First of all, let's say "who does Jia Mu like better". This comparison is actually unnecessary, because in the eyes of the old lady, these two girls are basically considered by two groups. Daiyu is "our child" and Baochai is "someone else's child". No matter how much you like it, it is not the same type. How can we compare them together?
Your mother says every day that Xiaoming is handsome, good at studying, filial and sensible, but she will be the first to drag you out when the earthquake comes, and she will not be in a hurry to drag Xiaoming.
Many of our readers regard "being their own relatives" as a plus item. If Daiyu is a relative, add one point; if Baochai is suitable, add one point. . . Then calculate who has a higher score in Jia Mu's mind. But the real scoring method is actually: Daiyu is a relative, plus 1, Baochai is good, and 1 is all 0. . . Don't say that Mrs. Jia is not very satisfied with Baochai. Even if Baochai's taste is as high as Yuan Chun's and her family is as impeccable as Li Wan's, it's just a few zeros more.
This quirk of destiny takes a hand does not contradict the old lady's appreciation and praise of Baochai. Baochai is "more considerate than our girls", which is a real appreciation. The old lady is a knowledgeable person and won't ignore the facts because of her feelings. Baochai is really a good girl, but she is not "from our family". The old lady "appreciates" Baochai and "loves" Daiyu. Appreciation is justified, but love is unreasonable. Even if you are a hundred treasures better than Daiyu, the old lady will only say, well, you are right. Then continue to love Daiyu.
Besides, Daiyu brought a lot of zeros besides 1, which is even more unnecessary. )
(2) Again, who the old lady likes better and who the old lady chooses as her granddaughter are two different things. Baoyu is not a prize, not a hydrangea, not a small red flower that the old lady gives to whoever she likes, but the son of Jia's second house (the house that Jia really cares about), who shoulders the future rise and fall of Jia's family, and the old lady knows her responsibilities very well.
In the face of the great cause of family, not only is preference a floating cloud, but appreciation is not a floating cloud? Baochai is good. She is the only one who is good. The family background behind her (businesswoman, murderer brother) determines that she is not the right person to get married. This is not only because the old lady is clear-headed, but I'm afraid Jia Zheng is also very knowledgeable. Of course, the story continued until the death of Jia Mu and Dai Yu respectively, and the west wind blew all over the world, so Jia Fu no longer needed to choose a famous poet. That's another matter.
Jia Zheng, Jia Mu and Mrs. Wang are the only people who can participate in the decision of Baoyu's marriage. Mrs. Wang's attitude is firm and clear. Jia Zheng and Jia Mu always keep step with each other. If these two men also won Baochai, they should have told the Xue family a long time ago-Baochai has reached the age of logistics since she started, and it is stressful to put the engagement on hold for a day.
Jia Mu's preference for Mu Shi's marriage can only be proved by Wang Xifeng's gossip and the family page in the book. Jia mu herself has no position, so we don't have to rush this point. In fact, Jia Mu has not lost the idea of "whether it is suitable or not, we have to wait and see"-anyway, Daiyu is still young, and there is no family to interfere in her marriage, so there is no risk. However, Jia did not agree with today's marriage, but made it clear, even ignoring Yuan Chun's face. It is worth our readers' attention that disapproving of the marriage of gold and jade does not mean that the old lady does not appreciate or like Baochai-the old lady is an understanding person and will not confuse the meanings of "appreciation" and "propriety".
Summary: Baochai in Jia Mu's mind is an outstanding junior of a relative's family. She has many advantages and some disadvantages, but on the whole, she is a good girl worthy of appreciation. She doesn't meet the standard of Granddaughter in Jia Mu's mind, but she is still a good girl. As long as the mother (Aunt Xue) and sister-in-law (Mrs. Wang) don't bother Baoyu and play tricks on Baoyu, Grandmother Jia still likes it and is willing to take care of the girl.
Daiyu in Jia Mu's mind is her favorite granddaughter. Don't talk to the old lady about her advantages and disadvantages. She is Jia Minsheng, the only blood behind Jia Min, enough to make the old lady give everything. But love doesn't mean nonsense. The old lady is still seriously and responsibly participating in the marriage of wood and stone. If Baodai really comes to an inappropriate day, the old lady may not be engaged to them without conscience.