In the eyes of many people, this variety show is almost synonymous with "dog blood", but in the end, it will be found that after the dog blood side of all stories is torn apart, it is actually the word "regret".
In order to let the audience better understand the stories of each pair of high school students' parents, the program group invited young actors to restore them in the form of short films. At present, it is the story of Minya and Dong Yuan that causes heated discussion.
Mingya, a girl with a cute baby face, broke up with her ex-boyfriend Dong Yuan at that time, but one morning, Mingya suddenly felt abdominal pain, and because her physiological period was repeatedly postponed, Mingya decided to go to the drugstore to buy a pregnancy test.
The test result is a bolt from the blue for Mingya, who is still in senior three. The pregnancy test shows two bars. She is pregnant.
(The following is a short film shot by the program group to restore the real situation)
Minya went to Dongyuan at the first time, and it was embarrassing for two people who had already broken up to meet again, but for Minya, this side must be seen.
Mingya gave Dongyuan a pregnancy test stick showing two bars. Dongyuan didn't expect to see his ex-girlfriend again, but he was shocked to see two bars.
Dong Yuan repeatedly asked, "Are you really pregnant?"
This sentence made Mingya very angry. Mingya, who is young and full of energy, released malicious words: I didn't show you this for reunion. Just know, I'll take care of the rest!
Mingya's attitude is: abort the child.
Because at that time, as a senior three student, Minya was looking forward to her high school graduation ceremony and preparing for the college entrance examination. And she has an "empty sister dream". From time to time, she will look at the photos of flight attendants online. For Yu Minya, she wants to pursue her dream instead of having a baby as a mother.
But Dong Yuan repeatedly persuaded: "Min Ya, how can you get rid of (the child)? Didn't you hear the baby's heartbeat? "
As soon as this sentence came out, Min Ya, who had a firm attitude, began to hesitate.
Since then, Mingya has fallen into a difficult struggle. On the one hand, she really wants to be admitted to the university as a flight attendant, on the other hand, she doesn't know how to face the baby in her belly.
At the same time, Dong Yuan will send short messages from time to time to persuade Min Ya not to abort the child. In this case, Minya's life becomes more sad.
The most terrible thing is that these are only a small part of Mingya, who is pregnant with a baby in senior three.
For example, she has been keeping secrets from her parents (renting a house after living on campus) and talking to her mother about having children when she is not pregnant. Her mother said that high school students' pregnancy is really the end of the world, and whether to study or not is really worrying.
Seeing her mother's attitude, Mingya didn't know how to tell her that she was pregnant.
Mingya didn't tell her parents until she was eight months pregnant. Her parents were dumbfounded and her mother was in tears. Her dad picked up the guy and went to Dongyuan's house to discuss it.
Here is a scene of catching a horse. During the confrontation, the fathers of both sides were surprised to find that they were classmates whom they had not seen for many years.
The tense atmosphere was instantly relieved. Mingya's father was reluctant, but he was relieved to see his daughter's in-laws were his old friends.
Mingya's parents' attitude can be said to be "forced", and her daughter's stomach is already very big. If we want to abort the child now, Mingya's body will be hurt even more, so we have to let Mingya give birth to the child.
Besides her parents, Mingya has to deal with schools and teachers.
She needs to go to the birth check-up on time. In order to get out of school smoothly, she can only pretend to be sick, warm the baby on her forehead and pretend to have a fever. When the pregnant belly became more and more obvious, Mingya had to find various reasons not to wear school uniforms and loose sportswear to cover her stomach.
Mingya claims to be very lucky, because the expected date of delivery is in the winter vacation, which will not affect her normal campus life.
In the 28-day countdown to production, Mingya announced the news that she was pregnant and about to give birth on social software;
Before the end of the winter vacation, Mingya successfully gave birth to her son.
In the end, Mingya successfully graduated from high school and attended the long-awaited graduation ceremony. It was just her "empty sister dream" because the birth of her son was completely shattered.
Maybe everyone will feel good after reading this story. Mingya's life has not been ruined by "high school pregnancy". But this is not the case. The real horror is not in the surface, but in the details.
First of all, Min Ya and Dong Yuan broke up long ago, indicating that they had conflicts, but they had to get married again because they were pregnant.
The decision was made not because everyone solved the contradiction, but because a child suddenly appeared. Let's get married first for the sake of the child. Frankly speaking, this is irresponsible for the feelings of both sides.
Secondly, graduating from senior three is a fork in the road of life. Most people will go to college, and some people already have plans. Even those who have no plans for the future can have plenty of time to try and make mistakes, but there is not much time left for Minya and Dong Yuan. They need to find jobs to earn money. Whether they like it or not, making money from milk powder is the first priority for them.
Dong Yuan is a worker at present, and his work is not optimistic. At the same time, Dong Yuan has to go to military service, and he can't take care of his family for a year and a half, and his income is not much.
Even with the help of both parents, Mingya is responsible for most of the work with children. She is so busy that she wants to be divided into ten people every day.
Ironically, Mingya's eldest sister-in-law said that she envied Mingya because she gave birth to a child at a young age and came to her mother-in-law's house to help cook.
Mingya's mother-in-law agreed with this move and sighed, "Yes, where can I find a mother-in-law like me?"
Is it really happiness?
No, unfortunately.
When giving the children a one-year-old banquet, relatives and friends from both sides were present to congratulate them. Let's eat, take photos, tease the baby and get together. Only Mingya's mother couldn't help crying.
Mingya's mother is very honest, and it is sad to see Mingya's classmates, because those students have gone to college, felt a brand-new life, broadened their horizons, and gradually established their own values ... For these students, attending Mingya's children's first birthday party is one aspect of enriching life, but for Mingya, it is the whole of life.
Every time I see the difference in life between my daughter and other classmates, Mingya's mother will feel sad.
Yes, which mother doesn't want her daughter to have a broader life, which mother doesn't want her daughter to see a more exciting world, and which mother wants her daughter to wake up every day just to take care of the children, cook and change diapers?
This is the "regret" mentioned at the beginning of the article.
This is almost an irreversible regret. Once you embark on this road, you will be the mother of your child all your life. What you lose is your 20-year-old in the mood for love, and you will miss the future you have been sketching out.
In this program, in addition to regret, there is also the helplessness of being promoted to parents at a young age. Without much life experience and the ability to deal with emotions, facing the unknown brought by a child will only make you more confused.
In the program, a pair of 19-year-old high school students became parents. They thought it was easy to have children, but they were educated by reality again and again.
Their child was diagnosed with rhabdomyosarcoma after birth. After a long and painful treatment, the child finally recovered. Who knows that the tumor recurred at the end of last year, and this time it moved to the ears, chin and thighs ... Their lives were occupied by keywords such as children and treatment. They have become parents and have to take their children to the hospital again and again. To some extent, their future is their future.
On the surface, Parents of High School Students looks like a dog's blood in an unobstructed view, but every girl who is pregnant in high school and decides to have a baby has moved towards another life.
They have a label on them-mom. From then on, they will face a completely different life, not to deny life, but to complete the identity transformation without preparation, and meet them with unpredictable distress.
Boys are the same, but they are all lighter. They have never experienced the entanglement of pregnancy, the pain of making decisions, the difficulty of childbirth, and the hard work of taking care of the baby day after day.
So "Parents of High School Students" is really a dog blood variety show?
Maybe not. They took another road. They showed us a different life.