Knowing that menstruation was ill, I quickly took time to go back to my hometown. Then I bought some nutrition with my mother and caught two chickens, ready to visit menstruation's house in her village.
To my surprise, my aunt's only daughter, my cousin Wen Wen, is also at home. However, Wenwen's whole state looks very poor, and the thick foundation can't hide her fatigue, which shocked me.
When Wenwen was cooking in the kitchen, menstruation frowned and took his mother's hand, almost crying.
From my aunt's mouth, I probably know my cousin Wenwen's current predicament, as well as my aunt's worry and blame.
To put it bluntly, on the one hand, menstruation is distressed that Wen Wen is over 40 or a person. On the other hand, menstruation also blames Wen Wen for not being sensible, blaming Wen Wen for not knowing how to save money when he was young, and being picky when looking for an object, so that Kelly doesn't even have an object now, and even makes the villagers see jokes.
What worries my aunt most is that Wenwen's marriage has not yet been decided. Recently affected by the epidemic, I lost my job. It can be said that the house leaks and it rains all night.
02
To tell the truth, I don't feel good when I hear my aunt complaining to my mother and praising my good life.
Speaking of which, my first job was introduced by Wen Wen. At that time, I just graduated from technical secondary school and went to Shenzhen to work as a personnel assistant with Wen Wen. It is thought that she opened the back door and recruited me into the factory.
I remember that the factory provided accommodation at that time. At first, my monthly salary was only 800 yuan. To my surprise, just a few days after my first month's salary was paid, Wenwen borrowed money from me.
I was surprised at that time, because Wenwen's salary was 1500 a month, which was much higher than mine. Before I borrowed money, I asked her if there was anything urgent.
I didn't expect Wenwen to laugh and then point to my work clothes. Laugh at me like a village girl. I don't know how to buy some good clothes to dress up after I get paid.
Later, I learned that Wenwen's monthly salary was not enough for her to spend. Although her salary is ok, the clothes she bought have no brand and cosmetics are not needed. This makes Wen Wen a famous critic in the eyes of colleagues, and also makes her a veritable "moonlight family".
03
Wen Wen and I have worked in the same company for five years, and the salary has not been high. But I saved almost 65,438+million by saving money and doing part-time jobs occasionally.
Although Wenwen's salary is higher than mine, because she goes to Hong Kong to buy a bag or some lipstick cosmetics from time to time, she basically makes ends meet every month, and even owes a lot of credit card bills.
I remember one year Wenwen and I went back to our hometown for the Spring Festival. At that time, the house around the county was only 3,000 yuan, which can be said to be very favorable.
To this end, I quickly took a fancy to an 86-square-meter house and paid a down payment. When Wenwen learned that I had bought a house, she was not only unhappy for me, but also sarcastic. It is said that buying a house is a man's business, and it is a business for women to dress themselves up beautifully. Besides, there is no reason for women to buy a house before marriage, so it is meaningless to find a man.
04
Because I got married and had children, I changed my house, bought a car and had a second child, and my relationship with Wenwen became less and less.
Occasionally, I heard from menstruation that Wen Wen had returned to blind date.
For example, when Wen Wen dated a young man one year and learned that his monthly salary was only 8,000 yuan, Wen Wen was so angry that he embarrassed the boy on the spot. It is said that his monthly salary is less than 1000, and he still has the courage to go out on a blind date.
On another occasion, Wen Wen met a family businessman on a blind date, and both sides were quite satisfied. It didn't take long for the boy to break up. The reason is that Wenwen spent a lot of money, which is not like living alone.
After that, Wenwen made 10 blind dates. But every time, either she looks down on others or others look down on her. Drag yourself into your early 40 s every year.
For Wen Wen's picky in blind date, relatives at home occasionally gently remind Wen Wen. Tell her not to set her sights too high. After all, it is definitely wrong to pay attention to appropriateness, be down-to-earth and spend money lavishly. After all, everyone lives in an ordinary family, and no one is stupid.
I don't quite agree with this article, or even like it. Because in literature, men should earn money to support their families and women should be beautiful.
05
Wen Wen borrowed 3000 yuan from me on WeChat, and for the first time he was honest with me about his inner regret and anxiety on WeChat.
Wen Wen said that the objects introduced to her recently are basically men who are second-married, and occasionally there will be second marriages. Don't talk, they all know that the conditions are definitely not much better. This makes Wen Wen more and more disappointed and afraid of blind date.
What makes Wen Wen unable to eat or sleep well is that I feel that I have at least a guaranteed income after staying in the company for so many years.
But because Wenwen didn't improve herself over the years, she only knew that buy buy bought it. Now the company's business is shrinking, and she has become the first batch of laid-off employees, even losing thousands of dollars a month.
To be honest, when I heard Wen Wen, I felt sorry for her. But who can blame all this? Here, I would also like to remind readers:
(1) If you have food in your hand, don't panic, and get into the habit of compulsory savings after work.
It is said that there are accidents everywhere in life. I don't know when I will encounter such misfortune as unemployment, lovelorn love and sudden illness. And how to minimize the risk and tide over the difficulties smoothly, the most important point is whether there is enough money in hand.
You know, although money is not everything, you can't do anything without money. As an ordinary person, it may be difficult to be rich or expensive, but after work, forming the habit of saving regularly and saving a sum of money regularly every month should become the conscious consciousness of every adult.
(2) Don't just learn to buy in buy buy when you are struggling.
I remember Cai Kangyong once said, "When you were 65,438+05 years old, you found it difficult to swim, so you gave up swimming. At the age of 65,438+08, when you meet someone you like and ask you to go swimming, you have to say "I can't". 18 years old, found English difficult and gave up English. At the age of 28, I have a great job and need English, so you have to say "I can't". The more troublesome you are at the beginning of your life, the lazier you are at studying. The later you go, the more likely you are to miss people and things that interest you and miss new scenery. "
Everyone knows that it's cool to buy in buy buy, and everyone knows that it's easy to have a complete family and not be hungry. But life is like this, the easier it is in the early stage, the more tired it is in the later stage. And if you work hard in the early stage and lay a good foundation for your career, the rest of your life will be easier and easier.
(3) Marriage is two people fighting side by side, not a woman looking for a backer. It takes two people to work together and cheer together.
Nowadays, women receive higher education like men, and they are equally divided in the workplace. It's time to abandon the backward concept of "marry Han, dress and eat".
For modern women, getting married should not mean looking for a backer. But like partners, we should help each other in life, support each other in career, resist risks and make life prosperous.