What do Americans think of puppy love?

However, in the eyes of Americans, the concept of "puppy love" simply does not exist. Let's take a look at the Australian-American study abroad series. For teachers and parents in China, "puppy love" is a scourge. Many domestic friends told me that they really want to send their children to study abroad after finishing the second day of junior high school, but they are afraid that their children will fall in love abroad, especially girls, and they are afraid that their children will suffer and learn badly. In fact, people in China are very sad: when they are teenagers, they are forbidden to make boyfriend and girlfriend, which is called "puppy love". When they arrive at university, they have no time to study and associate with the opposite sex. Four years later, they suddenly found that they were not in love, so they had to face the pressure of their parents: find one quickly! Especially for girls, if there is no news at the age of 25, they will go to Alexandria because it is not far from the saints. This is really unfair, anti-human! Americans don't have the concept of "puppy love" because "dating" and "falling in love" are two different concepts in the sex education curriculum of American primary and secondary schools. "Dating" means that men and women begin to associate and learn to get along with the opposite sex. It can be a group of men and women participating in an activity together, or a pair of men and women participating in an activity together. Dating boyfriends and girlfriends may have intimate actions, kissing, hugging and even having sex, but it is very important that dating has no commitment to marriage, and the main purpose is not to get married. Therefore, in middle schools and even primary schools, many students in the United States have boyfriends and boyfriends, and parents also encourage boyfriends to communicate with boyfriends alone. The school even arranged dances or "Valentine's Day Confessions" to encourage boyfriends and girlfriends to date. Americans believe that dating can help people learn how to get along with the opposite sex and learn to respect, tolerate, compromise and be responsible, which is an indispensable part in the growth of teenagers. If a person is married without three or five dates, it will make people feel that this person is a bit abnormal. Because dating is "learning to fall in love", parents are not worried that their children will marry this person or marry this person in the future; At the same time, breaking up is also common in love relationships, because breaking up at fifteen is better than breaking up at twenty-five. It is of great benefit to a person's personality growth and maturity to experience lovelorn and breakup from how old he is. The educational circles in China have been advocating the concept of "quality education" that does not exist in the United States. They think that American primary and secondary school students are free to do research and write papers every day, just like playing in a prestigious school, but they turn a blind eye to the practice of encouraging students to date and communicate in American primary and secondary schools, which is very beneficial to cultivating students' "quality". It's really puzzling. After many dates, the relationship between the two sides entered a mature stage, called "love", and then began to consider getting married. People in China often think that American men and women are very casual and free. In fact, most traditional Americans are very serious about love and marriage. A successful marriage is one of the signs of success for successful people. The freedom of relationship between men and women that China people see in the United States is actually their freedom to "date". When it comes to true love, everyone is very serious, because the purpose is to see if they can get married. After dating at a young age, men and women in American love can communicate in a very mature way and consider all issues of economy, emotion and future family planning. Can dating lead to side effects such as students' unintentional study or teenagers' pregnancy? Of course it will! However, because American society does not prohibit "dating", an absolutely forbidden "puppy love" behavior, but encourages it, students begin to learn how to deal with psychological and physical problems in dating from the health education class in the fifth grade of elementary school. For example, in the adolescent sex education part of the high school health education class I teach, I tell students in detail what kind of sexual psychology men and women have under the action of sex hormones, what is the process of sexual desire, what sexual behaviors they have, and very detailed contraceptive methods and where to get contraceptives; At the same time, I also discussed with my classmates in detail the relationship and behavior between men and women in dating, how it affects normal study, what benefits abstinence has, the types of sexually transmitted diseases and prevention methods. When students master more comprehensive, scientific and accurate knowledge than hearsay, the relationship between men and women (even the relationship between men and women) is no longer mysterious. Students who can date freely will only regard dating as a kind of motivation to urge themselves to study harder. If China people give up the concept of "puppy love", like Americans, girls can associate with boys at the age of eight or nine. In college, every girl has three or four boys. We can expect that the concept of "leftover women" will disappear completely, and China people will live more relaxed, more mature, more confident and happier lives.