This means that if someone asks to guess the age, they will generally say less; When someone buys a new dress and asks them to guess the price, they usually say it's expensive.
Why is this happening?
The first is to protect yourself.
The second is to make others happy.
In fact, this is the fundamental principle when others ask for advice.
When others have difficulty trying to figure out whether we agree or disagree with this solution, the first thing we should do is to protect ourselves first.
When people ask our opinions, they are actually not sure about their own ideas, and they may succeed or fail.
Then we have two opinions. One is to let others give up, and the other is to support him to continue doing one thing. Then I have to ask, does the success or failure of the other party have anything to do with myself? Is there any interest connection?
To put it mildly, is the relationship between the other party and us deep or shallow?
If we say something too much in a simple way, the other party will not pay attention to it, but will have an opinion on us. At this time, we must first protect ourselves.
Second, if it's for the good of the other party, and it hasn't started yet, no one knows whether it can be done. Should we support him or persuade him to give up and be good to him at this time?
Whether things can succeed or not is nothing more than personal efforts and external conditions. It can also be said that if an individual makes efforts and external conditions make him fail, he will also affirm himself and everyone will rationalize in the opposite direction.
And advised him to give up directly. Because it hasn't been done yet, he will regret it, and he will assume that if I had done it, I would have done it. To put it simply, I will take it out on the person who advised him to give up at that time.
This goes back to the question of our interests and feelings with this person.
So there will be, when people ask how old they are, they will say when they see clothes, and they will support when they see others want to do something. In other words, as the saying goes, when a husband and wife quarrel, they will not stop fighting with each other.
Because people don't want to take responsibility that doesn't belong to them.
So how can I give advice with very close interests and deep feelings?
This involves management.
Management lies in two decision-making methods, the first is rational analysis, and the second is sensory experience.
There is no difference between the two, just which one you are good at. Of course, the best way is to use both, and both can be used to make decisions to ensure more correctness.
Then you have to ask yourself, do you have the ability to make a decision? Is your decision correct?
If you have this ability, please give him a sincere answer after careful thinking.