15 years ago, just after graduating from college, she met her boss who was five years older than her and fell in love soon. At that time, everyone was not optimistic about office romance, but after a year of love, Mei Jie got married happily.
After getting married and pregnant, my sister quit her job and gave birth to a baby at home full-time because of her unstable fetal heart. After giving birth to two children three years ago, Mei Jie concentrated on taking care of the children at home. The eldest daughter went to kindergarten, and the youngest son wanted to go to work after he could walk, but found that he could not find a suitable job at all. Moreover, the cost of hiring a nanny is not low, and I am not at ease with my mother-in-law. After consulting with her husband, Sister Mei began to live a housewife's life.
In those years, my husband's career was booming, my children slept dishonest, and they got up almost every hour at night to make trouble. In order to ensure her husband's sleep, she offered to sleep in separate beds.
In the first few years, my husband had a good career, was not short of money, and often loved Sister Mei. But later, my husband's company's benefits became worse and worse, and his income became less and less, while his family's expenses increased. Sometimes when Mei Jie wants to buy something, her husband will turn against her and scold her for not being a housekeeper, thinking that the money is blown by the strong wind.
Mei Jie, who has no economic income, will complain at first and argue with him that housewives are not so good. Later, I didn't even bother to argue. Since you are the father of the child and my husband, you have the obligation to pay for our life.
Under this concept, Mei Jie and her husband slept in separate beds, which became a completely asexual marriage. They haven't been married for nearly six years.
At first, Mei Jie thought her husband was a scum man, a man who was incompetent and only blamed his wife for being useless. Later, when I was looking at my daughter's homework, I saw in her composition "My Mom and Dad" that "mom is a useless woman who will only scold me and my brother and ask my father for money and flowers", and "dad is very hard and comes home late every day". Mei Jie felt that she had fed the dog for so many years, but on second thought, her daughter's description didn't seem to be wrong.
Although there are many trivial things in a housewife's life, it doesn't mean that she has no time at all. It's just that she is more of a WeChat chat or a mobile phone to watch a drama. The cooking is basically a few years, and there is nothing innovative. Although I wash clothes and mop the floor by hand every day, I don't have a good face. I often scold my husband for neglecting my family and my children for being disobedient.
Sister Mei said that the key for a woman to get filial piety from her children and love from her husband lies in what you do. From the painful experience, I feel that if this continues, only Mei Jie, who ended the divorce, started his own transformation process.
During the family's eating, drinking and having fun, I downloaded a lot of food software, spent my time on drama and chatting, carefully cooked children's favorite food, and learned more and more home cooking. Although there was a period of dark cooking at first, slowly, the children became more and more obedient, and even the husband who had not eaten dinner at home for many years often came home from work on time for dinner.
To lock a man's heart, we must first learn to lock a man's stomach. Most men are afraid to go home, often because they can only eat leftovers. On second thought, intrigue in the workplace during the day to earn some money, and go home at night without even hot meals and hot dishes, even if his wife is exhausted at home for a day, can he feel the same way? I just don't think she is competent.
Mei Jie also began to sort out her external image. Although she said that she stayed at home almost every day, she no longer just wore clothes at home, but occasionally went out to do her hair, treat her personal maintenance and pay attention to it. Even, sometimes I deliberately ask my husband if a skirt looks good on WeChat. Although not very enthusiastic, I come back from work every day and see how clean she is, and my mouth gradually smiles. Even, sometimes I tease her and ask her if she is going to do a live broadcast.
People or visual animals. Even with him for more than ten years, he wants you to be beautiful. At least once or twice, it is a wonderful thing to remind him of his attitude when he is in love.
The housewife's mentality is very important. After the mentality was reversed, Sister Mei started the road of self-improvement. Although her husband always said that she didn't need to make money, when she really made some small achievements in writing and gained some benefits in writing from the media, her husband said that she didn't like it, but her attitude towards Mei Jie obviously changed a lot.
In marriage, in fact, men don't really need you to earn much money. More often, they want you to feel the same way. He doesn't treat men as ATMs, but he wants you to know that making money is not easy.
Mei Jie said that after so many years of asexual marriage, she solved it in less than half a year. I thought when the children were older, I had to get a divorce. Now, her marriage is revived and her husband is full of interest in her.
In fact, things in marriage are far from so difficult. When you find that there is something wrong with your marriage, you can certainly find the reason. As long as you admit it boldly and solve it with your heart, there will always be a beautiful spring.