First of all, consciousness is not born to children, but needs to be cultivated. Let children know the importance of consciousness, pay attention to him in their hearts, know the disadvantages and losses of unconsciousness, and constantly strengthen this consciousness.
Second, whenever the child is conscious, encourage him to reward him, think of a more optimistic attitude, and make himself more willing to continue to do it.
Third, let children try to be standardized and orderly in their daily lives and cultivate good living habits.
Fourth, try to cultivate children's sense of responsibility, be serious and responsible, and have a sense of responsibility to do it consciously and persist.
I hope the above can be useful to you.
First of all, to determine the child's symptoms and diagnose the child's illness, it is necessary to go to the hospital first, and some need to be relieved by taking psychotropic drugs. This prescription right is only available to hospital doctors. In addition, with counseling, you can find a psychological counselor who agrees with your child and has a high degree of matching. Of course, what psychological counselors need more is the cooperation of parents, so the initial consultation is carried out in the form of family consultation.
Hospitals and psychological counseling institutions have their own strengths. Before the consultation, it is very important to evaluate the patients. Through the past medical history or physical examination results in the hospital, we can know the severity of the child's problems, whether the psychological problems have an organic pathological basis, and the evaluation of psychiatry can judge whether the child's problems are beyond the scope of psychological counseling. So I suggest you take your child to the hospital for examination first. In the above circumstances, you can go to the counseling agency and choose a counselor who is good at adolescent psychological problems to do psychological counseling for your child.
Hello, I'm Mr. Chuan, and I'm glad to answer your question! 12- 13 years old is the beginning of children's rebellious period, and there are many problems at this age. There is only the concept of adolescence in history, and there is no concept of rebellious period. Children grow up quickly, but their parents give up learning and stop growing up after their children join the work, which leads to the inability to communicate effectively with their children, and the children's hearts are gradually closed to their parents. Parents can't understand this phenomenon, so they coined the word rebellious period, which is actually caused by parents not learning the correct family education! Let me talk about five core concepts of parent-child relationship for your reference:
1, family education is far greater than school education. Family is the first school in a child's life, and parents are the first teachers. The influence of family education on children's life reaches 80%, and school education is only 20%. School education tries its best to improve children by 20 points at most, while family education can improve children by 40 points with a little effort. Therefore, instead of taking their children to see a psychiatrist, parents should learn more about family education and psychology.
2. Childhood education is far greater than adult education. Most of children's rebellious behavior in adolescence comes from their childhood experiences. As the saying goes, a three-year-old boss looks after his old age at the age of seven. A child who was not treated well in childhood will not be treated well in this world when he grows up; Unfortunate childhood takes a lifetime to heal, while happy childhood can heal all wounds in the rest of my life. If it is difficult for parents to realize their mistakes and change their behavior, it is also difficult for adolescent children to change!
3. Parent-child relationship is far greater than parenting education. Without good relations, there is no education. All education without good relations is bring disgrace to oneself, which is self-defeating. Parents should learn to communicate effectively, spend more time with their children, set a good example and handle the relationship with their children, so as to do a good job in children's education. Love is love, but not love is hurt!
4. Intimacy is far greater than parent-child relationship. Parents' best love for their children is conjugal love. A stupid wife accuses her husband in front of the children, and a stupid husband insults his wife in front of the children. Father's best love for children is to spoil his wife desperately, and mother's best love for children is to respect and recognize her husband.
Parents study hard, and children make progress every day. Parents are originals, children are copies, and there is something wrong with the copies. The root cause must be the original. The pattern of parents is at the height of 10000 meters. When children spread their wings and fly, they are eagles. When parents are at the height of 10 meter, children are flies no matter how they fly. In the family, parents are the strong group, children are the weak group, and the performance of the weak group is determined by the strong group. If parents are positive, children will be full of sunshine; If parents complain every day, children will rebel and degenerate.
Finally, children will not respect you because you are a parent, but because you deserve respect. If your child's behavior really reaches the point where you have to see a doctor, I suggest you take your child to a professional psychological counseling institution!
Why does psychological counseling involve doctors? Children's growth and development, parents' family factors and school environmental factors are all great. Children's psychological knot mainly depends on their parents. If a child has a problem, he should talk to his parents, see what the parents have, and communicate with the child equally. If it is an external problem, parents can make their children feel safe and trust in front of him. Your own children don't even know who to choose.
According to the child's condition, you can go to the hospital for examination first, then roughly judge the child's condition, and then choose a reliable and matching psychotherapist/consultant.
According to the child's situation, you can go to the hospital for a general diagnosis and listen to the doctor's advice: if the child has conflicts, you can find a psychological counselor and get the child's consent before going, so the effect will be better.
Really?
Fake?
It depends on the specific situation of the child.
Psychological counseling in the hospital will be better.