encounter more difficulties, they release the courage to realize it, which has touched us and influenced us.
Friends, know other people's stories, know yourself and discover your own Excellence. Because each of us is working so hard, try harder!