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In speaking, most people don't look in the mirror at all, don't check whether they have nose hair or vegetable residue, and don't listen carefully to their tone, voice, rhythm and content.
If you want to change anything, you must first know yourself.
Look at your voice in the mirror, record your voice with your mobile phone, listen and see what it feels like. Or, ask an acquaintance and listen to you. How would you feel?
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Being a good person is painful, how to politely refuse? When you say "no", try to put the blame on yourself.
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Reporting to your boss, the precious eight minutes should be a hook to lure your boss to ask more questions after listening.
Making others feel dissatisfied with you is always the highest goal.
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If you don't want to make a long speech and finally be ignored, put your thoughts in your head first, and then tell each other succinctly and solemnly. Don't be misled by idioms such as "eloquent" and "gushing". Don't let your words fall unanswered and become worthless.
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Gossip is inevitable, but we can pursue a tasteful way to gossip instead of speaking ill of others behind their backs.
Avoid speaking ill of your ex-partner and boss, as long as the other person is knowledgeable, he will feel uneasy. Because they can predict that one day, you will say the same thing to them.
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Some people call and often say a lot of information rudely, mostly telemarketing. Their logic is that business can be done by delivering their information as soon as possible. But in fact, the person who answers the phone either politely says "no thanks" and hangs up, or just hangs up quickly and coldly.
If you call, ask the other person first: I wonder if I can lend you three minutes? First of all, this respect may have won the favor of the other party, and I really want to hear what you have to say. If it is something that attracts each other, natural business will come.
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Being late is a waste of other people's time, and not preparing the report is a waste of other people's time and attention. Opening with reasons such as "I have a cold" will only make the atmosphere at the scene fall into a low tide from the beginning and make your report sound weaker and less powerful than before.
I suggest that you try your best to finish the report before adding explanations, which may be more popular with everyone. It is better to leave the difficulties behind.
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Self-mockery is not only a speaking skill, but also a manifestation of self-confidence. We don't have to laugh at ourselves often, it will be very pitiful.
We might as well find the source of our self-confidence first, and then take self-mockery as our occasional relaxation time. You will find that once you relax, others will relax.
More importantly, once you relax and would rather laugh at yourself than others, you will gradually become a person with a sense of humor. Do you know how precious a sense of humor is? There are many people who are not tall, handsome or rich. It is because of humor that they have won excellent partners!
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People who keep saying "I am XXX", "I am like this", "I am like this", "I am from last year" and "I am from next year" are not only boring, but also very corny. Try to swallow the word "I" back and replace it with another word. This is not only to prevent you from becoming a "native egg who always thinks you are the most important", but also has a very important role: to keep your mystery and give others room to develop their imagination.
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There are actually quite a few people who need to "understand after listening to the conclusion". Life is busy, but everyone is multitasking. Even if you explain the process of one thing in detail, others may be absent-minded, or turn a corner and come to a completely different conclusion from you. Therefore, in order to ensure that everyone is on the same track, it is best to simply state your position, have a clear title, then explain, and finally draw a conclusion to ensure that the other party understands us.
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If you are a person with a weak sense of existence, then gold chains, diamond watches or rude words may cover up your existence and usurp the role of master.
On weekdays, it is best to use less big words such as "superlative", such as "supreme", "king", "master" and "henceforth", even top words will become vulgar and will be contaminated with greasy Jianghu flavor.
The way of speaking is about parenting strategies and mentality. These are neither higher nor lower than morality, nor do they involve morality.
Don't pull self-cultivation to the opposite of honesty. These two dimensions are different and are two different things. Honesty is used to face yourself, not the outside, but your heart. That is, be honest with yourself. That is the most precious position of honesty.
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People's desires and hatred are very similar. When you regard the other person as a god, goddess or male god, if you lose your normal mind, you will easily become a nervous ghost, disturb your navigation system, fly in the wrong direction and land in the wrong place.
Of course, respect is good, but respect to fear, fear to tremble, shake, that is a problem. It is definitely not disrespectful to treat any person on the altar as a normal person, but to make the other person feel that speaking is a relaxed and happy thing.
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Many people are willing to call themselves "foodies", but few people call themselves "travel goods" or "fashion goods". Eating is easier than traveling or chasing fashion, but you can really "walk away", just don't look for a restaurant too far away.
When I don't know what to talk about, I just talk about food. Of course, I believe some people don't like talking about food. However, what we are pursuing is "we can talk". It is better to leave without a fight.
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If you want to express yourself in your speech, don't ignore it: you can express yourself by listening ability, not by speaking ability.
If a person can understand what he is saying at a party, he will hear a topic worth discussing in the continuous words of the other party. When you answer the phone, it will make others at the scene feel refreshed and find the topic you chose very interesting.
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No knowledge, no opinion, no sense of humor, these may take some time to get promoted. However, your enthusiasm and deep interest in people, things and things that appear in your life can be changed in an instant.
When exchanging business cards, reading the other person's name may also be a good material for conversation and show that you are interested in the person in front of you.
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Humans are not robots. A long speech with conclusive evidence may not convince us to donate money, but photos of cute children with big eyes and tears can immediately impress us.
When we ask others why, what we usually need is an emotional response, not a rational answer.
When you have to do something that others may disagree with without sufficient reason, you'd better bite the bullet and give a reason. You may still feel guilty, but the other person will feel much better for no reason.
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Before trying to convince others, you can consider whether you can give an example to prove your idea and let the other person understand.
If you don't want to get married all your life, then observe other people who are still happy without getting married. When you go home for the New Year, you can give those happy examples.
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There is no shame in showing weakness, it's just a trick. Coquetry is a skill in communication. After all, we are no longer living in the wild jungle where brute force is used blindly.
Don't ignore the power of coquetry, and don't put this weapon aside just because you are not a beautiful girl.
Although coquetry is a strange trick, it can often save lives. If boys are worried that coquetry is too "sissy" and they have psychological obstacles, then imagine themselves as children, and they should be able to adapt to weakness from the standpoint of children. Anyway, many women love to say: a man is still a child no matter how old he is!
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When we are grateful, we should express our reasons for thanking each other in words instead of saying "thank you" all the time.
Practice thanking. Don't just say thank you next time. Just add another sentence: "I really want to thank Dr. Chen. If it hadn't taken him six hours to operate on me, my life would have been gone. " "I must thank Miss Jin for her help. If she hadn't lent me 100 thousand yuan in time, my company would have closed down long ago. "
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It is impolite to whisper unnecessarily, which shows that you are not confident. It is also impolite to speak unnecessarily loudly, which means that you have no ability to control the appropriate volume and lack control.
Think of a tiger or a lion. Liger can yell when he wants to. But when they are close to their prey, they will put their feet very lightly, and even wild animals have such measurement and control ability!
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If you have expectations of others, you can try to clarify your requirements with a neutral attitude without emotion, instead of always complaining about the sentence' The world is terrible' first.
There is also a fun game, you can play with friends or by yourself, practice positive thinking and avoid falling into the ocean of complaints. The game is: praise one thing after each spit.
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Speak more skillfully and let people see your ability to process information.
For example:
"What do you do?"
"I'm a heart surgeon."
This answer is simple and easy to understand, but it is a bit dry.
"I often open other people's bodies and let that person live for another two years."
This answer has many words and is more "juicy"
If you speak in a bland way, you will get a bland response. If you speak in a more tasteful way, you may get a more tasteful response.
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We often make excuses for ourselves and wrap our hearts into an airtight cocoon.
If you want to know your heart, you have to reel off the cocoon. Learn to speak.
Speaking is actually for yourself. Keeping a diary and writing a blog is also a kind of talk, which can help us release our emotions and clear our minds. Of course, it is a faster way to talk to a psychological counselor.
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Spoken English is something that we can make continuous progress with a little effort.
Although talking must involve others, just like driving on the road, the people we meet may be rude or unreasonable. But we can't throw caution to the wind just because others drive indiscriminately, because it is related to our own happiness.
Others may be reckless, but we will do it well within our own scope.
We must make what we say our own responsibility, and no one can correct it for us. And what we say well and gain the most, of course, is ourselves.