How to find a balance between stubbornness and self-loss?

In real life, nobody is perfect. Everyone has shortcomings in what he says and does, but often we can't perceive them ourselves. Many times in life, other people's opinions are beneficial to us, so we should accept them with an open mind. We sometimes need other people's opinions to reflect on ourselves and improve ourselves.

But people can't do without a little self-persistence. You can't think what others say or do what others say, so you lose your independent personality.

For example, you think it is good to do the same thing, but others think it is too complicated, complicated or something. If you are allowed to do it his way, you will feel too simplistic, careless about details, imperfect and so on.

The word "psychological balance" is an original psychological term of China people. In the vocabulary of western psychology and psychological counseling, there is no such term as psychological balance. In fact, "psychological balance" means that people use sublimation, humor, externalization and rationalization to adjust their understanding of the gains and losses of something. The reason why China people use the word "psychological balance" to describe this psychological adjustment process can probably be attributed to the "cultural gene" of the opposition of Yin and Yang and the transformation of good and bad luck in our thinking. For thousands of years, China people have been deeply influenced by the Taoist thoughts of Laozi and Zhuangzi when they look at personal gains and losses, so they pay great attention to inner balance. Therefore, it is not accidental for China people to use the word "psychological balance" to describe their psychological adjustment, which is also very appropriate.

Psychology, human thinking and inner activities. Psychological balance: a harmonious state of the inner world. People's psychological balance has a great influence on human health. The United Nations Health Organization once said that mental health is the most serious problem for human beings in the 2/kloc-0 century. Huangdi Neijing said: "All diseases are caused by qi, anger leads to qi, happiness leads to qi depression, sadness leads to qi elimination, fear leads to qi depression, cold leads to qi exhaustion, shock leads to qi disorder, fatigue leads to qi consumption, and thinking leads to qi depression." Therefore, we must first treat the "heart". Modern medicine also found that 65-90% of human diseases are related to psychological depression. Negative emotions such as nervousness, anger and hostility are easy to destroy the human immune system, and are prone to hypertension, coronary heart disease and arteriosclerosis.

Thinking activity is thinking in the brain, and thinking will make the brain secrete hormones-adrenaline, norepinephrine, β -endorphin and so on. If people are angry and nervous, the brain will secrete norepinephrine, a toxic hormone that can easily cause diseases. If you think positively and feel comfortable, the human brain will secrete beneficial hormones to keep fit. It is known that there are more than 20 kinds of beneficial hormones that can make people happy. The strongest beneficial hormone is β-endorphin, and its pleasure effect is 5-6 times that of morphine. Whether the brain can secrete such a pleasant substance means: being kind-hearted, doing good deeds and accumulating virtue-producing beneficial hormones; Greed indulges in doing bad things-producing toxic hormones.