In fact, in many workplace dramas, office romance is a taboo in the workplace. The drama "Du Lala's Career Promotion", Commander Ma's previous work "Don't Believe in Tears in Beishangguang" and the hit movie "Hidden Marriage Men and Women" all have such a bridge. Why do most companies explicitly or implicitly resist office romances? Lao Zhu believes that office romance disturbs the order of workplace relations and will inevitably have an impact on work, which is the fundamental reason why many companies are unacceptable.
Workplace relationship is essentially a working relationship. There is only one reason for the connection between people, that is, work, and there is only one indicator to measure the quality of this relationship: work results. Working relationships are highly task-centered.
The relationship between lovers and husbands is different. It is essentially an emotional relationship. The most important thing to connect the two sides is emotion, and the index of emotional relationship is the feelings of both sides. Emotional relationships are centered on feelings.
So what the leader tells you the most is: when can I get the result of the task I asked you to do? What lovers think most is: How does he feel about me now?
If there is only one relationship between two people, it is very simple to get along with each other. Even if there are contradictions, there are fixed solutions. But once mixed into these two relationships, it becomes very complicated, full of contradictions between work and feelings, and it is often difficult to solve. Office romance is a confusion between work relationship and emotional relationship. The office is a working relationship, and romance is an emotional relationship. Once these two relationships collide, it is very easy to fall into an inseparable situation. More subtly, office romance breaks the order of the whole workplace, and others will change their behavior patterns because of their special relationship, just like a cactus popping up in a straw field.
In the TV series, He Han and Tang Jing really love each other, but the contradiction between them is almost related to the conflict between work and emotional relationship. For example, the delicate relationship between He Han and Vivian made Tang Jing feel uneasy. The two people who originally planned to get married had a cold war for two years, and now they have not made a positive result. If Vivian is not in Bianchi, she won't pester He Han repeatedly, and she won't have the opportunity to embarrass Tang Jing. There is also the case of He Han and Tang Jing fighting for Kaman. Although he has been infiltrated in the workplace for many years, he has become white, but he still can't accept that He Han has pried his client, and the relationship that they originally repaired has broken down again. No one got Kaman's cake in the end.
Knowing this, He Han gave up Bianchi's high position as a partner and chose to be a star. On his first day in office, he gave Chen this advice: I don't care if you can't get together outside the company, but in the company, you are the project manager and she is the information investigator. Other than that, there can be no other relationship, or she will have to leave. He Han is a very emotional person. He didn't embarrass Chen, but he also warned him not to violate his bottom line. He Han didn't drive Lingling away because he recognized their ability to work, which can be confirmed from the plot. He praised Lingling's work many times, and later he used Chen again. Of course, he has just arrived at the starry sky, and he also wants to let Chen appreciate himself in this way, so as to cultivate his own power.
Most people in the workplace understand that you should never have an office romance unless you have to, or you will easily get burned. For example, the following paragraph wants Luo Zijun to be her lover because she is greedy for her beauty. I didn't expect to speculate, waste people and money, lose my job for many years, and get beaten up. I'm afraid it's hard to mix in the circle in the future. So, if you really have a crush on someone in the office, investigate the details of the other person first!
In the final analysis, China society is a relational society. If you want to get along in the workplace, you naturally have secrets. Lao Zhu believes that the essence of the workplace is work, and the company exists for profit from the day it was born. If you want to make a profit, you must do your own products and services well. For every employee, it is the premise for everyone to keep their job to complete KPI and do well what the leader gives you. Therefore, in the workplace, there is only one way to show your value, and that is to do a good job and let the superior give the company a good explanation. This is a win-win situation. There is only one purpose to deal with workplace relations: to help you do a good job in the workplace and build a personal workplace brand.
1, having a good relationship with superiors is the first priority, and working relationship is the most important relationship between us and our leaders, which is often the first-level relationship of newcomers in the workplace. According to the survey of consulting firm Big Data, more than 70% of people leave their jobs because they don't like their superiors, not their jobs. To put it bluntly, it is a bad relationship with superiors. In fact, it is not difficult to get along with superiors. Do the work assigned by him well first, so that the leader can recognize you at work, and then consider developing other relationships. To train people, a leader must first find someone who can help him at work. Satisfying him with your work is the greatest help to him. He Han told Luo Zijun that Lingling can impress Chen not by beauty and money, but by reliable work skills. Therefore, if you finish the task assigned by the leader without any emotion, the leader will naturally have a crush on you.
2. Deal with the relationship with colleagues in the company. Colleague relationship is another major relationship factor in the workplace, and Luo Zijun provides us with an example in this respect. First of all, you should mix with the awesome people who work in the company. For example, Zijun's efforts should be recognized and appreciated by Aunt Wu. On the one hand, you can learn the ability of cattle people and add points to your workplace skills. On the other hand, people who work are fairer in looking at personnel, and their words carry weight. The news that He Han was leaving the stars reached Sue. Sue has always opposed Zijun's tenderness and wanted to kill Zijun through Aunt Wu. Unexpectedly, Aunt Wu kept Zijun's job in order to protect him. Secondly, be kind to others, be neither humble nor supercilious, and talk less. Zijun in any company, regardless of the length of people, only focuses on his own work, not afraid of others gossiping. He has his own principles and deserves admiration.
3. Handle the relationship between customers and family outside the company. Customer relationship is an extension of working relationship and a sharp weapon to amplify personal value. Every consultant of Bianchi regards customers as the apple of his eye. In order to retain customers, Vivian can openly turn against her boss Luo Ping and splash water in public. For the sake of her clients, Tang Jing can be angry with He Han. He Han can double his salary and get a promotion because he has Kaman Adam in his hand. Adam told He Han that I will go wherever you go, because you are the brand. It can be seen that customer resources other than maintenance work are also the top priority.
There is an old saying in China that you live and work in peace and contentment. It is difficult for a person with a messy family relationship to achieve anything in his career. Although family and work must be separated, once something happens at home, it will definitely affect work. When Chen divorced, his work was not so smooth. If he hadn't met He Han, he would have faced a career crisis, which is why Jun Chen is loyal to He Han. And a rookie in the workplace like Zijun, how many times she almost delayed her work because of things at home, if it weren't for He Han's selfless work as her fireman, she would certainly find it difficult to sell shoes now. Family is the rear area of work. Only by stabilizing your family can you win your career.
Finally, Lao Zhu wants to say that promotion and salary increase, becoming a CEO, winning a job, stepping on the peak of life and handling workplace relations are all basic skills. I hope this article is useful to you.
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