On the other hand, they should also realize that it will make people happy to believe in one thing and work hard to complete it. This part is the hardest. Parents and teachers should have a broader and deeper dialogue with their children, because these students don't believe anything at all.
Other children have dreams or believe in their own ideas, but they are not ready, so they don't take action. These are a group of idealistic children who have no execution. We call them "dreamers". They haven't developed enough knowledge, skills or experience. For these students, we should try our best to get them involved in some actions and let them make some contributions to the ideals they believe in, no matter what. At the same time, we should also help them learn to face and deal with difficulties and cultivate some work attitudes. They are actually very serious, but they need core skills to practice.
Among this group of dream catchers, some teenagers work very hard, get good grades in school, participate in activities inside and outside the school, play the piano, skate and so on, and are very busy. However, they haven't found the purpose or meaning they fully believe in, they haven't really realized who they are, and they haven't said to themselves, "I really like being a doctor or a lawyer." I know this industry and I just want to join it. " In other words, they don't have enough sense of purpose. As long as the child has been involved, learning in a constructive way, or trying to do many things. Although we can't promise to do anything yet, why not give our children more time to explore, discover and try? Because if you urge your child to make an immature decision, he won't thrive. Sometimes, parents need to be more patient and reduce their anxiety. If the child does nothing, it is very worrying.
If high school graduates really don't know which department to choose, parents can provide many choices, show their children the possible direction and guide them to meet many different people. But you can't say, "We decided that you should be a doctor. Children must be free to make their own decisions.
It's important to listen to your child's heart, but don't put pressure on him. Parents can't write life scripts for their children, and children must make important decisions by themselves. What parents can do is to help find many useful resources, encourage their children to try and give them a lot of emotional support, but when children have to make their own decisions, parents will stand aside.
There is an English proverb: "You can take a horse to the water, but you can't make it drink water. Parents must have such wisdom, otherwise the child will resist, even if he reluctantly does what his parents want to do, one day he will find that this is not me and this is not the life I want.