Strong dedication to work, avoid getting married.
20 1 1 After returning to China, Lv Yuechuan, who studied in the UK for three years, focused most of his energy on his work and didn't think too much about his feelings. "The main reason for my return to China is that I hope to develop my career and maximize my own value. Families sometimes distract people and there is no way to put all their energy into their work. " Lu Yuechuan said. According to him, many returnees around him also share his views.
This mentality of "career first, then marriage" is particularly obvious among male returnees. For this phenomenon, Wang Guowei, the founder of Returnee Elite Network and Partner Network, gave another explanation: "Now many people, including returnees, think that they are in an unstable state before they have achieved anything in their careers. In addition, the cost of living in big cities is high. Faced with the dual pressures of life and work, they feel that they are still unable to support a family, so they have always held an evasive attitude towards marriage. "
Strong sense of superiority and high requirements for mate selection
The high demand for mate selection is also a reason for the increase in the single rate of returnees. In this regard, Wang Guowei said: "After all, overseas experience has broadened the horizons of returnees and enriched their experience. There is a potential psychological need, and I hope my partner can match it."
In this regard, Li Jing, a senior psychological consultant in Beijing New Direction Mind Growth Studio, believes that psychologically, the main problem of single returnees lies in their high sense of self-worth. "Returnees who are well informed will inevitably feel superior psychologically," Li Jing said. "But if they always hold this sense of superiority and even show a condescending attitude when looking for intimacy, they may encounter some obstacles."
All parties are keen on matchmaking.
In order to help single returnees find their emotional homes as soon as possible and solve their worries, all walks of life, including the government, enterprises and the media, have organized related activities to build a platform for their emotional exchange.
In August this year, Jiading Industrial Zone in Shanghai organized a large-scale single dating activity called "Heart Card", which attracted more than 100 people, among which returnees accounted for about a quarter. It is reported that the Jiading District Government has organized such single dating activities since the beginning of 20 10, once every quarter on average, which has been held for three consecutive years and has become a brand column of youth activities in Jiading Industrial Zone. Relevant departments also said that the organizers will adopt more fresh and diverse forms of activities to attract more singles to participate.
The media has opened up a new way for returnees to find love.
Nowadays, more and more people are looking for their other half through the media, such as dating websites, TV dating programs and so on. Wang Guowei's companion network is also committed to organizing various single dating activities for returnees. For example, in September 13 and 14, single friends' parties and travel activities in Beijing suburbs were held continuously.
Speaking of the idea of organizing this kind of single dating activity, Wang Guowei thinks: "This kind of offline activity is more of a demonstration, because the platform is relatively small after all, everyone is unfamiliar, and the success rate of holding hands is not high. We hope that through this form, more returnees can participate in online communication and find partners through the introduction of acquaintances and friends on the Internet. This method opens up a new road on the basis of tradition and has a higher success rate. "
The returnees' own mentality should be flat.
As for returnees themselves, Li Jing suggested that returnees should be calm and have a correct understanding and positioning of themselves; At the same time, keep an open mind and accept yourself and others with a more inclusive mind. This will make it easier to deal with emotional problems.