Really smart people know how to be flexible and can't do one-track things. Being a man, doing something, not doing something, being a good person is nothing.
People who are too stubborn are actually "not wise enough", but they don't realize that they often have the following characteristics.
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I know a little about things, but I stubbornly think I know everything.
The Analects of Confucius wrote: "Knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, but knowing."
No one can know everything about society very well, only one or several aspects. Few people are proficient in 360 lines. Even Zhuge Liang, a wise man who knows astronomy above and geography below, cannot accurately predict what will happen in the future.
When a person thinks he is a "saint", he often makes a stubborn mistake. Slowly become a "one-track mind" in the eyes of others.
I once read a joke: a kind-hearted man picked up a poor turtle and deliberately drove it to the seaside to set it free. However, the tortoise never wants to swim into the sea, and always doesn't want to leave the side of good people. The good-hearted man was moved by the tortoise and thought that the tortoise was a human being and had something to do with himself.
Good-hearted people took the turtle home to raise it for a while, and everyone said their fate with the turtle. A guest came home, saw the turtle and said, "This is a freshwater turtle. It is injured."
Seeing this, I suddenly understood that the good-hearted people mistook the freshwater turtle for a turtle, but they actually made a mistake of insufficient cognition.
The wisdom in the world needs us to learn all our lives. If you don't want to learn, you are arrogant or stubborn, which is not good for yourself.
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I did something wrong and still don't want to repent.
Wrong is wrong, right is right. People are not saints, and everyone makes mistakes. If you simply regard mistakes as the right thing, then you are "self-indulgent"
Smart people are often modest. Even if they are sure of something and do the right thing, they are willing to listen to other people's advice. Maybe the problems pointed out by others can help you master more "tricks".
There is still room for improvement in doing the right thing. No one can think that he is "perfect".
Making mistakes is an important experience for a person, and it is also a process of increasing experience. For example, in school, we always make mistakes and then correct them in time under the guidance of teachers. When correcting mistakes, we have a feeling of "suddenly realizing".
Stubborn people, like those who drive a carriage in the idiom "Do the opposite", the harder they work, the less they can achieve their ideals. If you stick to the wrong direction all your life, you are doomed to accomplish nothing. I live very tired, but "tired" is meaningless.
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Unwilling to accept other people's advice, thinking that others are "jealous of him."
Someone said, "There are many people who can't see you these days."
This sentence is right, because when a person is getting better and better, he will often be envied, and even someone will secretly drag you into the water and make a fool of yourself.
However, treating people around you as "enemies" is an overly stubborn performance.
In everyone's life, there are always a few people who really want you to be good, and there are always people who give you pertinent advice. For example, your parents must want you to get better and better. When you make achievements, remind you not to be proud. When your life is down and out, they will suffer with you and help you selflessly. And your lover, brothers and sisters, close friends, good girlfriends, etc. I hope you will have a better life.
Smart people are good at making friends, will listen to other people's suggestions with an open mind, and will carefully distinguish between good and bad suggestions. Choosing reasonable suggestions and carefully implementing them can often help you avoid detours and stop losses in time.
Being humble and seemingly "weak" and being led by the nose is actually "making good use of the wisdom of others" and giving full play to one's own strength.
My college classmate Lao Wei started his business from the day he left school. He chose to open a bar, but the city where he lives has a small population, so it is difficult for bars to become popular. It was suggested that he should open a hotel, and then attract more drinkers with fine wine. Lao Wei thought it was feasible, so he turned the bar into a small hotel and made a big counter to show his "fine wine". Soon, Lao Wei made the first pot of gold in his life.
As the saying goes, "A gentleman keeps pace with the times."
Knowing how to listen to other people's advice can better seize the opportunity. If you are too stubborn to listen to any opinions, you are actually blocking the wisdom of others.
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If you don't like learning, it's hard to accept new things.
Gorky said, "The more you read, the stronger and braver your spirit will be."
Reading is not just reading a book, but also taking society as a book and work as a book. Only by studying persistently can we understand the society, improve work efficiency and improve our own temperament.
The times are progressing, so should people's thinking, otherwise they will be eliminated. Those stubborn people think they have learned enough, but they don't know that they are behind the times.
For example, when a man in his fifties opens his mouth, he says, "I am old, and the future belongs to young people. I can't help it." Talking like this is "seniority", without realizing that you need to make progress and have the opportunity to change your destiny.
There is a 50-year-old colleague in our unit who can't work with a computer. No matter who teaches him, he won't learn. Whether he writes a report or insists on writing it by hand. Although he is conscientious and responsible in his work, his work efficiency is really not flattering.
Be a man, stick to what should be adhered to, change what can be changed, and never be single-minded in everything.
There is a saying that "nothing can be broken." Only those who dare to break the lifestyle can expand the lifestyle and bring forth the new.
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