If the patient says that someone is wearing a "golden hoop hat" on his head, you must never say no, just let him sit down, close his eyes and rest, shake his hand around his head and help him take off his hat. Finally, it is said that it has been taken out and burned, and patients can generally recover.
Some seriously ill patients often say that they always dream that their dead relatives and friends will invite him, and even say that they have seen a "ghost"! It is often much better for them to buy a ghost dog and invite a Guanyin statue to give them double protection.
Psychotherapy (including hypnosis) is similar to drug therapy, and the methods vary from person to person. There is no need to limit one or two methods.
The key to effective psychotherapy is to establish a good relationship between consultation and interview. If patients don't trust the psychotherapist, they can't achieve the treatment goal. If you want to continue treatment, you must first establish a trust relationship.
Most patients don't trust doctors, because hundreds of patients have not been treated systematically and timely for the first time, and their recovery after later treatment is slow (or the effect is not obvious), which makes patients have no confidence in treating diseases. Furthermore, it is known that such patients do not admit that they are sick and do not cooperate with treatment (the condition is serious). As long as you follow the doctor's advice or compulsory hospitalization, there will be a real cure, so that patients can slowly cooperate with the later consolidation treatment like normal people. It is very difficult for this disease, and it is a test of love and endurance for the patients' families!
The ancients taught me, three don't cure six don't cure.
A therapy; Intellectual man fit and heavy wealth, two governance also; Food and clothing are inadequate, and three treatments will not heal; Yin and yang are combined, the dirty qi is uncertain, and the four are incurable; Ying Xing can't take medicine, and five treatments can't cure it; If you trust witches instead of doctors, you won't be cured after six treatments. If there is, it will be difficult to treat.
Yan can't stop ghosts who want to die. There is nothing he can do.
It is normal.
A few years ago, a friend's son was a junior and addicted to games, which seriously affected his normal study and life. So a friend took his son to a famous psychological hospital in Beijing.
Unexpectedly, after a friend told her son's situation in detail, the female doctor actually met an intimate friend whom she had not seen for many years, clapping her hands and saying, Oh! Almost exactly like my son! Children nowadays can't do it.
My friend was shocked and was struck by lightning for several minutes!
On the way home, the father and son were angry and funny, but they eased the tense father-son relationship.
This true story tells us that not all psychotherapists can be trusted.
For patients with depression, the psychologist who can finally treat you may not be at a high level, but it must be suitable for you, so you must try different doctors until you find the right one.
In addition, while seeking the help of psychologists, it is best to read some psychological books and study by yourself. Please believe that the best psychotherapist in the world is actually yourself!
Say to the visitor: since you don't trust, there is no need to pay. Don't consult if you don't trust, otherwise it will be a waste of time for both sides. When you are ready and have trust.
For psychological counselors, it is not free consultation, but also to find out the reasons why visitors don't trust themselves. If it's not your fault, don't take it to heart. The next step is to refer to it.
If the patient does not trust the psychotherapist, there will be no therapeutic effect. Without trust, you can't open your heart, you can't release your emotions and open your heart.
Psychotherapists need to have enough affinity and professionalism. If patients don't trust them, the first choice is to refer them to other psychological teachers. If you have the ability to build affinity and trust through short-term communication and interaction, you can continue to do psychotherapy. Otherwise, the psychotherapist should take the initiative to end this consultation to protect the patient's physical and mental safety.
Finding a suitable psychotherapist is one of the important factors that patients need to consider.
You can cancel the employment agreement and pay for the psychiatrist yourself according to the regulations.
First of all, it is an important way to achieve trust by carefully analyzing the reasons for not trusting the therapist, if it belongs to the type that can be solved through hard work. The following information is for reference:
1. The patient has suffered secondary injuries from other therapists before, which is not directly related to the therapist, but the patient has related associations. Therapists should produce professional qualifications, cases, etc. , or through a third party he trusts. Step forward and guide.
2. Since the patient found a therapist, it means that he trusted at first, otherwise he would not establish contact. At this stage, there is distrust. In addition to violating professional ethics, there may be misunderstandings between patients and therapists. Patients think that therapists can't understand their own situation well, so they have the illusion of "distrust". Therapists should carefully analyze whether the treatment plan is biased, or the illusion of "distrust" is also one of the links in the treatment process.
3. If it is family therapy, the family members who accompany the patients can understand the situation and analyze the main problems. If the family members do not trust the therapist, it is recommended to change the therapist.
4. If patients and therapists can't reach trust through professional judgment and efforts, it is suggested to refer patients or respect their independent wishes.
What if the patient doesn't trust the psychotherapist?
Nowadays, there are many people with mental illness, and many students (mostly middle school students) have learning disabilities, and their learning efficiency is low, so they can't learn. This is also an anxiety disorder in itself, and a large number of insomniacs need psychological counseling and psychotherapy.
There are two main reasons for not believing. First, they don't think they are psychological problems, and psychotherapy is useless. Such people are paranoid, especially some children. His parents are in such a hurry that he just doesn't believe it.
There is also a kind of psychological consultation, psychotherapy, which has no effect. It may also be that the experts asked by the client have no effect, so they don't believe it. They think that psychotherapy and counseling are nonsense and useless at all.
In both cases, the result is persistent illness and pain. If you are a family member, you must first understand that mental illness must be solved through psychological adjustment. Use relatives and friends and the Internet to find a truly reliable psychological counselor. You can look at the articles, videos and audio of these psychological professionals, and combine the patient's experience to see if it makes sense. If you feel similar to yourself, you can contact and communicate. If the patient has a bad relationship with his family. If you don't listen, you can find someone who has a good relationship with the patient and ask them to help convince him. When persuading, guide the patient to watch those articles and audio. If he thinks it makes sense, he can try to start.
The truth and solutions of all so-called mental diseases such as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, bipolar disorder, phobia and schizophrenia.
Psychological and mental problems are very serious social phenomena at present, especially among children, which is really heartbreaking. Because they don't know the truth and solutions, many people fall into inner pain and despair that others can't imagine, and even want to give up their lives. It also caused the collapse of countless families. As a person who has come out of more than 20 years of psychological pain, I really want to help more friends who are as painful as me.
First of all, I want to tell you that it is an extremely wrong choice to choose to end your life. Ending life is not a painful end, but just another endless and painful beginning. Life will never end, and every life has its meaning.
Secondly, I want to tell you that all the so-called psychological and mental diseases, no matter what type they are, no matter how serious they think, no matter how complicated their physical and mental symptoms are, are just an external manifestation, that is, they are only symptoms and results, and there is no substantial pathological change. Why are these so-called psychological and mental diseases so difficult to cure? Because most of our clients don't really understand the essence, truth and root of mental illness. If we find the root of psychological and mental illness, no matter how serious the problem is, no matter how complicated and unusual the situation is, any problem will naturally be solved. All psychological and mental diseases are essentially the same, but different people have different emotional and physical symptoms. Because of the strange symptoms, everyone is different and has different names, but the process and way of recovery are exactly the same.
So, what are the root causes of mental illness and mental illness?
Most people will let go of negative emotions quickly, but we can't. We must solve it, even if the larger foe breaks through, the result will be more and more serious. As everyone knows, if you don't solve the problem, you will put it down and solve it. There is nothing to solve at all, and there is no psychological or mental illness at all. These problems, which do not need management at all, produce so-called psychological and mental diseases in the process of solving them.
Emotion and body are related, and negative emotions can also cause some physiological and physical changes, which are called various test results and physical symptoms. In fact, these changes are only physiological changes caused by negative emotions, and there is no substantial pathological change. If negative emotions disappear, these physical symptoms will soon disappear.
Of course, as I said, these negative emotions and physical symptoms are only symptoms, not the root cause. In order to eradicate the so-called psychological and mental diseases and reduce the occurrence of negative emotions, we must start from the root causes. So, what is the root cause?
The root lies in our hearts, in wrong thinking patterns and concepts, and in our insistence on something. In fact, everyone and everything have two sides, but we always cling to one side and insist on getting a certain person, a certain thing, a certain result or goal, and can't accept other results. For example, some children have to get a certain score and get evaluation and recognition from others. If you can't get it, you will suffer. If you get it, you will be afraid of losing it. All kinds of worries, fears, fears.
Some people regret the past, but what's the use of regret? The past is the past.
Some people especially resent the harm that others have done to themselves in the past, but the harm has already been done. When will you retaliate? Others hurt us only for a while, and then it is themselves who have been hurting us. Why bother yourself.
Some people feel inferior. In fact, each of us is unique and has our own strengths. If everyone in the world is the same, what's the point of this world? Everyone has his own characteristics, and there is no distinction between good and bad.
Some people complain that their parents didn't bring them good conditions, but great men of humble origins abound in ancient and modern times and at home and abroad. We must learn to accept the reality.
Some people think that as long as they have money, they will be fine. However, in fact, the rich are much more depressed and the poor are also very happy. Happiness depends on yourself. People's desires are endless. If the concept remains unchanged, even with money, there will be other bigger new problems waiting for us.
Some people think it would be nice to change the environment. Perhaps, the new environment will bring temporary relief, but because the inner thoughts have not changed, new problems will also be encountered.
Some people suffer from incurable diseases. In fact, physical illness and mental illness are the same, just like fever, it is the self-protection of the human body, reminding us that the heart is connected, and they are just symptoms. If we change our hearts in the wrong way, the disease will complete its mission and leave us. Including infectious diseases, it seems random, but it doesn't make sense.
Some people attribute mental illness and mental illness to family background. What hope can we have if we believe this theory? How do you explain how many children in a family have different personalities? In fact, it is because members of a family are prone to form similar false belief systems and thinking patterns.
Some people attribute mental illness and mental illness to heredity, which is even more absurd. Who was born with mental illness and mental illness? What was it before you got sick? This theory kills people. In fact, this is also because members of a family are prone to form similar false belief systems and thinking patterns.
In short, the reasons seem to be varied, but they can all be attributed to clinging to something, and there are always things that can't be let go. So, put it down and everything will be fine.
Some people say, I don't know my reason, I am puzzled. How is that possible? If you think about it carefully, all your negative emotions must be linked to something, and that is our persistence. What we can't stop in our minds is our persistence.
Some children have psychological problems since childhood, which is also related to persistence. This persistence is probably related to the influence of parents' educational concepts or children's social relations. By listening and listening, children form some wrong ideas at an early age, which makes them feel pressured to study, or makes them feel inferior and compare with others. In fact, sometimes parents don't know what their children are thinking.
There must be a persistence or desire behind any pain, and letting go of persistence is the only way to solve any problem.
Because the wrong heart brings negative emotions, which in turn brings various physical changes. Heart is cause, body is fruit, never put the cart before the horse.
We should change our hearts, don't pursue material things excessively, don't browse bad websites, and don't just know that the meaning of life is dedication. Dedication is the road to happiness.
Many parents not only have their own misconceptions, but also impose them on their children, blaming others for hurting their children and themselves.
All desires and negative emotions are negative energy, which will be constantly entangled and amplified, and a vicious circle. In the end, positive energy will be less and less, and finally it will even develop to be proud of negative energy and ashamed of positive energy without knowing it. Can this not bring pain? Isn't this a common phenomenon in modern society? Why do most people live in pain? This is the general source. It's just that everyone behaves differently. Some people are physically ill, some people are mentally ill, some people encounter setbacks or disasters, and so on.
Once you get the so-called mental illness, you start to blame others, think that you are unlucky, think that heaven is unfair, and don't think it is your own reason, but blame the reasons on heredity, family, environment, poverty, disease and so on. And let mental illness and mental illness take responsibility for ourselves. I don't know how to correct my mistakes, but how can I get better? Of course, it was not intentional, but I didn't realize it. We unconsciously put the shackles of mental illness on ourselves and get deeper and deeper in pain.
In fact, God is the fairest. Everyone has to bear his own mistakes. If you don't want to bear it, you must always bear it. Many of us choose to avoid responsibility, but how can we avoid it?
Someone went to talk to the counselor. Talking itself is releasing negative energy, which will not only solve the problem, but also cause more pain in the end. Because it doesn't change the heart, how can it be useful?
Some people hope to solve it through drugs. Obviously, it is an internal problem. How to solve the drug? Isn't that ridiculous? Others want someone to help them. How do others in their own hearts work hard? You can only change your heart by yourself! Under negative emotions, there will be all kinds of whimsy that others can't understand anyway, including our parents.
Get to the point, understand the essence and truth of these so-called psychological and mental problems, and all the so-called psychological and mental problems will naturally be solved. Because it doesn't exist, of course, there is nothing to solve. Solving it is a problem in itself, and it will continue in a vicious circle until physical and mental weakness and despair.
How to solve it? First of all, don't worry about all the symptoms of physical and mental pain, no matter how serious and unbearable it seems, find the wrong persistence behind them and try to let go, so that all the physical and mental pain will disappear, people will be reborn, the gloomy sky will be bright again, and life will be full of hope, happiness and joy!
Some people say, how can mental illness and mental illness not exist? The problems we face in reality are as real as the pain we bear in our hearts. We just can't sleep, our symptoms and diseases are real, I just can't see any hope of life, and so on. These pains obviously exist. Isn't it self-deception to say that it doesn't exist?
Yes, everything is so real to us. What I want to say is that these so-called real situations are only results, not causes, but also superficial phenomena, not essence. They are not static. To solve all these problems, we must start from the root causes. Whether through psychological counseling or drug therapy, everyone is using phenomena to solve phenomena and problems to solve problems. Instead of solving the problem, it will continue to worsen.
All psychological and mental problems, no matter what kind of negative emotions, will be manifested as uncontrollable thoughts, constant thinking, unable to eat, unable to sleep, physical and mental fatigue. They just want to understand that the more they think about it, the more uncontrollable the vicious circle will be until it collapses. This is because in this process, our energy will gradually run out, and we will lose control of our thinking more and more. In the end, even our own lives will be given up. It is an illusion that both physical and mental pain and external obstacles are in a state of low energy. In that energy state, even a sesame seed will become a mountain and crush itself.
In this case, only by increasing energy can it be changed. This energy is not only eating and resting, but more importantly, it is to stop the erosion of negative energy (negative thinking) and constantly improve positive energy. That is, we must break the vicious circle, stop thinking (we will never think about it, and we will never figure out the result), turn to positive thinking and accumulate positive energy. With positive energy, you have the power to control everything in your mind and life. With positive energy, the problem that plagued us in the past has changed from watermelon to sesame.
So how do you stop thinking? Some people say that we just can't help thinking! In fact, we can't control our thoughts because negative energy (all negative emotions) is so powerful that we are controlled by negative energy. Because different people have different negative emotions, physical symptoms are more strange, and there are all kinds of so-called psychological and mental problems, in fact, the essence is the same.
As long as the essence is grasped, all the so-called psychological and spiritual problems naturally do not exist and do not need to be solved at all, because there is nothing to solve. No matter what our situation is, no matter how serious it is, no matter how real it is, no matter how difficult it is to solve real problems, no matter how serious it is physically, even if we are terminally ill, there is only one root cause and one solution. Find the root cause, all the problems in life are soap bubbles.
We live in a dream and only wake up. Who can interpret dreams? Wake up. What's the problem?
To solve this problem, we must first understand where we are wrong and understand that no one is punishing us. It is all our own fault. The universe is the fairest. If we are happy when we are wrong, it is really unreasonable. Actually, it's all our own fault. Don't complain, just reflect on yourself. The theory of pedigree and heredity does not exist at all. Are all harmful theories. You decide your own destiny, so don't give yourself any reasons or excuses. Don't think that it is caused by all practical problems such as family environment, being bullied, tense interpersonal relationship, lack of money, great pressure and physical illness. Wrong, these problems are also phenomena, the result of wrong inner thoughts, the result of the same root as our psychological and spiritual problems, all appearances, and all have the same wrong root. Even if these problems are solved, our psychological and spiritual problems still exist, and there will be bigger problems to remind us. We are all wrong in our hearts, too persistent and too unwilling to let go, which firmly binds our hearts. Let go of this obsession and free your heart. If the cause must be attributed to the so-called mental illness or family, heredity, environment and other aspects. How can there be hope?
In fact, every pain reminds us that we are wrong, so hurry back. Once you look back, pain loses its value of existence. As long as we don't look back, the pain will follow us. Behind every pain, there must be a persistence or a desire. Only by letting go of persistence and desire can we get rid of pain.
The past has passed, and accepting the present is the fruit of the past, which cannot be changed. The future does not exist. If you don't insist on getting a good result and are not afraid of losing anything, there will be no worries and fears. Whether we are happy or not depends on ourselves. No one can hurt us as long as we don't want to. The only thing we can do now is to change the wrong attachment, keep positive thoughts, words and behaviors from now on, and stop spreading and releasing negative energy, including at home and online, starting from the side, starting from small things, starting from housework, helping others, dedicating ourselves, letting go of selfishness, letting go of desire and material attachment. These are the essence of our life and the source of happiness. Release negative energy now, and the bitter fruit will naturally bear fruit later. Now sow the seeds of positive energy, our future will naturally change, and happiness will be on the way. Where will there be any psychological and mental problems? Where are the life problems to be solved? Where does it hurt? What's unfair?
Some people say, what if I can't let go? In fact, no matter how hard it is, there is nothing to let go. Think about it, when we leave this world, we can't take anything with us. If you don't put it down, you have to put it down. Is there anything we can't let go of? If you don't put it down, you have to carry it on your back and continue to suffer. We have no choice, and no one can help us put it down. The best way to let go is to accept what others and yourself have experienced, and accept all possible results in the future, good and bad. Why are you so serious? Why do you have a hard time with yourself or let yourself go? In reality, there are many people who are worse off than us. Most people didn't take it seriously and didn't answer it. We not only picked it up, but also refused to put it down, which made us very painful. As long as you put it down, there will be no pain. I can't let it go. If the pain is enough, I will let it go.
My friends, if you are desperate and miserable at this time, it is useless for you to shout, and others can't help you. You have to turn your head when you bite your teeth. Once on the road, you must stick to it. Never forget the pain and never look back. As long as you persist in your actions and let go of any persistence, all negative emotions will soon disappear and your physical symptoms will disappear. No matter how miserable and desperate you are now, no matter how real you feel, how unbreakable, how unchangeable and how unique the road is, even if you really have a so-called terminal illness, it is not true, it does not exist in reality, it is all fantasy. Wake up, the sun is shining, and everything is so beautiful. You must believe that no matter how cloudy it is, it will clear up one day. Nothing in the world is static, and so is your mood. Normal people also have good or bad moods, so just treat them with a normal heart.
Also, parents with children's problems, please let their children go, let them go, don't care too much, and don't instill wrong ideas in their children, which will harm their children for life. Give children freedom and don't put too much pressure on them. Internet generation, less contact with all addictive things such as video games and all bad websites, stop using psychotropic drugs to kill children! ! !
Finally, I can tell you that I used to be a so-called serious mental patient for more than twenty years, no matter how desperate and helpless I was. Now, in this way, I will be reborn soon. I hope to share my experience gained with blood and tears with you, and I hope to help more people who are still trapped in the bottomless abyss of pain come out. I hope to save more families and children on the verge of collapse.
To sum up, thinking that you have so-called psychological and spiritual problems and trying to solve them is the real cause and beginning of all the pain. With the process of solving, the pain is getting bigger and bigger. This is the fundamental difference between normal people and so-called mental patients. Normal people don't think that negative emotions and mild symptoms will pass quickly. And we have to solve it, and the result is getting worse and worse. In fact, it is not only a psychological problem, but all the so-called real problems in our lives are the same. If we don't solve them, that is the best solution, and we won't do anything. Because most people have done it backwards, which is very painful.
Of course, I also know that what I said is difficult for friends who are in negative emotions to understand, but I hope that everyone will calm down and read it again and again, which will certainly inspire. When we are in negative emotions, we will have all kinds of negative thoughts, and they will become more and more serious. It is unimaginable for ordinary people. It is inconceivable that this kind of pain and despair does not exist. But, my friends, I tell you, all this is just fantasy. Don't believe those fantasies. Go back quickly and follow the direction I pointed, or you will get deeper and deeper.
No matter how desperate we are, no matter how serious and unsolvable the problem is, no matter how special we feel. Friend, I tell you, it's just a soap bubble. Don't be afraid.
As long as we make up our minds, let go of persistence and turn to positive energy. With this idea, we will be fine. Everything is difficult at the beginning, and it will become easier and easier to stick to it for a while. Once you gradually realize what I said, you will wake up and master an extremely sharp sword, so no matter what happens again, you can easily deal with it. You know, in any case, this is the only way out. You can only stick to it. You have no choice but to get out soon.
To sum up, we suffer because we have to cling to what we call mental illness and mental illness. It doesn't exist in itself, but it really exists because of our persistence. We must solve a problem that does not exist. As a result, the more problems we solve, the bigger the problem, and the vicious circle. We got caught up in it and didn't realize it until we were cornered. In fact, as long as we let go of our obsession with mental illness, it will soon disappear, as simple as that. The difficulties in the past were due to the opposite direction. The whole process is like waking up in a dream, and you will find that there is nothing really, just looking for trouble. Once you wake up, you won't sleep again. Solve the problem completely!
In other words, the psychological problem lies in solving some normal things that don't exist as problems, which leads to deeper and deeper problems, all kinds of physical and mental pain, and thus more firmly believe in the existence of their psychological and mental problems. Only by jumping out of this strange circle can we get rid of the pain fundamentally. I can't recognize the true face of Lushan Mountain because I am there. Only by jumping out of the mountain can we see the truth clearly. The authorities are confused, and the bystanders are clear. You must try to jump out. Even if it feels real in the mountains, it's not true.
Some people don't believe what I said, and some people think it is difficult. You can do a little experiment to find out. When thinking about things, find some specific little things to do, such as housework, don't stop, stick to it for two to three hours and feel the change of mood by yourself. I realized that whenever the pain comes, I should stick to it until it clears up. Once you master it, you will be afraid of nothing in the future!
As long as you don't treat normal emotions such as psychological and mental problems as problems, you don't have to solve them! Don't think it is caused by external environment, family, heredity or other reasons. These are just superficial illusions. We must realize that it is essentially linked by our own negative energy. If you have to look for reasons outside, as long as you don't realize that it is your own inner mistake, there will be no cure. On the other hand, as long as you realize it, you are willing to make mistakes and correct them, and put them into action. The cure lies in one thought. As long as we are willing to accept all the experience now, we must bear the consequences, stop thinking, do something positive now, recover as soon as possible, and realize that mental illness and mental illness do not exist, that will be completely good!
Remember, all the external environments that cause our negative emotions are just incentives, and we may not be able to change them, but whether we are depressed, anxious or unhappy depends entirely on ourselves and on our inner ones.
A friend said that I didn't say the specific method. As long as you are willing, you can change your heart without any specific methods. As long as we live a normal life as before, we can do whatever we want. There is nothing special to do except go to bed early and get up early. The difference is that although things remain the same, our chances of doing things will change. Everything we think, say and do in life is positive energy. The so-called positive energy is simply altruism. We have a lot of negative energy because we care too much about ourselves.
My words are a little heavy and wordy, but I have repeatedly stressed that I hope I can really help you and arouse your vigilance. Please forgive me if there is anything wrong!
Friends with feelings want to forward more, and helping others means helping themselves.