Children's personality is related to heredity, but it depends largely on the acquired growth environment and parents' parenting attitude. The following situations may form a child's timid and introverted personality:
(1) Parents are too strict with their children and often ask them to behave like adults, leaving them at a loss.
(2) The family rules are so strict that some children are often not allowed to touch, play or even ask themselves what they are curious about. Over time, children get used to saying that schoolbags are drums. lt； BR & gt
(3) Parents are grumpy and easy to lose their temper with their children. Children are easily blamed and become cautious.
(4) Children are not adapted to the suddenly changing environment. For example, grandparents bring up children, and parents bring them up themselves. Children will become silent and introverted for a period of time because of their different parenting attitudes.
If the above situation does not exist, then the problem becomes simple, because children are very malleable, and it is often difficult for adults to change their attitudes.
First of all, let children play and study as easily as possible, with less criticism and more encouragement.
Careful parents must also know that children like to play with their peers best, so they might as well invite other children to their homes as guests. As a small host, she will be more relaxed and enjoy the fun with children.
When a child sees an unfamiliar friend hiding shyly, parents should never blame her, and let the child naturally experience each other's friendliness. After relaxation, children will become generous. Encourage children to speak loudly and tell stories at home at ordinary times. Parents and children should simulate kindergarten classes together. Parents should thank their children if they are willing to answer questions. I believe that such training can restore children's self-confidence.
Take children outside as much as possible, broaden their horizons and broaden their knowledge, so that children will be more confident and cheerful.
Don't spoil yourself at home.
Yao Xinli said that such "timid" children are not uncommon. They can express themselves confidently in a familiar environment, and dare to say and do things. Even if they make mistakes, they are not confined to Nuo Nuo. But once you are in a relatively unfamiliar environment or face strangers, you will completely "lose" your intelligence and dexterity, lack self-confidence, dare not express yourself, and are particularly afraid of failure.
Compared with "timid", "phenotypic" children are particularly afraid of life. The more people, the bigger the scene, the more wonderful their words and deeds will be. "The difference in courage is not only influenced by natural personality factors, but also related to family education and school education." According to Yao Xinli's observation, timid children often suffer too much at home.
Love and connivance, lack of contact with society, will inevitably make them have an unknown fear of public places and collective activities. Yao Xinli suggested that at home, parents should not let their children be too headstrong or do everything for them, but let them go at the right time and let them go to the society to see more.
Encouragement makes people brave.
Some children are not very good at getting along with others. When they meet their parents' acquaintances, they are always reluctant to take the initiative to say hello. They either lowered their heads, turned their faces to one side, blushed and said nothing, or simply hid behind their parents. Some parents "explained" to others: "This child is shy, not very talkative, and it is always awkward to meet guests."
Yao Xinli warned that parents should never label their children as "useless" or "coward", and blindly accusing them will only hurt him or her who has already felt inferior. When the child's performance is not ideal, parents should patiently comfort and encourage him: "Everyone will be nervous when they meet for the first time, and you will definitely speak better when you get familiar with your aunt." "It doesn't matter if it's not finished this time! Next time we continue to work hard, mom believes you can do it! " Give the child a warm and firm look at the awkward moment, and his (her) self-confidence will grow slowly until he (she) forgets the excessive shyness.
Don't worry.
It is also important to create a "stress-free" environment for timid children. "If you want a timid child &; Uot goes forward bravely &; Uot parents and teachers can't be too hasty. " When children don't want to get along with more other children, parents can't force them to play with them, because shy children prefer one-on-one communication; When children are unwilling to address other elders, parents should not be reluctant, because this may increase their fear; Parents should not intimidate children when they don't want to behave in front of guests, because doing so will aggravate their nervousness, and they will respond with more silence and rejection in the future, which will escalate their shyness.
At the same time, parents can also gently "push" with teachers to guide their children to participate in social activities and collective actions of their peers and cultivate their communication skills and skills. Give priority to encouragement, supplemented by promotion, and let children change from "two-faced" to "confident".