Ayong said: Only after the real divorce did he realize how wrong he was, how sorry he was and how sorry he was to his wife.
Ayong grew up in a single-parent family, and his father left early because of illness, so from the time he can remember, what he saw most was his mother's hard work, so he swore from Ayong that he would never let his mother be wronged and be a dutiful son.
Because of his poor family, Ayong worked hard and finally got into a good university. It was also during college that he and his wife met and fell in love. Ayong said that his wife loved him so much that even when she was in college, she gave birth to a child for him. She doesn't hate the poverty of his family. Even if she got married, she didn't want a bride price, so she decided to marry Ayong under the opposition of her parents.
After marriage, Ayong lived in the house his wife bought. He was embarrassed and lied to his mother that he bought the house. Although his wife knew about it, she didn't explain it, protecting his face.
Ayong said that at that time, my mother was particularly strong and unreasonable. Because my wife was not pregnant after two years of marriage, my mother found trouble with her wife everywhere, saying that she was ill and begged her not to drag him down. She quickly chose a divorce. At that time, although his wife was wronged, she still listened to him and put up with this mean mother-in-law everywhere.
Ayong said that at that time, he thought that as long as his wife got through this period and got used to her mother's words, she would no longer care. So at that time, he always advised his wife to let her make way for her mother, because her mother was old and couldn't stand it.
But who knows, before long, his wife asked him for a divorce, which made Ayong particularly afraid, so he tried his best to keep his wife, but in the end he failed to keep her, and she asked him to leave home clean. My mother didn't regret it at all when she divorced. Instead, she said to Ayong, "Son, don't go out clean when you divorce. You can't give her the house!" ! Hearing her mother's words, Ayong was very angry and shouted directly to her mother, "She bought the house. Stay away from me in the future, and my marriage will be gone forever! " ! It was Ayong's words that left his mother speechless.
Ayong said that until the divorce, his wife protected his face, so now he especially regrets it, especially blaming his mother, because in his view, the breakdown of his marriage was caused by his mother.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, although Ayong regretted it, he still didn't really understand his problem. The breakdown of his marriage was not actually caused by his mother, but by himself. It was because of his partiality and neglect of his wife that his marriage broke up.
Psychologists say that putting the relationship between husband and wife first is the key to a happy marriage.
Ayong's marriage broke up because he valued his relationship with his mother more than himself, which led to misfortune.
I especially don't understand that some men often say to their wives, "You should give more to my mother, because she is old, angry and will get sick."
I just want to ask these men: "Will your mother be angry and sick? Your wife is an iron man and will never be angry?"
Ayong's wife filed for divorce, but Ayong failed to keep her. All this is inevitable, because there is a process for women to leave men. When they have accumulated enough disappointment and despair, they will naturally choose to leave.
I often warn the men around me that it is a good thing for a man to have filial piety, but he must not understand it, and he must not base this filial piety on his wife's pain, because it is doomed to harm others and himself.
In my opinion, most of the mother-in-law problems in this world are caused by men.
If we want to completely solve the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we must let them have a little distance and never live under the same roof, because even the best mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have contradictions and disputes if they live together for a long time.
Take the Ayong family as an example. The reason why his mother was even more injured was because of Ayong's connivance, so she was unscrupulous. And Ayong's wife, she divorced because of Ayong's neglect and neglect, and she chose to divorce after complete despair.
So I often warn men around me that I must treat my wife well and regard her as the most important person. Because after she got married, she was really helpless. If you don't help her, then she is doomed to disappointment, and then she will gradually lose confidence in this marriage. Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished.