When a child did something wrong or failed to meet your expectations, did you ever scold him or say something like a fool or an idiot?
Don't tell your child from an early age that he is not smart or a stupid student. We should give him moderate expectations and make him feel that he is excellent and brave.
For example, children have been in the class 10-20. You can give him confidence, encourage him, and tell him that you are excellent and smart, and you will definitely get the ninth place next time.
2. Law of self-esteem: Children also have self-esteem.
Children often do wrong things. Are you always fidgety and upset? No matter what you say or scold him, it's no use.
First of all, some things can't just look at the surface, we should listen to the child's narrative, listen to the child's real thoughts, and be patient. But children can't just listen to him when they do something wrong. If your child makes unreasonable demands, you must say "no" to your child. Many children blame their parents for not bringing textbooks to class, being criticized by teachers, or crying loudly and making noise. When you encounter such a thing, you must not indulge him. You must learn to mind your own affairs.
We should make rules (principles) for children: in addition to verbal warnings, we should also guide children to do something meaningful. Let children be responsible for their actions, such as shopping, eating, doing homework and watching TV. Calmly deal with your child's unreasonable behavior, express your feelings and demands to your child in a calm tone, and let him know that unreasonable entanglement is useless. Be sure to explicitly reject your child's unreasonable demands. No matter how the child cries, he should stand his ground.
3. Over-limit effect: No matter how wonderful the praise is, it will be tired after a long time.
Children are used to listening to criticism or praise, and they won't feel anything at all. Praise more, the child will think that you are lying to him, and there is another situation that will make the child under too much pressure and cause psychological burden.
First of all, you should trust your children. Even if he did something wrong and lied to you, you should give him enough trust to convince him that he is a good boy. Secondly, how to grasp the degree of praise? Children must be encouraged when they encounter setbacks. When he discovers his progress and advantages, he should also speak out and praise him.
4. Hot stove rule: Punishment is the ladder of children's progress.
Punishment generally includes the following principles: warning: formalize its existence and strengthen learning and education. Timeliness: deal with things as soon as they happen, don't delay. Consistency: Keep your word. Fairness: Both parents and children should abide by this principle.
After punishing the child, the general child will feel wronged, so we must deal with the aftermath, explain the reasons to the child seriously, point out the cause and degree of the mistake realistically, and let him understand things.
5. Cai Gannick effect: arouse children's desires and make them forget.
Cai Gannick effect: We often write down important things in memos, thinking that everything will be fine if we write them down, but we always forget them later. The most unforgettable thing is often the dress I didn't buy, the relationship that didn't work out. It's annoying to interrupt advertisements at the climax of the play, but I watched it anyway. The game was boring, but the fans watched it anyway.
We can use this effect to make children obsessed with knowledge and have a thirst for knowledge. Therefore, you can't instill a lot of knowledge at once, but you should talk about it step by step, so that children are hungry for knowledge.
How to educate children not to give up halfway? If a child has poor willpower, he should be encouraged to finish one thing. Parents should also set an example. Help children solve some problems that they can't solve, help him find ways, supervise children to do something independently, improve their abilities and cultivate habits.