It is a popular immature psychological state, avoiding unprovoked attacks and transferring reprimands to the victims. The direct cause depends on the fear of hegemonism, so imposing on the weak is the safest mentality to express opinions. This makes many victims not only bear the existing injuries, but also cope with demanding and intolerant social development.
For example, it was reported recently that a 40-year-old uncle pretended to be a graduate of a famous university and the boss of luxury bag business, and cheated a dozen beautiful college students to eat and drink. In a large number of comments from netizens, many of them scold these inexperienced girls. "Where are the students so stupid?" "Not arrogant?" "Bitch deserved it?" "Women who don't understand the weight of self-esteem are not easy for some people?"
These people mainly behave as if they were born cheated, holding their heads high and guiding all sentient beings.
These girls met a considerate, experienced and capable middle-aged man. What is love counseling? Who is not tempted if you are obsessed? Everything feels absurd when it is exposed, but in fact, one person deliberately makes another person like himself and is completely desperate. It is not easy for a liar company to care about self-esteem, not to mention whether the service promise can be fulfilled. They all dare to say that they are willing to tell many lies, draw the outline of one beautiful pale pink bubble after another, and create a rose-red emotional palace. This is how to use the dream 2 future as bait to lead them into the emotional trap step by step.
I saw a sentence on the Internet the other day: "Don't envy people who are more mature than you. They just see more bad people than you." You can't sayno. At the age of 20, I watched TV dramas with my classmates until late at night before I dared to go home by myself. Because I have a thorough definition of bad guys, I didn't know to be careful when it gets dark until I was robbed once. Bad guys run around.
The bad guys are always there, and the liar company is always there. There is no need to reprimand the victims, accommodate their situation and increase the punishment for fraudulent companies. From the girl's point of view, we should also see through the cheater's tricks, understand our own impulses and shortcomings, and strive to improve our anti-fraud value.
How to actually improve? Let me tell you, you listen, the anti-fraud classroom teaching of my sister who sleeps late has begun.
The first is to treat your own psychological state of insecurity correctly.
Many girls who love to find grandpa and have a great preference for old men have Oedipus complex. They either lack the care of their father at home-the absence of our father is very common (see my article "Absent Father" for details, and I won't go into details here), or they are spoiled and immature, and can't help looking for fatherly tolerance in their feelings.
Middle-aged and elderly men mean a sense of belonging to insecure girls, which means that they can be completely inclusive and casual in front of them, while boys of the same age often make them feel unreliable. However, this pursuit of perfection for the sake of age difference can easily lead to inequality in experience and attract fraudulent companies. Grandfathers are not all like Wu Xiubo, Zhang Jiayi and so on. They are warm and tasteful on the screen. But when people reach middle age, Chinese aunts tend to be more and more arrogant, while China men tend to be more and more obscene. They will regard girls' admiration for them as a way to get satisfaction. It is ok to play emotional hand games, but it is really difficult to be sincere.
Zhang Tie-Lin was told that there were not only illegitimate children "Fujin" but also illegitimate children "brothers". According to the report, he treated the mother of two children in exactly the same way. He tricked them into falling in love with the true identity of his big-name star, but refused to get married for various reasons when he was pregnant, followed by cold domestic violence, which made the other party feel that their feelings could not be carried out and broke up. So some men cheat openly, and some men cheat secretly, which is difficult to tell.
Unsafe girls don't need to find uncles, and it's not the smartest countermeasure to make up for their own shortcomings. People who lack love have cracks in their hearts, so we should understand and change from the source. If you want to fall in love, try to choose these men with harmonious family, sunny psychological state and extroverted personality. They are more tolerant and clear, and can correctly guide people who lack love to see the more positive side of daily life, such as lighting a secluded place with a fire.
True love is a feeling, _ there are shortcuts. Between them, being lazy with old men and making their life trajectory and work experience the core of their own life trajectory, it is better to grope and stumble with young people of the same age. From the most negative point of view, even if they miss the liar, they don't have the way and mind of an old man, which is easier to distinguish.
The second way to improve the value of fraud prevention is that the object must know each other's daily life.
Internet social networking platform has narrowed the distance between people, but it also gives fraud companies an opportunity. In the case of impersonating CEO to cheat beautiful college students, Tian used QQ chat to close the distance with girls, then intrigued to reduce girls' alert psychological state, and then invited them to meet, so as to achieve the purpose of cheating money by himself.
In the whole process, he has exposed all kinds of truths, such as finding out that the old identity document, name, birth details and address do not match himself, and one of the girls was sent to an area where he gambled. Someone told her not to associate with Hotan in Xinjiang, saying that he was "inferior", but this abnormal place was cheated by him in a few words. If you don't know the other person's home, true identity, situation, work and all the contacts are described by the defendant himself, then many risks will naturally be hidden. Even if it is not a fraud company, it is too convenient to break up. Once QQ is closed, WeChat is deleted, and the mobile phone number is changed, no one can be found.
A man, if he really loves a woman and has won her love, he can't wait to announce it to the world. He will take her to meet his basin friends and relatives, which is a way for him to ensure that they can have a connection and bridge beyond feelings, and also to get better confirmation and wishes. There must be something wrong with these secretive and timid men. They never allow women to get close to their daily social circles.
What is the ending of love? Some fraud companies also bring women close to their daily lives, but what he brings in are customers, friends at the negotiating table, and unusual classmates and old comrades-in-arms, which are the outfield social circles of his daily life. These people probably don't know his real life and identity, and they don't pay attention to the relationship between the woman he brought in and him. In addition, we should be wary of a man, that is, when introducing his girlfriend to people around him, he doesn't want to recognize it in person, but just says evasively, "This is my pen pal." Girlfriends and pen pals are far apart. The man who has been doing this all the time must be playing the suspense to break up.
To improve the value of fraud prevention, we should also have basic common sense of life.
There are many reasons why young girls are constantly cheated because they lack common sense of life. I understand that there is a fraud company that pretends to be an agent of the National Security Bureau and must often go abroad to study and perform tasks. Their relationship must be kept secret, and they can't tell others or keep in touch all the time. The girl couldn't find him until he called. At first glance, this kind of lie is a big lie of the fraud company. The little girl actually believed it and foolishly kept his secret. Until the man finally finished eating and cleaned up, he ran away. She begged netizens to help him find it and worried that he had given up his mission. During the 365 nights when she missed him, everyone else was at home holding her daughter-in-law and sleeping soundly.
If people in love and cheaters want to cheat, in addition to being friendly, they must also come up with all kinds of dazzling names, such as which official, which national ministry, which expert and professor, and which boss are bigger than each other. This is not only to better enhance the assets of cheating, but also to add a lot of mystery to themselves. This kind of getting rid of the real identity of ordinary people allows them to give full play to their performances and make up all kinds of lies at will. But this kind of lie is also easy to be punctured. For example, Tian, a former student, said that he was a graduate of Tsinghua, Peking University, and was engaged in antique trading. Is it possible for such a person to live in a dilapidated bungalow?