"The condition of marrying me is that I am not allowed to bring my son, because the cost of raising a son in the future is greater than the cost of raising a daughter."
I was deeply impressed by a young single mother, Xiaomei, who was in her early thirties and was very beautiful. After divorce, she had a five-year-old boy. His son looks like a crayon Shinchan in a cartoon, and he is also very naughty. We introduced Xiaomei to many men with good conditions, but none of them succeeded. Later, she gave up on her own, saying that she didn't have to bother to introduce herself and was going to live alone with her son.
Asked why, Xiaomei said sadly, because she is young and good-looking, it is not difficult to find another one, but men are basically not allowed to take their sons on one condition. "Let me push the child to my elderly parents. I can't do this kind of thing, so I will do it myself. " Xiaomei said. "Maybe you haven't met the right one yet." I didn't intend to give up at that time, because I had helped several single mothers remarry and had a good life. "Are those people childless or have girls?" Xiaomei said.
At that time, I realized that, really, the success rate of single mothers giving birth to boys is indeed lower than that of girls. Why? "It's not because boys' education costs are high, so girls can almost get married, but for boys, I have to pay so much to help him find a job, buy a house and marry someone else's son ... forget it." Xiaomei said that more than one man said that.
"Boys are too unruly. I live and don't want to bury my happiness. "
Similar to Xiaomei's experience, John is also a single mother with a boy but two sons, so it seems more difficult to remarry. Now she has insisted on living alone with her children for ten years. Speaking of remarriage, John said that she had thought about it before, but later she gave up. In addition to what Xiao Lizi said above, I would like to add that boys are naughty and stubborn than girls, and they need to pay more love and care to win his heart and get a harmonious family. "I want to live, not so worried about dedication, and I don't want to bury happiness. It's terrible to think about it. "
John's words seem to tell the second reason why it is difficult for single mothers with boys to remarry, that is, boys have a stronger mind of "respecting their ancestors", which is not as easy to bring up and influence as girls, and needs more love and efforts. This will make men feel a little out of line.
In fact, I have contacted not only Xiao Meizi and these two single mothers with this situation, but also many of them are gentle and beautiful and have excellent conditions, but most of them would rather take their sons than let them be wronged because of remarriage. Besides, if I had thought about myself, I wouldn't have chosen to live with my son. Since I don't want to give my son to my biological father, how can I abandon my son because I remarried? Every one of them is a strong and brave good mother!