Educational relations
Educational relationship is the most basic form and core of teacher-student relationship. teacher-student relationship
The educational relationship between teachers and students is produced in order to complete certain educational tasks. This relationship is based on the educational process itself, based on the investigation of the different tasks and positions of teachers and students in educational activities, and explains the relationship between them in the educational sense. Generally speaking, in educational activities, teachers are promoters, organizers and researchers, while students are generally participants and learners, and at the same time they are the masters of learning and the subjects of self-education. This form of relationship does not change with the subjective attitude of teachers and students, but is determined by objective conditions, and is manifested in the positive activities of teachers and students. The establishment of educational relationship first depends on teachers' educational level, and is directly subject to teachers' professional knowledge, educational skills and personality strength. In the educational relationship, the activity centers of both teachers and students are related to the educational objectives, reflecting the tasks and characteristics of school education. This relationship should not only conform to the laws of educational science, but also reflect the creation of art by education, which can not only provide space for both teachers and students to maximize their main strength, but also enable both sides to form an effective joint force, thus enabling students to achieve harmonious development.
Psychological relationship
There is not only a formal educational relationship between teachers and students, but also a psychological relationship formed by emotional exchange and communication. Psychological relationship is the psychological and emotional communication between teachers and students in order to complete the same teaching task. This relationship can connect teachers and students in a certain emotional atmosphere and experience, and realize the transmission and exchange of emotional information. The psychological relationship between teachers and students is naturally formed with the development of teaching activities. It is an objective and basic teacher-student relationship in teaching activities, which is directly influenced by the teaching process and results. Because education and teaching activities are the process of teacher-student interaction, the psychological relationship between teachers and students also plays an important role in education and teaching activities and runs through the whole process of teacher-student relationship. The psychological relationship between teachers and students has an important influence on teaching activities, which is the psychological background of the development of teaching activities and restricts the final result of teaching. At the same time, good teaching process and teaching results will promote the emotional relationship between teachers and students to be more harmonious, so strengthening mutual understanding and communication between teachers and students is directly related to students' learning and teachers' teaching, and even has a great influence on the formation of students' world outlook and values. Optimizing the psychological relationship between teachers and students is the realistic requirement of the reform of teacher-student relationship.
Ethical relationship
As a special social activity, education reflects the universal ethical norms of society and the unique ethical contradictions in educational activities, so the relationship between teachers and students also shows a distinct ethical relationship. The ethical relationship between teachers and students means that in education and teaching activities, teachers and students form a special moral unity, each of which bears certain ethical responsibilities and fulfills certain ethical obligations. This relationship is at the highest level in the teacher-student relationship system, and it has a binding and normative role in other forms of relationships. Most students' moral concepts are obtained directly from teachers, who will exert a subtle moral influence on students. This requires teachers not only to have extensive knowledge, but also to have noble personality and correct moral thoughts, which is the key to establishing a good ethical relationship between teachers and students. However, for a long time, the ethical relationship between teachers and students has not received due attention in educational theory. Respecting teachers and attaching importance to morality is the characteristic of the ethical relationship between teachers and students in ancient society, while in modern society, mutual respect and personality equality between teachers and students have become the basis of the ethical relationship between teachers and students. The all-round development of human beings is the basic value pursuit of modern society, and the liberation of human nature, democracy and freedom are the basic spirits of modern ethics. Therefore, only the teacher-student relationship that fully embodies the basic spirit of modern ethics is the real modern teacher-student ethical relationship. As a concrete manifestation of the essence of modern educational ethics, the modern ethical relationship between teachers and students should have the basic characteristics of promoting students' all-round development and embodying the worship of goodness in education, which is also the direction of the reform of ethical relationship between teachers and students.
The new teacher-student relationship should be that teachers and students are equal and interactive in personality.
Activities are democratic and harmonious in a harmonious atmosphere. Its core is the psychological fit between teachers and students and the mutual acceptance of hearts, forming a loving and sincere emotional relationship between teachers and students. Its purpose is to fully develop students' personality in the spirit of autonomy. It should be reflected in: on the one hand, students develop themselves in an all-round way in mutual respect, cooperation and trust with teachers, gain a sense of accomplishment and life value experience, gain positive practice in interpersonal relationships, and gradually complete the establishment of free personality and healthy personality; On the other hand, teachers can make every student feel the dignity of independence and the happiness of spiritual growth through education and teaching activities.
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Teachers create a harmonious and relaxed environment for students in their lives, and students will trust their teachers, open their hearts to them, and be willing to tell them their true feelings and treat them as friends. The ancients said, "If you are a teacher, you will believe in it." . "Pro-teacher" refers to a good relationship between teachers and students, which is the premise for students to receive teacher education, which is consistent with the modern educational concept. Education is an art. Teachers and students should treat the relationship between teachers and students with a positive attitude, correctly understand the connotations of "democracy" and "equality", have a clear understanding of the problems arising in the education process, and properly handle them, instead of making a mountain out of a molehill, exaggerating excessively, being simple and rude, so as to promote the healthy and harmonious relationship between teachers and students. How to correctly understand the democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students?
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1. Follow the principle of understanding. Pupils are young, and they are very different from teachers in understanding and handling problems. In order to do a good job in education and teaching, it is necessary for teachers to learn professional knowledge such as psychology and pedagogy, strengthen their self-cultivation and cultivate their sentiments. When dealing with problems, fully understand students, care and cherish students enthusiastically, and eliminate psychological barriers between teachers and students. Some cracks in the relationship between teachers and students are often caused by mutual ignorance. Once, a teacher found that a student deliberately asked a classmate next to him to copy his homework, so he severely criticized him in front of the whole class, saying that he had harmed that classmate by doing so. The criticized students are not convinced. After class, he took the initiative to find the teacher and said, "I know he is not good at copying homework, but he said to see what I can do." I don't think it's wrong to show him. "After listening to the students, the teacher realized that he didn't know enough about the investigation, and it was wrong to criticize him without fully understanding the truth. I sincerely criticized myself and solved the contradiction in time. Students think that it is "nothing" for students to "refer" to homework, but teachers take such things seriously, which is the difference in understanding. In fact, students really can't do homework. It's not a bad thing to think after seeing what others are doing. Students' desire to learn is still worthy of recognition. However, students who have no brains and completely copy other people's homework should be properly criticized and must not be allowed to indulge. Such things, if teachers and students understand each other, will avoid many unnecessary contradictions. Of course, students don't have a deep understanding of what a democratic and equal teacher-student relationship is, and sometimes it may be a little extreme. For example, take the teacher's criticism of them as finding fault; A teacher who is a little strict is considered disrespectful, undemocratic and so on. It is normal for children to have some extreme ideas on some issues, because they are immature children after all. Society, families, schools, especially class teachers have the responsibility to explain the truth to them and tell them what a democratic and equal teacher-student relationship is. It is the teacher's responsibility to give appropriate criticism to students' wrong thoughts and behaviors, and the class teacher should help students distinguish well-meaning comments and help from malicious reprimands and accusations. When teachers criticize, students can treat them correctly and accept them with humility, which is the embodiment of democracy and equality; Students put forward their own opinions, and teachers can listen patiently and give positive responses, which is also the embodiment of democracy. Teachers should admit and correct mistakes in time, so as to gain students' understanding, realize heart-to-heart communication and blend feelings. Understanding is the basis of establishing the feelings between teachers and students and the forerunner of positive action. No matter what the student doesn't understand, if you force him to do it, it will never have a good result. 2. Adhere to the principle of respect. It is not easy to respect students. If understanding is the basis of establishing a democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students, then respect is the core of this relationship. When discussing the function of education, an educator said, "The secret of successful education lies in respecting students." If teachers don't respect and care for students, they won't be respected by students. Many students said in the questionnaire that they like and admire teachers who respect their students. A student wrote in the "friendly mailbox": "Teacher, I whispered below when you were giving a lecture. Not only did you not criticize me, but you also let the students listen to my opinion, which moved me very much. I think you did a good job! " Teachers are not judges, students are not defendants, and both sides are the unity of accomplishing the task of education and teaching, with the same interests and goals, and there is no reason not to respect each other. The reason why some students are impolite to teachers is often caused by teachers. Influenced by the old ideas, teachers are often self-centered, do not put themselves in the students' shoes, do not pay attention to their thoughts and feelings, act according to their own subjective impressions, act arbitrarily and abuse their powers. Students are extremely dissatisfied and show resistance, and even talk about teachers behind their backs and give them nicknames. On the other hand, teachers complain that students' quality is poor, and they look at underachievers with colored glasses. The relationship between teachers and students becomes a vicious circle, which leads to teachers' inability to carry out teaching work smoothly, students' inability to study hard, and the interests of both sides are seriously affected. It should be clear that respect should be the starting point of teachers' work. Pay attention to start with small things and try to reduce mistakes. Good teacher-student relationship needs teachers' careful care. As a teacher, we should be broad-minded and be good at influencing students with respectful behavior. Teachers should take a tolerant attitude towards students' impolite behavior and guide them appropriately so as not to intensify contradictions. Teachers' preference for a few excellent students is another reason for the disharmony between teachers and students. In the past, doing class work advocated "grasping both ends and promoting the middle". Good students are very popular, but most of them are left out. In this way, the teacher only respects a few "good students" and makes most students feel lost. These students will not only be bored with a few "good students", but also be dissatisfied with their teachers. Teachers' preference for a few "good students" means disrespect for most students. Teachers and students are not close friends. No matter which student has advantages, teachers should treat each student equally, discover their advantages in time, help them overcome their shortcomings, try to tap their potential abilities, and create opportunities for all students to show their talents, thus respecting each student. In short, the establishment of a new democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students should start with teachers. Changing teachers' concept is the breakthrough; It is the key to mobilize students' positive factors and establish a student evaluation mechanism; Adhering to the principle of understanding and respect is the guarantee. Teachers have the spirit of loving students and selfless dedication, and students will love teachers; Only when the relationship between teachers and students is coordinated can the feelings be sound, thus entering the best state of education and teaching. Sometimes a teacher's usual words and actions will cause students' inner fluctuations and have a positive or negative impact on the relationship between teachers and students. Therefore, there are many factors to establish a democratic and equal relationship between teachers and students, not just the aspects discussed above. In the future, we must continue to practice and summarize, so as to achieve better results.
Edit this distorted teacher-student relationship
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Two students from Wudian Middle School in Shuangdun Town, Changfeng County, Anhui Province are fighting in class. According to reports, Teacher Yang did not stop him, but insisted on continuing the class, resulting in the death of a student. There have been three cases of killing teachers in one month. (People's Daily Online, June 5438+February 08, 2008) After the female teacher was forced to kneel down to apologize to the students, the teacher in the mental hospital (Huaxi Daily, June 5438+February 08, 2008) was slapped and knocked to the ground for criticizing the students (Beijing Morning Post, June 5438+February 08, 2008). Primary school teachers were asked by their parents to apologize for corporal punishment of students and commit suicide by taking poison (China. Com, 2008, 12, 15) ... The news that teachers have been ignored, beaten, humiliated, driven crazy or even killed has become the focus of social attention and stung people's hearts. At the same time, it also reflects the disadvantages of current education in China. Utilitarian education leads to the distortion and variation of the relationship between teachers and students.
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1. At present, teachers' morality and style are not optimistic. The low quality of teachers and their irresponsibility to students are the main aspects of the contradiction between teachers and students, so it is necessary to strengthen the construction of teachers' morality and style. 2. At present, teachers' teaching autonomy is strict with students' management and requirements, which will not only make students grateful, but will lead to students' resentment and parents' accusations, so that students' behavior is indulged, lawless and there is no minimum respect for teachers. 3. The current exam-oriented education system pays attention to knowledge education, ignoring students' mental health education and life education, which leads to students' imperfect personality and not cherishing life. 4. Instrumental rationality has become a common practice in education. Teachers regard teaching as a tool for survival, while students regard receiving education as a tool for participating in social competition. The relationship between teachers and students is only the relationship between money and interests, not the traditional mentoring relationship. The teacher-student relationship of "being a teacher and being a father" is gone.
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Improve teachers' moral cultivation
Improve the cultivation of teachers' morality and shape the image of noble teachers' morality. The so-called teacher's morality is the teacher-student relationship that teachers and all educators must abide by in educational activities.
Ethics and code of conduct. Teachers' morality is the foundation of the construction of teachers' team; The core of teachers' comprehensive quality; It is also a booster for establishing a good relationship between teachers and students. The prosperity of teachers' morality leads to the prosperity of education, and the prosperity of education leads to the prosperity of the nation. Comrade Hu Jintao once stressed when meeting with outstanding national teachers' representatives: teachers and educators should always remember the great trust of the party and the people; Take the training of outstanding talents as our responsibility, consciously strengthen moral cultivation, tirelessly study business, and constantly improve the education level; We should take the lead in setting an example, be a teacher, and truly become a guide for the healthy growth of students. In other words, teachers should be loyal to the party's educational cause and love and care for students. Teachers are managers, but people must first learn to be good people, and then they are qualified to educate managers, just as Confucius said: being honest and doing things without orders; His body is not straight, although he disobeys. How can we talk about it if we don't put an end to immoral phenomena in the teaching staff, improve teachers' personality image and shape students' souls? Therefore, teachers should constantly improve their moral cultivation and establish a noble image of teachers' morality. First of all, we should love our jobs, be determined to take root in the education industry for life, devote ourselves to research and teaching, make unremitting efforts and make selfless contributions. This is the ideological basis for doing a good job in education. Secondly, we should establish a solid concept of the legal system, study and teach according to law, and perform our duties and obligations in accordance with the relevant requirements of the Education Law, the Teachers Law and the Law on the Protection of Minors. Thirdly, carry forward the spirit of dedication and hard work, restrain yourself with the standard of "Professional Ethics of Primary and Secondary School Teachers" and improve yourself. Finally, we should unify "teaching and educating people" with "teaching and educating people", start with small things, always adhere to them, form habits, lead by example, be a teacher by example, and infect and enlighten students with their noble personality image. Learning to be excellent is to be an official, respected, unknown, and learn from others.
Strengthening mental health education
The combination of mental health education and life education makes students' minds harmonious. Find the best combination of adolescent mental health education and caring for life education, so that students can truly cherish life, upgrade adolescent mental health education to life-fearing education, and feel life first. The mental health education of teenagers is the requirement of quality education, and it is also the requirement of teenagers' all-round physical and mental development. Improving the quality of life of teenagers, making them grow up healthily and live happily, is a major issue that contemporary education should pay attention to and solve, and it is also the real core of education. As the main position of juvenile education, schools should offer mental health education classes or lectures according to the psychological characteristics and knowledge requirements of teenagers, and use propaganda tools such as radio, television, video and blackboard newspaper to let teenagers receive adolescent mental health education from multiple angles and occasions. Guide them to correctly understand the characteristics of their physical and mental development and master the methods and skills to solve problems. Change bad behavior, reconcile mentality, establish good interpersonal relationships, and make them pass adolescence smoothly. Through the establishment of psychological consultation room and students' mental health files, individual teenagers' mental diseases are treated and their psychological quality is continuously improved. Explore the "trinity" mental health education model of schools, families and communities, strengthen life education and create a "safe adolescence" project.
The dignity of teachers' profession
Construct a new trend of teacher-student relationship (two-way "teaching dignity"). As the relationship between teachers and students in the process of education and teaching, its trend refers to the value orientation of teacher-student relationship and the development trend and direction of its practical structure. There are two main value orientations in the relationship between teachers and students in history: one is the teacher-oriented orientation of the relationship between teachers and students, such as the traditional thought of "dignity as a teacher"; The second is the student-oriented orientation of teacher-student relationship, such as the theory and requirements of democracy and equality. Modern education needs democracy, equality and "dignity as a teacher". In the form of new curriculum reform, education needs to inherit the reasonable core of "teacher's moral dignity", eliminate oppression, dictatorship, corporal punishment and other ways of disrespecting students, and form a democratic and equal "teacher's moral dignity", that is, two-way "teacher's moral dignity". Two-way "teacher's way" is a new trend of modern teacher-student relationship, which can be called "the third structure" or "the third way" and has the characteristics of respect, communication and decentralization.
revamp the educational system
Reform the education system and promote the harmonious relationship between teachers and students. In the past two or three decades, the market-oriented trend in the economic field has spread rapidly to schools. Everyone is competing, and there is another layer of interest between teachers and students, which eventually leads to the interest and even marketization of the relationship between teachers and students. How can this promote harmony between teachers and students? School work should be student-centered, and teachers' duties are "preaching, teaching and solving doubts". A teacher is not a boss, let alone a policeman. Teachers are the bearers of knowledge, the first stick in the knowledge relay, and students are the inheritors and magnifiers of teachers' knowledge. To eradicate utilitarian education and restore the harmony between teachers and students, it is impossible to change the concepts of educators and educatees, but it is necessary to reform the education system and simultaneously carry out system reforms including household registration system and social welfare security system, so as to achieve results.