How to deal with strong people and get rid of them, and even let more strong people serve us. Superior people are not used for worship, but for use. How to deal with strongmen was learned from anthony robbins and Chen Anzhi.
Anthony robbins once went to his teacher Jamie Ron's class and dumped his teacher Jamie Ron. Teacher Chen Anzhi used this trick to get rid of many people, such as Michael Jordan, who is familiar to everyone. He used the ideas and methods I will talk about next to learn how to deal with powerful people, especially those with particularly rich resources. If he can help, he can at least help a lot. Maybe people will say something that he can't do in a month's time and energy.
Powerful people and cattle people, they also have their own interpersonal and networking circles, most of which are equivalent to them. They are all interpersonal circles of some awesome people and powerful office workers, most of whom are office workers. What they care about and talk about is basically work treatment, salary, welfare, promotion, infighting within the company, the interpersonal circle of customer bosses, and most of them are bosses. What they care about is the circle of the project, the profits of the rich second generation and what we call the official second generation of eating, drinking and having fun. This is what we call birds of a feather flock together. If people have no goals, are content with the status quo, do not need to struggle and make progress, then there is no need to think about anything and change themselves.
If you want to jump from bottom to top step by step, you first need to have that corresponding thinking and that environment. If you can't practice by yourself, at least you need a guide to start walking into that circle, which is also the fastest shortcut.
Strong people and cattle people meet for the first time, either through introductions, or through an activity, or because of others' face, but if they are not sensible, they can't bring value to others, or even just want to touch others' light and take advantage of others, can they leave a good impression on others? Others don't want to associate with people like you and dare not deal with you, let alone become friends with powerful people. Where to start? How can he be willing to help you? How can he let you use his strength and resources to help you? In his mind, if you just want to ask him for it, it will only bring him trouble and be his burden and drag. Whether you like the result or not, he has subconsciously classified you. If you were you, you would naturally do the same yourself. He doesn't want to see you again, and he doesn't want to talk to you. If you ask him out again, even if he is free, he will definitely say that he is busy and certainly has no time.
Why?
First, you have no weight in his heart. I believe that each of us has a steelyard in mind. The weight of a particular person in your heart is different. Some people are insignificant, so you won't waste your time and energy on them. Some people will care about you, others will value themselves and be willing to change themselves.
For example, you will travel to Shenzhen on weekends. If someone calls you and wants to meet you and talk about ordinary strangers and strangers, you will definitely say something polite and say that you have something to do and refuse. Then I forgot about it, and the relationship was okay. I'll explain to him. My best friend's best friend will explain clearly, or I'll make an appointment next time. Boyfriends and girlfriends, very important customers, will say something, but at the same time, they will give up their trip to Shenzhen, change their original itinerary, and even return their booked air tickets and meet again.
Second, you have no value in his mind, and you can't create any value for him. In his mind, you are a meaningless existence. It makes no difference to him whether you are present or not. Everyone has a weight in his heart. Although many people never realize it, if you think about it carefully, you will know that it exists objectively.
Third, he owes you nothing. Why should he help you for no reason?
There are only four possibilities for cattle to help you:
1, he has a good relationship with you. We are friends, classmates, acquaintances and relatives. There's no need to say that. If you can help, you must help.
2, you are valuable to him and have an interest relationship. Helping you can bring him value, gain or reduce his loss. He will help you out of consideration for his own interests.
He appreciates you and is willing to cultivate you, but he doesn't have enough brilliance. How can he be appreciated by the awesome people? How can he be valued? Besides, people with this strength can develop normally by relying on their own strength without the help of others.
He owes you, he owes you a favor, and the first three can't be paid back, so there is only the fourth one. If you want him to owe you, you must pay him first.
China's national conditions must be known, and it is much easier to understand by giving an example.
To ask for help, ordinary acquaintances have to give gifts first. If you have some power, you have to give gifts. Gifts are getting less and less, and ordinary people will not take it to heart, because people have long been accustomed to such things since they have arrived at that position, and they are numb and have no feelings when they receive gifts. Once they accept the gift, they will forget that they will definitely not help you. If this gift is given away, it is equal to giving it away for nothing.
To give a gift, you can give a big gift or a heavy gift. When people look at it, they are impressed. They remember the giver clearly at once, and they will pay more attention to what the giver helped to do. Naturally, they will do their best. Considering that he can't do it himself, or he doesn't succeed in the end, he will definitely return the gift.
Why? Big gifts, heavy gifts, unlike ordinary small gifts, are insignificant. If not, confiscate your gift: accept your gift and help you get things done. There is nothing to say in either case. He accepted your gift, but he didn't finish it. This is equivalent to leaving a handle in your hand, which may pose a threat to him at any time.
He wants to keep his present position and his current interests, or further, go to a better position and get more benefits. You can't leave such hidden dangers as gifts for yourself because of small losses. The account in his heart is also very clear. He wants to find someone to do a hundred thousand things. It is impossible for him to deliver more than 100,000 books of Li Niu and strongman more clearly than the average person. He can't let himself owe a favor far less than himself.
For example, if you take the initiative to pay it back once, people will only remember hundreds or thousands of dollars at most, so you can't owe a stranger who is far less than yourself. Although he won't say anything, he will keep you in mind first, remember it, find a suitable opportunity, repay him with useful information in a suitable way, introduce a friend who is of great help to you, or introduce a business. It's much more than that. Besides, people coming and going, smart people, will take advantage of this, so that they will get acquainted once and for all, and gradually get acquainted with the cattle people. Now that we are ripe, let's help each other.
And the smartest people think longer. He will take the initiative to give some or even half of the benefits gained by introducing cattle people to cattle people. Although it is said that the first return of the cattle is only to pay back the person you paid first, it is far beyond the psychological expectation of the cattle themselves. If he gives less, the cow will be surprised and moved, because this is unexpected. Few people can do this. The cattle people recognize you from the heart through such things.
Cows will think of you when they have something, because helping you is helping themselves. He just needs to provide you with opportunities, information and contacts. If you do things well, he will have a stable return, and he doesn't have to worry about anything.
In the same way, casting a wide net seems to be two sides, but in fact it is a casual acquaintance. If you don't pay attention, others will naturally not pay attention. On the surface, you know a lot of people, but in fact, they have never been in contact. It is better to focus on one person, this person becomes a friend, and his friend will gradually become your friend. Of course, you can also ignore them and ignore them. You can even be too lazy to care about them. If he is strong, he will still drink his own northwest wind in the future. Then stop complaining. If you don't meet your talent, you have no chance, no chance, and no chance. Everyone you meet is your own chance. Whether you can seize the opportunity depends not on the strongman, but on yourself, because a strongman can't come to you on his own initiative and won't care, even strangers in life pass by, but it has nothing to do with himself. A strong man is a noble man all his life.
Operator: Mr. Feng from Zhongfu Education (28024 17424), the Financial Business Tutor Class "Financial Business Practice Consultation Meeting"