1, keep exercising. Continuous exercise makes people feel happy. Long-distance running is the most important exercise for willpower. The goal set at the beginning of school is 5 kilometers. If you can't finish the first week, keep walking. After three months, it has reached 10km. If conditions permit, please try to keep running.
2, practice copying books. For a long time, I couldn't sit down and read quietly. After turning over a dozen pages, I began to lose my mind unconsciously, or I didn't have the patience to watch any more. My method is to clear my mind, find a poem or a famous saying, and sit at my desk and copy it every day when I am free. At that time, I copied Wang Xizhi's "Preface to the Lanting Pavilion" first, without much effort and brains. I think it is very suitable for gradually improving my concentration, and it is also a good way to calm my heart.
3, abandon useless social interaction. I am afraid that my friends will invite me to dinner, or my family will go to dinner together. I don't know how to express myself normally in front of people. Later, I figured it out. Since only a few people feel anxious at a time, try to avoid taking part in such activities first. Then I started reading the newspaper and looked at my expression in the mirror to make myself confident. This process is very painful, so it stopped after a month ... I don't think having many friends is life, just having three or two good friends is enough, and I will keep other appointments selectively.
If economic and time conditions permit, take her to travel. Let her plan her own itinerary and accommodation, which is a very tricky thing. More importantly, when she meets all kinds of people on the road, she will find it easy to tell them what she is usually embarrassed to say, because she knows that she will never see him again after today. What are her happy, unhappy, proud and inferior feelings? Talking to strangers in a strange place is very different, and it will also make you more aware of what kind of person you are.
I just think too much. These are all my own methods, I hope I can help you. I have also experienced the feeling that every day is gray, which is really bad. I hope she can stick to it, step out of the gray sky gradually, and radiate sunshine that infects others from her heart.
It should be caused by parents' laziness and school education, which did not boost students' enthusiasm for life.
People close to Zhu Zhechi are black, and those who follow them will become what they are now. The children's parents and teachers are old-fashioned, both otaku and otaku. Such parents and teachers can also bring out a good student full of energy!
The train runs fast all by the front, and the front climbs the hill, but the carriage doesn't run fast. Parents should always arrange them to do meaningful things and fully mobilize their enthusiasm for life.
For example, visit the science and technology museum, travel to the suburbs, visit the surrounding mountains and rivers, go to restaurants to eat food every week, go to the gym to keep fit, play games in the park, go shopping and so on. , can fully mobilize children's enthusiasm for life.
A 14-year-old child is not depressed yet.
But this information alone is not enough to make an accurate judgment. But we can do some general analysis.
In my opinion, even if the family environment is good and there are many people to accompany, it does not mean that children are really accompanied effectively. As adults say, familiar strangers, the loneliest people in the crowd and so on. And this loneliness is often more hurtful.
This kind of pretend companionship and attention not only makes the child learn, but also gradually excludes her inner motivation for things in life and study.
However, as long as children are still interested, even if they are interested in why they are bored, there are ways.
Start with the things that children are interested in, and let her find her love for life again.
There is such a case, Beijing No.11 Middle School played a virtual economy game, and a child in the school was rebellious, a little rebellious and antisocial. When he was a teenager, he was studying Hegel. He didn't really understand it, but he was also curious. In the virtual economy game, I found that he likes saving money very much, in the teacher's words, he is very obsessed with money. From this incident, he began to study economics, then corrected his outlook on life and values and changed his learning attitude.
I think adults should seek solutions from the depths of children's hearts. The hard part is what adults do. Capable.
I recommend that you can use gamification thinking. There are related books. This will let parents know what endogenous motivation is and how to mobilize their children's endogenous motivation.
I hope my answer is helpful.
In this case, I specially wrote an article, which mainly means that such children are not depressed, but have made themselves boring.
It is said that the age of 14 should be full of vigor and vitality, but some children are unhappy and have no vitality. Why? An energetic child needs two positive factors, one is the motivation of life and the other is the goal of life. If there is no motivation and goal in life, a person will stagnate, and so will children.
If you want to have motivation and goals in life, you need parents to give their children appropriate guidance, praise and encouragement, set small goals, and then take big goals to guide them to be motivated, interested and interested in learning and life, and create their own future. If parents fail to do this, or all kinds of omissions, coupled with the inertia and willfulness of children themselves, it is easy to appear the current situation. He doesn't want to go out, he doesn't want to do anything, he doesn't feel fun, he is bored and his mood is not high. It looks like depression, but it's actually depression. What should I do? Need to rekindle the dream of life and move, but he has developed the habit of inertia and can't move. What should I do?
If we really want to solve this problem, we need parents and children to fully negotiate, make great determination, and have the courage to cut off the wrist and cure the poison before making measures.
Strengthen communication with children, understand the problems and difficulties children encounter in life and study through teachers or classmates, and encourage them more.
Go for a walk in nature, breathe fresh air, blue sky and white clouds, green mountains and green waters, and feel the little beauty in life.
Read a book, draw a picture, listen to a song and relax. Look up at a ray of sunshine, warm yourself and forget unhappy things. Life is beautiful because it is simple.
Everyone is born with her interest and destiny, but it is often erased in the process of education and training.
In particular, the standard for evaluating a child now often only depends on grades.
Trust children and give them more space to play freely, such as letting them go out with their classmates and attending summer camps.
In short, if people are bound too much, they will be very painful.
This problem appears at the age of 14, and parents need to reflect.
Is it too much to ask for more? Does the child have any desire that is often refuted? Another possibility is that the blood supply to the brain is insufficient after being frightened. You can pat her vest gently to restore blood supply to her brain.
14 children are really not interested in anything? Or are you interested in something other than her?
At this age, she has her own heart. She is busy in the field. If you know her daily habits carefully, you can find her inner world and help her go out as soon as possible and face a richer world.
What should I know about children's hobbies? What are your interests? Only by finding children's hobbies can students calm down, don't bind children, let them do what she likes, cultivate children's hobbies, exercise their hands-on ability and let them do what they like.
Whether there is depression, it is recommended to seek the help of psychological practitioners.
Zhu 'ai Psychological Counselor Deng Jiao