Sister Lin said that her brother was broken up by his girlfriend because he refused to buy a house from her, because the woman said she didn't marry without a house. Therefore, the family unanimously said that Sister Lin ruined her brother's life, because after his brother was broken up, he wanted to die all day, so he stayed at home and ate to death.
Sister Lin said that it was ridiculous for her to hear these words from her family, because she felt that she had done nothing wrong and owed nothing to her family, so these words from her family were just self-righteous and had nothing to do with her.
Sister Lin said that she lived in that patriarchal family since she was a child and grew up with her mother's beating and scolding. She sacrificed a lot for her brother. For her younger brother, she dropped out of school to work, so that her younger brother can have a good future foundation. She couldn't choose marriage and was married by her mother at a high price, so Sister Lin thought she didn't owe her family at all.
Because my mother didn't give me a dowry, after she got married, Sister Lin had a particularly bad life. She is always laughed at by her husband's family and pointed at everywhere. Finally, Sister Lin worked hard by herself. After her career progress, she gradually gained the right to speak and won respect.
Sister Lin said that the suite that my brother wants to buy is now worth more than one million. At the beginning, they were all bought by more than 500 thousand. My brother said he wanted a house when he got married. So sister Lin discussed it with her husband, and soon begged and promised to make up for it. The husband agreed to sell the house to his younger brother for 500,000 yuan.
But who knows, after my brother came to the door that day, he said directly to Sister Lin: "Sister, this is 65.438+ten thousand yuan, and my mother asked you to sell the house to me!" ! After listening to her brother's words, Sister Lin felt particularly uncomfortable. "This house was bought for 500,000 yuan a few years ago. Why not just give it to you? " ! Sister Lin thought her words would make her brother speechless, but after listening to her words, she said, "Your family is so rich and not short of money. Shouldn't you help me?" You are my only brother. If I can't get married and pass on the fragrance, then our ancestors of the Lins will blame you, and you will be rewarded. "
It was also my brother's words that made sister Lin angry, so sister Lin pointed to her brother and said, "Get out of here, this house is not1100,000. Forget it. I have hands and feet, but I am so worthless. I don't have a brother like you! "
It was also Lin Jie's remarks that made my brother slam the door angrily and then went home to embellish and discredit Lin Jie, so there was a story that Lin Jie was called by his mother and scolded by his family.
Sister Lin asked me, "Is what she did right or wrong?" ? Because many relatives in her family said that she was ungrateful, she also called and said that even if her family had been unkind to her before, now that she has the ability, those people still have to help, so they should not be so rude.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with what Lin Jie did, because she has no obligation to help her brother for free. She is willing to help. This is her mutual affection. She doesn't want to help. This is also her duty. No one can make irresponsible remarks.
For this matter, it is not that Lin Jie is ruthless, but that Lin Jie's family is too dissatisfied and greedy, so they complain about others and have only themselves to blame, because Lin Jie has no obligation to pay for them for free.
Sister Lin's younger brother, as an adult, has hands and feet and a sound mind, but puts all the problems on Sister Lin, which has to be said to be really hopeless. Sister Lin's younger brother has a certain connection with his mother, who favors boys over girls and indulges him everywhere. Therefore, I often warn my parents around me that if they really love their children, they must learn to let them grow up independently, because "loving mothers often lose their children."
Therefore, all the crimes that Lin Jie's family gave Lin Jie were just their self-righteous ideas. Lin Jie's brother is like this, which is by no means caused by Lin Jie, but by his own incompetence, and has nothing to do with Lin Jie.
Sister Lin was advised to forgive her family. After all, blood is thicker than water. Since you have the ability, you should put aside all grievances and injuries, and then go all out to help your family, because the previous injuries have passed.
In my opinion, the people who can say these words are all people who stand and talk like it is easy. They just talk sarcastically. If this happened to them, they certainly couldn't do what they said.
Not retaliating against injury is the greatest tolerance for us, and we can never forgive it, because injury is injury, injury is on you, and pain is in your heart. Why should we forgive them?
They all say, "promote rice and fight rice for revenge." I think Sister Lin is particularly right, because the more she helps greedy parents, the more they feel that Sister Lin owes them, so she will only ask for more.
There is a psychological theory: "putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the basis of a happy marriage." So as a wife, sister Lin is not wrong, because she has to do that for her family.
I often warn the women around me: "If you get married, even if you take care of your mother's family again, you should pay attention to your family, otherwise you will harm others and yourself, and the loss will outweigh the gain."