I think many women will be asked such and such questions. In fact, with the development of society, the situation of brother-sister love has been everywhere. 10 Among the couples, at least three or more are siblings.
I still remember in my early years, when I mentioned brotherly love, people would sigh that "the old cow eats the young grass". This old-fashioned concept makes many people afraid to take that step, even if they like boys a few years younger than themselves.
However, with the progress of the times, people's thinking and cognition are also improving. It is no longer a man's right to find someone younger than himself. Women can also compare their own small boys to "dare to love and hate". Women's love for their uncle has also become a thing of the past, and now women are trying to have a vigorous love affair with their little suckling dog and little brother.
The above data also shows that people nowadays are accepting and recognizing sibling love. Of course, whether in Tik Tok or on various social platforms, we can always see the post-80 s and post-90 s puppies get married, and they are also very happy after marriage. The marriage certificate also proves their strong expectation of brother-sister love.
Just like the previous Korean drama "Sister Please Eat", 29-year-old returnee Xu Junxi fell in love with 35-year-old Yin Zhener and became a little suckling dog in a second. When her sister was walking on the road, he rode his bicycle around her and saw her dancing in the office, his face full of spoil. When her sister was scolded by her boss, her brother comforted and encouraged her.
However, the love between brother and sister also has many setbacks. Just like in the play, my sister is entangled in her ex and can't stay with her all the time. Because of her age, she can't disclose her love and get everyone's blessing.
Many people say that it's really difficult to have a brother-sister relationship. It may not have a good result. It's really hard to get to the end. ...
Personally, I think these are all negative emotions, so let's just say that even if there is no brother-sister relationship, there are many breakups, so it has nothing to do with brother-sister relationship, but with people.
So what is the experience of brother-sister love? For those who can't "talk" about love, they are too tired, but for those who can fall in love, they can only say one word, and that is "fragrance".
? What do men think of their sister-in-law relationship? In love, my eyes are everywhere, sister.
Respondent, 27 years old: "At my age, there are many choices, but I just want to fall in love with my sister, because they have maturity and introversion that young girls don't have, and more charm that girls don't have."
I like my sister's calmness. They are smarter. They match me in values. In terms of "fighting with wisdom and courage", they make me feel more exciting, like dialogue with wisdom, and like the feeling of being led.
I think in the eyes of many young girls, the standard of choosing a spouse is to have money, a car and a house, and to find a stable dependence. This will make me very tired and feel that I shoulder a great burden every day, but I don't have this kind of trouble when I am with my sister, because my sister is very independent and has a certain foundation in both life and economy. Although love is a mutual effort, most young girls are looking for a meal ticket and falling in love with her sister.
They have a clear understanding of themselves, know their strengths and weaknesses, do not hide their weaknesses, and are not exaggerated. Unlike young girls who obviously look like themselves, they are narcissistic about marrying Prince Charming every day. Their sisters are more real, like their true temperament and dare to face their true selves. Moreover, they have the ability to pay, are willing to pay, and like to seek change in their lives.
When they fall in love, they don't need to find someone to support themselves, but more want to be happy and enjoy this relaxed life. So with them, I am also relaxed and happy, and I can also experience high emotional value and emotional satisfaction.
Life experience has enriched my life.
Respondent, 25 years old: "At my age, I can't get up, and my work has just started. I have little experience in life, society and work, but she is six years older than me and has more social experience than me. With her, I learned a lot and made me better and better. Most importantly, she will accompany me to do anything I like, even if it is not.
Because I am old and experienced, I will have a different perspective from mine. I see things in a single way, so I run into a wall everywhere because of my lack of experience. But under her guidance, I found that my path was too narrow and I didn't look at the problem objectively. She will correct me, list the problems one by one and patiently "teach" me.
In love, it is different from young girls. A younger girl just wants to take it, but she is different. She just wants to pay. Seeing her pay for me, I will naturally pay, unlike falling in love with a young girl and telling you how to be good to her, which will be very annoying.
The most important thing is that young girls compare themselves. They all seem to live in their own world. They don't know how to praise, let alone how to recognize, but she is different. She can always recognize and praise me when I need it, which will not only make me lose face, but also make me more and more motivated. With her approval, I also made good achievements in my work, all because of her efforts.
Facing the secular vision, there is indeed pressure, but I just want to be with her.
Interviewee, 32 years old: "She is four years older than me. Many people think I am qualified to find a younger one. Why choose a bigger one than me? But I think love has nothing to do with age. Moreover, she has a skill that most girls don't have, that is, she can switch roles back and forth in your life. For example, when I am frustrated, she is like a mother, giving me comfort when I am happy.
My peers will envy me for finding such a younger partner and a sister-in-law relationship, and even cast envious eyes on me. This feeling, for me, is like hunting a very precious "prey", which is very fulfilling.
Of course, many female friends don't think highly of our relationship, but there is a concept called "Romeo and Juliet" in psychology. The less we value us, the more we want to be with her, and the more we want to prove that our choice is right, we will be happy.
? So what is the experience of sister-in-law loving women? That's great.
Ms. Song said: "He comes to see me every day, and whenever he sees something I like, he will buy it back for me. His mind is very delicate. Obviously, I am six years older than him, but I think he is six years older than me and treats me like a child. "
Ms. Xu said: "I used to resist this little suckling dog, but when love came, I couldn't escape." Now we have been in love for four years, and although we have quarreled, he just spoil me. Every time I was angry, he looked at me with a wronged face, apologized, and then chased me and asked me why I was angry. He seems to keep asking questions. I used to be a bit of an avoidant personality, but now he brought me up. I have something to say. "
Ms Liao said: "He is younger than me 10 years old. At first, I didn't want to meet his friends for fear of being asked about his age, but he seemed determined to reassure me, taking me to various occasions every time, and boasting to my friends that I was old and sensible and knew how to take care of him. Later, we got married. This month after marriage, he took good care of me and made me
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The following screenshot of the chat is to disclose the chat records of some brothers and sisters and younger brothers with the consent of the parties.
Judging from the content of the chat, the younger brother in the brother-sister relationship is really sweet and salty. Do you want to have such love?
? Love has nothing to do with age, so the so-called sister-in-law love is only secular vision and arrogant words. As mentioned earlier, some people think that the relationship between brother and sister is unreliable. In fact, according to the investigation of relevant people, the little suckling dog knows better how to capture a woman's heart and is more intimate. It will make you feel more secure if the little suckling dog runs around you every day. As long as you are recognized, no one can enter the world of little suckling dogs. Although you grow up with his youth, as long as you have firm confidence and the way to manage your feelings, he will certainly give you brilliant flowers.
Older men are thoughtful and experienced. In his world, work always comes first. When you need him, he tells you that you are busy. When you want him to accompany you, he says you are busy. If you are a little unhappy, he will say, I have to work hard for a better life in the future. You should be wronged. At this time, women are basically sidelined.
However, many women who are financially independent now do not need to be attached to men, nor do they need to be lived by men, but are more inclined to love. I want love. On the one hand, my sisters are very attractive. On the other hand, the little suckling dog also needs such a sister to guide and enjoy the relaxation with her sister. The love between brothers and sisters is increasingly recognized and blessed.
? What should we pay attention to in brother-sister relationship? In fact, any love can not be separated from three points in management: sense of value, sense of certainty and uniqueness.
However, the love between brother and sister still needs to be supplemented, that is, there is a sense of worship for her.
In fact, simply speaking, it is to affirm the advantages brought by her age.
Some women with younger sisters-in-law in love often feel inferior because of their age, or because they don't match each other's mentality, they are afraid that they are the girlfriends they can't get rid of. So you have to change this situation and avoid making her feel that although she is older than you, it is of great benefit.
For example, when you get along, you should praise each other's wisdom and maturity, agree with her every decision, show great admiration for each other's brains and experience, and tell each other appropriately: "When you get older, you will have an advantage. You see, every decision you make is so wise. Those young girls can't catch up with you. I feel like I've found a treasure. You see, I am so much weaker than you, you can't leave me. "
In fact, many women in love with their sister-in-law pay more attention to the sense of security at the spiritual level. Sometimes they are swayed by considerations of gain and loss, or they are not confident and even worried about your future. This is all because of the uncertainty of self-cognition. To put it bluntly, it is the death threshold of age that has been hard for them.
Then you must affirm how important she is in your life from all angles, and let her have a place in your heart from your words, which is very important.
In fact, whether the relationship between brother and sister can last for a long time depends on how two people balance the age problem and some gossip and troubles brought by the age problem, but good love really has nothing to do with what love is, but it's all about men and women, right?
Don't feel that brother and sister are difficult, tired and have many obstacles. As long as you treat each other with your heart and hold the attitude that "the mountains and seas you love are flat", then your destination is happiness.
Do you want to know what your ex thinks of you? One-minute test, let you know what TA wants to say to you most:
1. Do you quarrel over trifles when you are together?
Yes, I often feel very tired-skip to question 2.
Rarely quarrel over trifles-skip to question 2.
Occasionally, but we can make up soon-skip to question 3.
2. Do you think you are a person who likes self-reflection and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes-skip to question 3.
No-Skip to question 4.
3.will 3. TA volunteered to tell you about her troubles?
Often say-skip to question 5
Not that much-skip to question 4.
Will you tell your parents the process of your love?
I often tell my parents everything-skip to question 6.
Occasionally, when they ask, they just say-skip to question 5.
There is almost nothing to say, nothing to say-skip to question 5.
5. How much energy are you willing to spend to get what you want?
Everything is mine, and it is mine after all-skip to question 7.
Try hard and you may succeed-skip to question 6.
Try my best to get everything I want.
6. Did you break up because there was a third party?
Yes. -a
No-skip to question 7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes -d
No-c
What's your final answer? Is it a, b, c or d?
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