I worked overtime until nine o'clock last night. When I returned to the community and waited for the elevator, I met an old man in the same building.
I overheard the conversation between the old man and her daughter. The old man said that your brother and your sister-in-law had quarreled for three days because of money, and I often stopped fighting. The old man looked helpless.
On the other end of the phone, I wonder if the old man's daughter comforted the old man. I didn't dare to go up until the old man finally said, predictably, they had almost stopped.
People often say, "it is difficult for an honest official to break housework."
Besides, I am an outsider. Who is right and who is wrong? How can I make it clear?
In the latest issue of "If You Are the One" blind date program, there was a male guest named Yuefei Zhang. In the love answering session, his first question not only surprised many female guests, but also attracted my attention to him.
He said: "I don't want girls to solve problems by violence."
Then one of the female guests asked him, "To what extent can it be called violence?"
The male guest blew himself up. Ex-girlfriends will hit people and try their best to hit them.
The atmosphere is a little awkward. The host Murphy wanted to help him settle it, so he asked him if he was a spoiled brat.
The male guest replied: "No, just a slap, and more than once or twice. I spent half a year with my ex-girlfriend and broke up. "
At the same time, female guests 17 and 18 were mother and daughter. 17 female guest is a mother. She said that she was abused for five years and then chose to divorce. My daughter was also abused by domestic violence 10 years, and finally chose to divorce. At that time, I had been forbearing for fear of losing face in divorce. So now I can especially understand the fourth male guest. Male guests are also encouraged to refuse marital violence.
It can be seen that the previous experience, whether for male guests or female guests, is physically and mentally affected, and it also determines what kind of person you will choose in the future.
In my opinion, in love or marriage and family, domestic violence has only been said for zero times and countless times. Endure can only be exchanged for each other's recklessness.
As soon as the voice fell, everyone applauded.
At the same time, Morphy also appeals to everyone to know how to use legal weapons to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests when they are subjected to violence.
02
For marriage, betrayal, like violence, is also the reason why the family is fragmented.
Not long ago, a new young colleague said that she envied Yan Jie, who was so powerful that she bought a house and a car. Sister Yan said, you just don't know my previous sufferings.
Sister Yan talked about the past marriage that made her sad.
Sister Yan worked in a big city when she was young and met her ex-husband in the same company. From the beginning, she talked very well, and no one can live without anyone. Despite her parents' opposition, Yan Jie insisted on marrying her poor ex-husband.
After getting married, I gave birth to a daughter, and the child was left unattended, so I had to do it myself. Life is very tight, but fortunately, two people love each other and feel less hard. When the child was three years old, she was sent to kindergarten, and Yan Jie returned to work in her old company. After five or six years of hard work, I saved enough down payment, bought a school district near the company, and finally turned the pain into sweetness.
When Yan Jie's daughter was in the first grade, she was pregnant with her second child. Because of the traditional concept of her ex-husband, she especially wants to have a son and spend money to find an acquaintance to check. When she learned that Yan Jie's second child was a girl, her ex-husband told Yan Jie to abort it, but Yan Jie refused. Soon after, the ex-husband began to change his mind.
Before Yan Jie's baby was born, a colleague with a good personal relationship secretly told her that her ex-husband was having an affair, a young girl from different departments of the same company. Sister Yan was greatly shocked when she heard the news. She kept asking her ex-husband, why did she betray her? Sister Yan's ex-husband is always silent.
After the baby was born, she was still breastfeeding, and Yan Jie did not agree to divorce. Two years later, Yan Jie decided to end this nominal marriage without any assets, and her two daughters were also awarded to her ex-husband.
If life is like the first time, that would be great.
Think of Zhang Ailing once said that life is a gorgeous robe full of lice.
And I want to say that marriage is actually more.
03
The day before yesterday, my good friend Lin sent me a message that she was in love.
I sent back a message saying, Blessing.
Then, we talked on the phone for nearly an hour, talking about the recent situation. Lin shared that, in fact, for her, love is neither a good thing nor a bad thing, because it has just begun and it is already very difficult.
Patiently listening to the whole story, I found that Lin's concerns were actually putting the cart before the horse.
Although I can't give a standard answer to some things, it is still meaningful to look at each other's shortcomings before marriage and their advantages after marriage.
When the robe of gorgeous marriage is covered with lice, how should we wear it?
In fact, no matter how beautiful the marriage is, there will be n times of divorce. The key is how you defeat your demons N+ 1 time. Marriage is not uncompromising, not compromising life.