Personal career development is influenced by our surrounding environment, such as family, peers, neighbors, society, school, friends, relatives and other environments will affect our growth.
Peers play a special role in our growth process, especially from primary school to university, and even the influence of peers in the workplace will have a long-term impact.
The influence of peers on us is like "keep quiet, they are tall again in the spring breeze",
The influence of peers on us has both good and bad sides. If you know how it affects you, then it can better control this way of influence and turn it into a positive self-influence.
Paying attention to the influence of peers can also improve their awareness.
People of the same age began to influence you at a very young age.
An American psychologist did an experiment with his colleagues. Even if everyone has no corresponding skills, peers will influence each other. Many will exceed the teacher's influence on you.
This influence is carried out through social evaluation information.
People of the same age study together, play games together and get to know the interesting outside world together. Some opinions of peers will spread to each other as examples. You may think that peers have many similarities, and everyone has the same energy. You and your partner start to pay attention to comparison.
At this time, our growth goals are based on peers, such as running speed, academic performance and the types of games we play. If our colleagues can and you can't, they will put pressure on you.
The source of this pressure is that peer behavior is regarded as the standard of success. If your partner can ride a bike, but you can't, you may have doubts about your intellectual development. Whether you are timid or not, your partner may make fun of you for being slow or stupid, and make friends according to your interests and standards.
If you are afraid to take part in activities among peers, or behave badly, you may be alienated by your peers.
? In economically underdeveloped areas, areas with average or poor educational environment, peers will try some criminal or dangerous activities. Like taking drugs and going swimming by the river.
When we were young, there were several standards that could prevent us from entering dangerous activities, such as parents' standards, schools' standards and peers' standards.
If a peer adopts a dangerous standard that is not conducive to growth as a sign of success, their behavior will easily lead to aggression, leading to premature abandonment of school or inattention to school. And these dangerous companions will take their own standards as a sign of interest and success, and then affect the people around them.
Therefore, the principles of being a man and doing things instilled by family education and the standards of being a man and doing things instilled by schools are greater than the influence of peers, so we can obtain a good learning and growth environment.
Influenced by family education, some students have strong self-confidence and methods to avoid the influence of bad peers. If you are satisfied with your academic performance, you can focus on your academic performance and keep growing.
People who love learning generally hope to have a better environment when studying. Everyone helps each other and pays attention to silence. People who love efficient learning will in turn affect us, and at the same time emphasize that academic performance is the correct standard of success. In this way, if you have a chance to get a partner who loves learning and is self-motivated, you can improve your learning efficiency.
So when we were young, this influence was invisible, because our parents had little knowledge of self-regulation, so they rarely passed it on to their children, and how to resist bad pressure more effectively.
Some people with strong self-control, those who don't know how to deal with the pressure of bad peers, follow the bad peers, keep making progress, miss the time of growth, and finally give up their studies prematurely. Or because the field of concern is not the growth of knowledge, to engage in the work of big talents, or to engage in the work without technical content too early, or to misjudge that there is no education, knowledge can also thrive in this era with efforts and opportunities.
Premature diversion of attention lies in the fact that children do not develop bad habits such as not making progress and not doing business properly, which will have a lifelong impact on individuals, and it is difficult to win in the era competition of mass production of graduate students and doctoral students and obtain a high-quality life.
In the process of professionalization, high school students generally feel inferior to college students, and the negative personal evaluation caused by academic qualifications makes individuals feel even more incompetent. It is difficult to gain a higher level of self-confidence and efficiency in life.
If you are a parent now, you were similarly influenced when you were a child, but when you grow up, you need to know how to effectively reduce the negative influence of your peers.
There are several ways to reduce the influence of peers.
1. Stay away from bad companions. This effect will not be obvious in the short term, but it will be subtle in the long-term development process. As the saying goes, "Those who are near Mexico are black, and those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black"! When I was a child, I was told to reduce my association with these bad companions.
2. Take the initiative to contact, long-term contact with upward development companions, and ask them more.
3. Improve your self-control ability. Improve your professional knowledge. Evaluate yourself correctly.
What is said above has an important influence on our childhood.
When we grow up and enter the workplace after graduating from college, we will also be influenced by our peers.
This kind of companion is about the same age and has a big age gap.
This influence is different from that of childhood. For example, if your childhood is affected, you will give up your studies prematurely, or you will not be admitted to a better university, which will have a far-reaching impact on your personal growth.
The influence of colleagues and peers in the workplace is another scene. In childhood, companions were raised by their parents, but in the workplace, former "companions" needed to support themselves and their families by themselves.
? The influence in the workplace also has negative peer influence and positive peer influence.
I often receive such a case of workplace counseling, that is, the client works hard, his colleagues don't like him, and the leader is afraid that he will threaten his position and will also suppress him.
In childhood, we resisted the influence of bad companions. Due to the limitation of environment, we can't be completely divorced from the environment, and we can't be completely away from bad companions. Some companions gave up their studies prematurely. If you insist on learning from these people, you will stay away from them. When I grow up, I will still be restricted by my peers and superiors, as well as the work itself.
Therefore, personal growth does not depend on whether the environment restricts you, but on whether you can develop yourself in a restricted environment.
If you are weak, you can stay away from them on the one hand and influence them through your words and deeds on the other.
Never forget that you are not passively influenced by the environment, you can also change the environment.
When you grow up, it is better to choose a good environment and change it actively than to escape from the environment that restricts you.
In the era of artificial intelligence, only in an opportunity and limited environment, change the companions around you and change the environment, can we achieve real independence and growth.