This phenomenon happens from time to time, because many children are raised by four old people and two parents. In the long run, there will be many problems in this educational model.
This can also be summarized as 6+ 1 mode. The so-called 6+ 1 means 6 adults and 1 children, that is, grandparents, grandparents and parents. Under this model, intergenerational education has become the focus. After all, the cost of raising children is high now, and parents are mostly working. At this time, the burden of raising babies basically falls on the elderly.
There are many examples of intergenerational education in society now. Most of them are parents who go out to work hard to earn money, and their children are left to the elderly to help take care of them. But what caused this phenomenon?
1, social reasons
With the rapid development of modern society, the pressure on two young people to support their parents and children is naturally great. Therefore, young parents have to ask the elderly to help take care of their children and go out to work hard on their own, hoping to get a better life.
2. Parents' own reasons
Now many young people like to spend money in advance. They not only have to pay back the expenses, but also the monthly mortgage and car loan, which requires them to put more time and energy into their work.
And now young parents are more fashionable and self-centered. I don't think I should give all my time to my children, and I should also leave some time to enrich my life.
3, the reason of the elderly
Nowadays, many old people retire at home and feel that retirement is a bit boring, so they want to help young people take care of their children. This can not only reduce the pressure on children, but also have a child to accompany them.
In fact, intergenerational education has many disadvantages. Incorrect methods will affect the development of children. Parents should see the disadvantages of intergenerational education and start to solve these problems.
1, doting on children too much
Humans have an instinct, that is, every generation of relatives. If the elderly are allowed to take care of the children, they will be afraid that the children will be tired or delay their study time, thus preventing them from doing housework. Some old people will let their precious children lose their ability to take care of themselves because they won't let them do anything, which is very unfavorable to their growth.
2, unscientific feeding
Many old people can't raise children scientifically. Children are growing up, and a balanced nutrition is very important. But old people don't know how to feed their children more scientifically. If the child wants to eat snacks, the old man will buy him many snacks. It will lead to long-term malnutrition in children, which may affect their development.
3. Backward ideas
The concept of the elderly is relatively backward, because their thinking mode can't keep up with the development of the present era. So they will use traditional ideas and methods to educate their children and instill some old ideas and concepts into them. But now is a society with rapid development of high technology, and the old ideas of the elderly will make children miss good learning opportunities.
In fact, under the current social situation, intergenerational education is likely to exist for a long time. So we must learn its advantages and make up for its shortcomings. Teach these points to the elderly, and generations of parenting can also raise good children.
1. Allow children to do their own things.
Do your own thing, which is what everyone should know. Let children do some housework properly, which can exercise their hands-on ability and independence and improve their self-care ability.
Working part-time is also a kind of learning, so parents must warn the elderly to allow their children to do it, and don't do it all for their children because they are afraid of being tired. Such an "arrangement" may make children unwilling to do things.
2. Pay attention to children's quality education.
Many old people pay more attention to material life than spiritual life. Because they were very bitter when they were young, they didn't want their children to experience the pain at that time again, so they would give their children better material enjoyment and ignore spiritual education.
Old people must pay attention not only to give children good material enjoyment, but also to establish a good character for them.
3. Keep your promise.
Sometimes children don't want to eat. In order to coax their children to eat, old people will promise their children what toys or snacks to buy, and children will believe them. However, this reason is actually just made up by adults to let their children eat, and few people seriously fulfill their promises to their children.
It's wrong to lie. Even if lies are well-intentioned, adults should set an example and do what they say. If they can't do it, don't promise the children. Adults can't teach children. It's irresponsible.
If there are old people at home and there are treasures, young people should guide them to learn the correct way of education. Old people should not rest on their laurels, but should keep up with the times and learn scientific educational methods. In the current situation of intergenerational education, six adults always exchange their own educational methods together, so that information exchange can better suit the remedy to the case.
Finally, find the most suitable way to raise children, and children will have a wonderful childhood and future. (The pictures are all from the Internet and have been deleted. )