In fact, good popularity can be changed through the efforts of the day after tomorrow, and the following points can be improved:
1, listen without opposing each other's views?
My cousin likes to express his opinions and doesn't want to listen to others, but on the contrary, I am willing to listen. Listening will make others very comfortable, make them chat or have a good time, and sometimes they will be happier than you invite him to dinner, and will also enhance their goodwill and leave a long-lasting good impression. If you don't disagree with the other person's point of view, everyone hates those who disagree with you. My cousin just likes to work against people, which can be improved.
If you want the other person to like you, don't object to any of his opinions. Even if you have it, you should affirm it before denying it and say, "Well, I agree with you, but is it possible …?" This will make the other person much more comfortable.
2. Don't show off and cause psychological imbalance of others?
My cousin is young, so he is keen to show off now. But this is an act of losing goodwill. I think you should be patient if you don't show off, because it is difficult for ordinary people to buy luxury goods or good cars to satisfy their vanity. This need not be elaborated. For example, if you have a mobile phone with a price of 1000 yuan in your hand and the other party has a mobile phone with tens of thousands of dollars, it is difficult for you not to be jealous and keep a psychological balance.
3. Don't complain about transmitting negative energy?
Cousin is a disseminator of negative energy, but a person with good popularity must be a disseminator of positive energy, a person who complains about unfair fate, unsatisfactory career and depressed atmosphere all day. After you get close to him, you will be assimilated, complaining and depressed all day, just like people will stink if they stay in the toilet for a long time. We should be the kind of people who will get "fragrance" if others stay with us for a long time. My cousin likes to transfer his negative energy to me, which makes me particularly annoyed.
4. Don't be a good teacher and guide others?
If you want to get good popularity, you must never interfere in other people's lives and never point fingers. But my cousin is a person who likes to teach others lessons and point at my life, which makes me very uncomfortable.
There are always people who say what you should do, what you can't do and so on. Pointing is annoying. They think they are knowledgeable, and they are right. Everyone is drunk and I wake up alone. My cousin likes to interfere in other people's lives, but no one likes to be taught and guided. I have heard a lot of teachings since I was a child, but everyone has their own different pursuits and ideas. No one is qualified to judge other people's lives. All you have to do is understand.