At first glance, this is true, but in fact it can't stand scrutiny. This kind of life looks very beautiful, but in fact there are many hidden dangers, and the biggest hidden danger is that the risk is too great.
What do you mean, too risky? First of all, understand what risk is, and go directly to Baidu's entry: "The possibility of a specific dangerous event (accident or unexpected event) and the combination of its consequences."
Too risky? In other words, the possibility of a dangerous event is very high and the consequences are very serious. Everyone saw the final ending of Chen Mou in Tangshan, which was really "too risky" and the scenery came to an abrupt end.
Since "scenery" is only superficial, what is it really like? The fact is: The Chronicle of Tangshan Chen Mou is a tragedy. Why is the Annals of Tangshan Chen Mou a tragedy? Let's listen to Uncle Wang Cai's detailed explanation for you.
Anyone who has experienced debt knows that the debt mentality is anxious, and the amount and date of debt repayment are lingering in my mind, which makes me uneasy. Getting along with creditors is also a different taste. I am cautious and inferior. This feeling is tragic.
What is more tragic is that some people lack awareness of this debt anxiety, owe people money and are justified. This will lead to the collapse of credit, the collapse of personnel and the sharp increase of life risks. The risk of "debt collection" and "prosecution" has become the risk of being "lazy". Once these risks appear, we will even lose the opportunity to "be a normal person", and the degree of unhappiness in life can be imagined.
It is not tragic to make mistakes occasionally, because everyone will make mistakes and everyone has a chance to make amends. The cost of correcting mistakes is limited before they are fermented.
The most tragic thing is that some people "habitually do evil" and don't know how to make amends. They fall into the abyss of evil step by step and get lost at the end of the wrong road, from "I don't know I made a mistake" to "I know I can't correct it", to "I know I can correct it" and then to "I don't think I made a mistake". In the process of self-cultivation, I deviate a little, or in any case, the ending is the same, that is, "Don't live if you commit a crime yourself."
The life risk factor of Tangshan Chen Mou annals is extremely high. How high is the risk? It is not an exaggeration to describe it as "stormy".
First of all, Chen Mou constantly creates "risk events", and anything unfair and unreasonable is the source of hidden dangers. If you lie, the deceived will resist, at least "scold your ancestors"; If you hit someone, hit them, at least "write down the record"; If you seize someone else's property, the person who occupies it will be very angry, or at least "call the police". Now there is another resistance tool: network exposure. The risk of not following the rules is increasing.
Secondly, Chen Mou's "brothers" will bring him "risk factors" constantly, and any accident is enough to make him passively involved. After all, in the information society, it has become very difficult and technically difficult to go out.
Third, with the increase of anti-corruption, the "protective umbrella" of Tangshan Chen Mou may become a victim if there is any trouble. The first risk is to "stop bullets" as "chess pieces", the intermediate risk is that people who are in the same boat need to face the trial together, and the second risk is the direct risk brought by continuing to "walk the streets" after losing the "umbrella".
The problem is that these "cracked eggs" have a high probability of being stung. The so-called "evil does not suppress right" has always been "people don't know, ghosts don't know" and "if you don't reach out, you will be caught".
These risks overlap, promote and amplify each other. The result is that "life is full of pits", and high-risk life is often accompanied.
Theoretically, the parents and wives of Tangshan Chen Mou Chronicles should bear certain responsibilities for the current situation of Tangshan Chen Mou Chronicles. Parents' failure to teach is connivance, and the wife's support or acquiescence in the chronicle of Chen Mou in Tangshan is "not a family, not entering a house". From this perspective, even if they finally bear some consequences, it is not a grievance. The actions and consequences of Chen Mou in Tangshan are devastating to their families, who have to bear economic losses, social reputation losses, unaccompanied loneliness, broken family status and so on. "Karma" will always exist. Past mistakes will eventually return to the consequences in different forms.
It seems a little "innocent" to the children of Chen Mou Records in Tangshan, because they can't choose their own family and "educate" their parents, that is, they can't do anything about all the situations. It is more appropriate to call them "unlucky" I only hope that they can adjust themselves, shoulder the pressure that should not belong to their age, work hard and change the unfair fate through their own efforts. This can be done. We can't choose our meeting, but we can choose the way to treat it.
Since the life of "Records of Tangshan Chen Mou" is tragic, how can we avoid following in its footsteps?
In fact, it is easy to avoid. Why do you say that? Because it is still very difficult to make "Tangshan Record" into a vivid image of "doing evil and parading the streets", it needs a lot of excellent quality blessings. For example, you need great courage, extraordinary courage, extraordinary courage, and you also need to deal with the "good" side of your "wolf" and "heartless". In fact, these excellent qualities are the temperament attributes of great men, which are difficult for ordinary people to possess. It is difficult for ordinary people to achieve the world, and it is also difficult to become the "devil of the world."
Back to the topic, that is, how should we or our children avoid becoming the next Tangshan Chen Mou Chronicle? Even if it is difficult to become a chronicle of Tangshan Chen Mou, it is easy to become a miniature or reduced version of Tangshan Chen Mou. "Lao Lai" runs rampant in society, and "little people" run rampant in the market is the best explanation.
The first is to avoid dropping out of school prematurely (especially for your children). After all, schools have a relatively "orthodox" and "pure" environment, while "society" is a more "complex" environment. The harm caused by dropping out of school prematurely is obvious to the naked eye. Of course, many parents may "pass the buck": it is not that we let their children drop out of school, but that they want to drop out of school and "mix society". Whether such a reason or a simple "excuse" is feasible is not important. The important thing is that, in any case, the result is for us to be responsible and bear. Just think about the situation of Tang Shanzhi's parents. What you should do in the end depends on how afraid you are of the possible "degeneration" of your child.
In fact, there is a very simple way to avoid becoming a "chronicle of Tangshan Chen Mou", and that is to choose reliable friends instead of those who have bad records, are bold and do "secret" business.
It is impossible for someone who has never known you to rob a bank. Don't worry, it's our friends who can influence us. Although we can't choose the circle of friends assigned by God, such as classmates and colleagues, we can choose the attitude towards them, such as "deep friendship", "closeness", "keeping distance" and "staying away" respectively. You must stay away from those unprincipled, dishonest and cruel friends. This is to "lead an honest and clean life" and to protect yourself. After all, you can't "get out of the mud without being stained." Don't go near crows if you don't want to get dark. This is the best advice for yourself.
Financial health mainly refers to a stable and normal income source and a slight surplus in net assets.
If life is tight, or the loan is unable to repay when it is due, the individual may deviate from normal, and the threshold of "despair" will be raised, that is, the danger that others think, while people in crisis still do not feel the danger, thus making mistakes "naturally".
In this respect, God is fair, and everyone has the same reaction to difficulties. The only thing we can do is: prevention. How to prevent it is to maintain financial health.
What needs special reminder is to avoid abnormal income. The so-called abnormal income refers to unreasonable and illegal income. For example, "opening a casino" to earn money, even illiterate people know that it is illegal to open a casino in China. Anyone who still insists that gambling income is normal income can't be saved.
Adding an "umbrella" to yourself is the biggest irresponsibility to yourself. "Umbrella" will reduce our psychological fear of "breaking the law", make us feel "bring our own aura" and make us "brave and resourceful", as mentioned at the beginning. Anyone will be confused by this sense of superiority, and so will human nature.
Therefore, it is not difficult for us to reject "supercilious". Just think about the size of the world, how many people are better than us? No matter from which angle, we are just a "pony" in society. Why can you "rule the world"? Isn't that too dangerous?
It is easy to give up the blessing of rights and stick to self-reliance, but people just like to believe beautiful lies, and tragedy will follow.
"Yellow gambling" is the poison of life. If you want to be happy, you might as well try. The bad news is that this happiness is illusory and short-lived. At the same time, it is accompanied by some side effects, such as being abandoned by society and failing in life.
The more realistic consequences are: huge economic costs and physical and mental health, blowing in the wind. If there is a mine at home, "yellow gambling poison" will accelerate the consumption of minerals to exhaustion; If there is no mine at home, you and your family will be miserable. What may be waiting for you is "usury", and then the declaration of "bankruptcy in life". No matter whether there is a mine or not, physical and mental health will leave you, leaving a corpse-like body, and the noble soul has long been out of the body and invisible.
Therefore, people with a little common sense know why so many people are still addicted to "pornography and gambling". In the final analysis, it is either our psychological emptiness and fragility or too many temptations from the outside world. People always like to overestimate our ability to escape punishment.
Stay awake, stay long-term and keep fighting. You can enjoy yourself moderately, but don't covet temporary bliss. Things will get really bad. Anyway, leave some room for the rest of your life and continue to enjoy it.
The last technical suggestion is to avoid frequent and heavy drinking in "Jianghu", especially in "night Jianghu". Late at night will give people the illusion of "being in the dark", and drinking will amplify a person's characteristics, especially his bad habits. It is rare to help lonely old people carry water after drinking, but it is common to release psychological "demons". This is also reflected from the side. Most people have a "devil" in their hearts (such as cowardice, depression, injustice, etc. This is not a shameful thing. What we have to do is to calm our emotions and reduce the impulse of "licentiousness". This can be done completely. Life is like a play. How to act depends on the script. What reason do we have to persistently "be true to ourselves"? In order to get happiness, we have to "continue to bear our burden".
Finally, what should we do if we are unlucky enough to have a relationship with Chen Mou in Tangshan? Of course, the best way is to resist, which is the so-called "don't be silent, or you will be next." However, if our strength does not allow us (for example, there is no "umbrella"), our resistance will be ineffective and powerless, so we can only choose to "pet" them, and "pet" them is not necessarily morally corrupt, so they can continue to "pet". This "opponent" will not be his family or his friend. It is conceivable that his big ending will come eventually.
Furthermore, what we have to do is to keep working hard, keep growing and become a strong person. At the same time, we also choose modesty, low-key and kindness. At this time, you can really "rule the world". You are so powerful and kind that even your arrogant enemies can resist you.