1
I think of several references about "what goes around comes around in love". Let's start with the farthest one.
Yeah, it's me. The first love was met when the school organized an internship. At that time, everyone was still naive, had no social experience and lived in different places. After work, there happened to be a caring person chatting and encouraging each other, feeling very appreciative of each other's misery loves company. By the end of the internship, I was no longer the person who "went to the heart of the motherland to feel the pulse of the motherland". I just left the imperial city.
When I came home and confessed everything to my parents, my parents resolutely opposed it, especially my father, and asked me very gently, why should I be with that boy? I said he was very kind to me, my dad. Hehe, who do you think is getting married instead of finding someone who is good to himself? Being good to yourself is only the most basic. Besides being nice to you, what else do you admire and like about him? I came up with another tall and thin one, 178, 108 kg. My dad was speechless when he heard it. Is this unhealthy? I've been thinking about it, and it suddenly occurred to me that, indeed, nothing seems to attract me except his kindness to me.
Obedient to my parents, I said goodbye to him. Boys are dead set, and their weak bodies are even more overwhelmed. He dragged his sick body to see me at school by train ... but I've made up my mind, so why did you do it? Boys quit each other's lives after several twists and turns.
It is this conversation between my father and me that makes me understand that being kind to myself is only a necessary condition, not a sufficient condition. In your life, you will meet many people who are good to you, but you will only choose to be with one person.
2
Well, the hero of the second story is still me.
Yesterday, I brushed my circle of friends, and my first love came to see me at school with a train ticket, saying that it used to be beautiful Balabala ... I swept by and thought that you were the father of a two-year-old child. Why do you have to do this? You decorate and design in the sunny south, and I will sort out the report in the cold winter in the north. The distance between us is more than 25,000 Li when the Red Army was on the Long March. ...
Now that I think about it, my first love was quite firm, but I never left. Of course, I wouldn't have thought that my second relationship was a portrayal of karma.
After breaking up with his first love, he was busy with his studies for more than two years and remained "strong and independent" outside the province. When I graduated, I met my predecessor who loved basketball, outdoor and cars. In my uncle's words, it opened a window to another world for me. With my ex, I turned all my previous hobbies into my own. Go to see the Super League, CBA together, cheer for your favorite players, laugh at the away rookie together, buy mountain bikes together, ride bikes together, play ball together ... Of course, being the source of hobbies is actually your inner love. Who let the water bottle who likes fresh excitement meet the shooter who likes to play?
In this way, I still lost to "Ma Baonan". My predecessor's house and decoration are all funded by his mother. Strength was his mother's style when she was young. In the eyes of his predecessor, his mother gave him everything, so he had to listen to her anyway. My ex's first girlfriend broke up because her ex-mother said she was too short. When we were here, a difference between urban and rural areas (my hometown is the countryside), Ma Baonan's predecessor once again obeyed his mother's meaning, and finally calmly said to me: "You are too unrealistic, I would rather find a realistic girl ..."
Shit, girl, I'm not realistic. I was wrong, okay? This is your farewell speech when you finally broke up. Thinking about the beauty and dedication of more than a year, I was immersed in deep pain, which is definitely the second biggest setback I have encountered since I was born ... I forced a smile at work, diluted my inner pain with my work, but I cried when I came home from work ... My girlfriend didn't like her decadent appearance after work and the former love rat who should be "chopped to pieces" and called me to "break up". ...
Fortunately, everything survived, although I lost ten pounds in two weeks. After breaking up, I met my present job about half a year ago, and I have a tacit understanding of my present job and am very happy. My predecessor knew it and sang a song "Little Lucky" with deep affection and gave it to me. I called in the middle of the night to say I regretted it, but it's over. After all, you can't find anyone better than me. ...
three
The protagonist has finally changed, not me, but my predecessor.
When we broke up, my predecessor said a lot of hurtful things, and I was immersed in pain and couldn't get up for months. When we came out of that shadow, we still kept our contact information. I choose to let go, have my own principles, and be as familiar and unfamiliar as a friend. Thank you for accompanying me through the days of mutual support after graduation. I don't want the people who have been with me to die of old age.
I still remember when my predecessor finally broke up, he said, "You are so unrealistic. I'd rather find a realistic girl. " After breaking up, my predecessor "realized his dream" and found a realistic girl who loves money and lives freely. Even my predecessor felt like a spare tire when he was with her. The girl probably took a fancy to her predecessor's good job, with a house and a car, but she didn't seem particularly satisfied, so she kept a distant relationship with her predecessor. After the ex had a girlfriend, she was so sweet that she was afraid that the whole world would not know. In the circle of friends of girls, apart from buying advertisements or buying advertisements, every contact is initiated by the predecessor, and girls love to ignore it. There was no contact between them for two or three days. The two families are two kilometers apart, and they barely meet each other on weekends. ...
My ex poured me bitter water and asked me if my girl's behavior was abnormal. Is she a spare tire? I smiled and said you deserved it. You should be glad to finally find a realistic girl. You thought I was unrealistic at first, but now you understand, so you deserve it ~
This is the predecessor of Ma Baonan. When she was together, she gave a promise of marriage with a runny nose and tears, and exposed Ma Baonan's true face in front of reality ... After reneging, she continued to swear that she could not find a girlfriend this year, and threw out all kinds of sweet mountaineering photos with her current girlfriend within a week, and even changed her avatar to a group photo. This is for fear that the whole world will not know.
How glad I am that I didn't go to the end with you, as the book said, thank you for leaving me. ...
four
Another hero, a college classmate.
Ming Ge, a college classmate, tried her best to catch up with the beautiful Li Jie, two children from a single-parent family, and enjoyed each other. Ming Ge dotes on Li Jie in every way. In the year of college entrance examination, they agreed to continue their studies together and get married when they finished their studies. Unexpected things happened. Li Jie, who had no pressure, failed the list, and Ming Ge was firmly admitted. Sister Li is going to apply for a job, and Brother Ming left Fengtianfu and went to the Yalu River. At that time, my good friend Y and I continued our studies in Fengtianfu. Y is Ming Ge's former roommate and brother, which stems from our good relationship with Ming Ge. Sister Li is also a thief, and she loves to whisper more than her best friend.
Sister Li goes to see Brother Ming by the Yalu River every weekend, knowing that he eats, and every time she saves her salary for Brother Ming as living expenses; In order to have enough travel expenses and make Brother Ming's life better, Sister Li works as an English tutor for three children after work. It gets dark early in the northeast and it is cold in winter. In the cold night, Sister Li moved between several children's homes, reluctant to take a taxi and stamped her feet at the bus stop. ...
Brother Ming broke up with Sister Li when he came back from his winter vacation at the end of the first semester. When they were deeply in love before, our audience couldn't help it. We have to make peace without thinking. Knowing the reason, we are stupid. Brother Ming cheated on me. This is a great blow to sister Li. I have seen Sister Li several times since then, but every time I have dinner with Sister Li, I always feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. On the one hand, Brother Ming is my classmate and good friend, on the other hand, we have always been familiar with Sister Li ... We can't help calling Brother Ming heartless in front of Sister Li. ...
Three years later, I still haven't completely got over that failed relationship. I feel distressed and conflicted ... I contacted my friend in college the other day, and my friend told me that Brother Ming broke up. Hearing this, Brother Ming broke up again? Why? "that girl cheated me" ... my first reaction at the moment I heard it was karma, which was simply karma. The little friend is right, even Brother Ming himself said so. ...
I have met people who are dead set and don't know how to love. They are determined to part ways with others. When I thought I was dead set on meeting true love, I was rejected by others. At the beginning, my predecessor blamed me for being unrealistic, and finally I got a realistic girl, but I was immersed in the trouble of "I am a spare tire" all day; College students betrayed love and cheated each other, but when they got married, they were cheated by each other ... who said that love has no karma? I think the cause and effect are very clear.
In fact, this truth is clear, and many things have passed. Whether abandoned or abandoned, you or the other person may relive your pain at that time in later feelings. Although it is not absolute, I am finally a little alert or relieved to think so. In feelings, don't do anything that hurts your lover. Not afraid of "retribution"? Cherish what you should cherish, even if you can't get to the end, it's good to get together and leave.
Don't tell me how I became what you like after breaking up. Seeing this sentence, I am puzzled and disgusted. Why should I become what you like after breaking up? Who are you? I just want to be happy, live better and better ~ become what I like? Psycho!