When you shouldn't fight, insist on fighting. You don't know how to fight when you should fight. You have a smart appearance, but you don't have a smart mind inside.
I'm not speaking for women and looking at things objectively. Women often take the bride price too seriously when they get married, which will give people a shrewd impression. This is really a problem. Is the bride price really that important? Is the bride price really the insurance lock of a woman's marriage?
In fact, the bride price is just a fluke. Besides, there is no superfluous meaning in it. Even if there is, it is a "deliberate move" by a willing heart. More or less, whether to give or not depends only on the conditions of both parties. There is no fixed quota standard, and there is no so-called clear price tag.
I know that many women don't really care about the amount of bride price, but want to see the man's attitude through the bride price, thinking that they are smart and stingy. In fact, it is too one-sided to examine the man through the bride price, which will not only destroy mutual affection, but also leave a shrewd reputation, and the benefits are almost negligible.
In this way, can you still say that women are smart? I don't suggest, let alone advocate, that cleverness is not cleverness, but stupidity. It is better to put the bride price somewhere else, or we can better see each other's attitude and understand whether this marriage is worth continuing.
Compared with some men, most women's shrewdness is dwarfed. Some men are good at finding loopholes and know how to do things seamlessly, which seems fair. In fact, there are mines everywhere, and their minds are deep and tight. Such a man is an unworthy woman, and he can't see clearly on such a trivial matter as bride price.
The details are true, but the bride price is an aboveboard contest, but the details can truly reflect a person's personality and attitude towards you. Don't make mistakes, or you will lose big because of small things, which runs counter to happiness.
Small cleverness loses big, so women are advised not to be proud of it. You don't have to stare at the bride price to observe each other, but pay more attention to the details to see the truth.
Xiao Liao told me that her shrewd ex-boyfriend was going to get married, but as a result, the man made up his mind and thought he was smart and operated like a tiger. As a result, Xiao Liao saw the true face of the other party and insisted on breaking off the marriage. In the end, this man didn't get any fruit, nor did he get any grain, which laid a big pattern. As a result, he was waiting for a big rollover scene.
Xiao Liao is 26 years old and has a boyfriend who is two years older than her. Let's call him Mr. Bear. Xiao Liao and Mr. Xiong met through blind date, and their family conditions were similar. If anything, Xiao Liao's family is better than Mr. Xiong's.
Xiao Liao's father is a doctor, his mother is a head nurse, and his grandfather is also an old Chinese doctor. Grandma is also an enlightened old lady in some cultures. As for Xiao Liao, she claimed that her qualifications were poor. Even though her parents have always been very concerned about her, hoping that she can follow the name of a medical scientist and become a doctor or even a nurse, Xiao Liao is not very interested in it. She thinks studying medicine is too boring and being a nurse is too hard.
So she doesn't want to study medicine. She longs for a free life, but she is interested in literature. After quitting her decent job, she embarked on a career as a novelist. Of course, this road is not easy, but Xiao Liao feels that her choice is correct. She thinks that even if she is still a rookie, she is not famous, and making money can only cover her own expenses. But as long as she persists hard and makes her own achievements, she can always make a difference.
Xiao Liao's career and ideas are similar to those of a square face. There are many girls who love to have ideals, but not many dare to practice. This girl has her own opinions and experiences. Even if it is a cliche, even if she meets someone, she will have a way to deal with it.
Teacher Xiong's parents are also regular employees, suitable for Xiao Liao. In the two years when Xiao Liao and Mr. Xiong got along, Mr. Xiong has always been a warm man, thinking of Xiao Liao everywhere, but his thoughtfulness sometimes makes Xiao Liao feel very burdened. Teacher Xiong hopes that Xiao Liao can listen to his parents and study medicine for a simple reason. It will be convenient for both families in the future and open the back door.
Although Mr. Xiong didn't make it clear, Xiao Liao was like a mirror, and she didn't think much, because not many people around her could understand it when she embarked on this road. Everyone except Grandma Xiao Liao thinks Xiao Liao is fantastic, daydreaming.
To put it bluntly, it is because there is no result. In order to achieve this result, Xiao Liao works very hard and has more and more words every day. Two years later, he accumulated some popularity and finished a novel, and now he is continuing the second one. Even though he is not famous yet, Xiao Liao, who became the signing author, has raised his income and is as good as going to work. Now he has finally been recognized by his parents and boyfriends.
This year, both families felt that it was almost time to talk about marriage, so they began to talk about marriage. Xiao Liao is an avant-garde girl. When the two sides were discussing how much bride price to give, Xiao Liao waved his hand and said no bride price.
Because the bride price is unpleasant, no matter how good the family is, it will always lead to cracks in the marriage and damage the feelings of husband and wife. There are not many examples. Xiao Liao knows this, so she feels burdensome, but her parents just want a bride price, not much. Finally, the bride price was set at 101,000, and Xiao Liao also promised it silently. Both sides are very satisfied with the bride price and reached a * * * understanding.
However, on the issue of the house, the two sides have different opinions. Originally, George W. Liao Jia wanted to pay half of the money to buy a house, but the man didn't agree, for impressive reasons.
"Hey, in-laws, it's strange that you say so. Our family is a boy. Buying a house is what men should do here. How can we get your family to buy a house? We don't want your family to pay for this. This house belongs to our family. "
Under the repeated refusal and emphasis of the man's family, Xiao is no longer polite. Liao didn't think elsewhere and didn't want to take advantage of the man's family. George W. Liao Jia has called a collective family meeting for the House of Representatives. The man said that buying a house didn't hurt little Liao Jia, and it certainly didn't help, because Xiao Liao didn't want the man's family to add her name to the real estate license.
"This is the truth, not now. That's what I was thinking. The man's family's money is also money. There is no reason to give it to me. Besides, their family conditions are not bad. It is affordable to buy a suite in full, and so is our family. So I thought, if people buy a suite in full, it is equivalent to pre-marital property. Why add a name? It's not like I've never seen a house or money. "
What Xiao Liao said is true. While the man's family was preparing to buy a house unilaterally, Xiao Liao's parents immediately decided to keep the money saved for Xiao Liao's marriage anyway. It is better to buy Xiao Liao a premarital property, so Xiao Liao will not be worse than others. It's for the best.
Xiao Liao also agreed to the decision to have a small house at home, and Xiao Liao was relieved. However, what Xiao Liao didn't expect was that her boyfriend finally got a loan to buy a house, and it was the minimum down payment loan, 20%.
Mr. Xiong's statement about this is also a set: "I don't want my parents to pay the full amount. Our family is not too difficult, but I don't want to be so unfilial and empty my parents' savings. If they get a minor illness, they won't get the money for treatment. This is my responsibility.
So I told my parents that the down payment was enough. Anyway, my salary is not low, and your income is quite good. As long as you work hard, I'm afraid this loan will not be paid, don't you think? "
Teacher Xiong's words were really nice, and Xiao Liao really believed them at that time. At this time, Xiao Liao still doesn't want her boyfriend to add his name.
"I have three views. Getting married is not my way of making money. I know that today's new marriage law has already stipulated. It makes no difference whether my name is added or not. The key is to see who pays the down payment. I didn't pay the down payment together. If I get divorced, what I have is mine. What does my name have to do with me? It's just a psychological comfort. It's not necessary. I own a small house.
So Xiao Liao changed his mind and agreed to Mr. Xiong: "It means to repay the loan together after marriage, and I have no opinion."
Who knows that Mr. Xiong quickly denied Xiao Liao's statement: "No, dear, why are you looking at me like this?" How can I make you follow me to repay the loan and let you recover the debt? My own salary is enough to repay the loan, but this mortgage has a short term and a high monthly payment. I can only repay the loan. You just need to write with peace of mind and make money to subsidize your family. "
Mr. Xiong's words sounded very reasonable, and Xiao Liao was considered everywhere, but Xiao Liao was alert at this time and got an important message from Mr. Xiong's words.
"This product is too deceptive. Better than singing. I almost believed it. Think about it carefully and find it wrong. I want to pay my living expenses for his mortgage. In the end, I caught nothing. Isn't that what I mean? "
Xiao Liao immediately refused, and directly smiled and replied to Mr. Xiong: "You really think about me. Do you want me to get carried away and throw myself at you?" You are so clever. I have no money to support my family. My parents gave me a down payment to buy a suite. Like you, I have to pay back the loan. Either we can repay the loan together and support our families together, or we can't afford it at all. what do you think? "
After listening to Xiao Liao, Mr. Xiong was very angry and said that I would not let you pay the living expenses if I paid the down payment. Why should I add your name to the house? Xiao Liao thought about divorce before she got married. It was so clever that it hurt his heart and their feelings. Xiao Liao didn't answer directly with Mr. Xiong, a hypocrite.
"Who's smart? I know in my heart that I am smart, but you are much smarter than me. I'm ashamed of myself. It's better if we break up. You can't fool me, and I won't forgive this dark calculation. Goodbye. "
Before leaving, Xiao Liao did not forget to transfer the bride price money to her boyfriend online. When Mr. Xiong was crying, he didn't see the gentleness of collecting money. Xiao Liao took one last look at the man contemptuously and went straight away. After returning home, Xiao Liao told his parents the cause and effect of the incident, and got the support of his parents and divorced.
Now Xiao Liao says that Mr. Xiong is still struggling to get back together with Xiao Liao, and Xiao Liao simply ignores it. Xiao Liao thinks that this man's mind is really deep. No matter whether he really likes himself or just wants to have a good relationship with his in-laws, maybe he worries too much, but after the house, she can't trust this man anymore.
But compared with men's shrewdness, Xiao Liao is dwarfed. Xiao Liao is trying to preserve our sanity, but men are not. He is hiding something in the dark, and he seeks benefits for himself on the premise of depriving the other party of their rights and interests in details. This shrewdness is really terrible.
It is conceivable that a girl is not a material girl, and she can not pay the bride price. This proves that she is just fighting for a statement, and she sees that the man's motives are not pure.
In the final analysis, it is a man's shrewdness that makes him lose a good girl, a beautiful marriage and an opportunity to be attached to his in-laws. It is really not worth the loss.
Cleverness is not a bad thing, but Yan Fang hopes that everyone will not use this cleverness on the people closest to him. Women are not stupid, a honey sword hurts the most. Don't think too smart about yourself. There are many smart people in the world, but you are not the only one.