Tisch
I remember a child singing in the Spring Festival Evening: If you love me, stay with me; If you love me, you will kiss me; If you love me, you will praise me; If you love me, you will hug me.
First, spend more time with your children.
Because of work, most parents have no time to accompany their children, and children always follow the elderly. Like my family, whenever I have a rest, I take my child out for a walk, spend as much time with her as possible, and let the elderly have some private space. We all go to work early. In winter, children and grandma sleep in the same room, and only on Saturday, Jiajia sleeps with me. My children look forward to spending time with me. I can tell her good stories, talk to her about solve riddles on the lanterns, listen to her talk about people and things at school, and I will also tell my daughter about my school days. Talk to children as friends, of course, this conversation is equal to each other. Sometimes children "talk like children". Once when she came home from school, she said: xxx didn't come to class today, probably went to heaven. I was surprised at that time, so I squatted down and asked her, "What is heaven?" Jia Jia said, "It's the only place in the sky where you can only go by plane." Seriously, at that time, I really didn't know how to explain this term to her, so I could only say to her, "Children are as lovely and healthy as angels. Your wings are all kinds of thoughts in his head. You can draw them with crayons, but you can't fly into the sky. Children are not welcome there, so stop talking, ok? " The child nodded puzzled.
Second, children should be encouraged when they behave well.
Our Jia Jia has been introverted and has a low voice since he was a child. She is too "tender" to debut like other children. Once when I came home from school, all the other children posted big apple dolls, but Jiajia didn't. She said it was because the "clay doll" was not good at singing. After dinner, she wanted to play a game with me in class, so I took this opportunity to be a "teacher" and played a "clay doll" with my electronic piano at home. Jiajia shook her head and sang the whole song. "Jia Jia sings very well and the lyrics are right. Maybe your voice is too low for the teacher to hear at school. It would be better to speak louder. " I tried to encourage her. The child was more excited when he heard the praise and asked for it again. Obviously, he sang better and more confident for the second time.
Third, we can't just give our children an "armchair strategist".
Every day when I come home from work, I will see Jiajia playing scooter outside. Jiajia will pick me up when she sees me coming back. Then give me a big hug and say, "Mom, I miss you." "Me too." Then I will hug her for a while before doing my own thing. This is a compulsory course every day, and hugging is the simplest and most direct way to express your feelings.
Every child has his own characteristics. My Jia Jia is a good child, and her nature is hard to change. But there are also those who cry when they are disobedient, and cry loudly with their eyes closed, with few tears. Every time I meet her for no reason, I will ignore her mercilessly and let her yell until she is bored. But she doesn't always succeed. When she calmed down, she brought up the old topic again, as if she had been wronged greatly, and she burst into tears. After watching it several times, I feel that the timing is not certain. Yes, it may be different to bring up the old things in the future.
Generally speaking, we should treat our children as ourselves. Think about how naughty we were when we were children. When we were young, we did some things that adults looked naive. We always want someone to chat and play games with us. When we have ideas, we always expect our parents to understand us. It is much easier to deal with children's problems after putting themselves in other's shoes.
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I have always believed that children should grow up in a simple environment and enjoy her carefree childhood. Playing is a child's favorite activity and our education. In the process of playing, they can not only have endless fun, but also learn all kinds of knowledge. After playing games, they can also feel the joy of success and the distress of failure.
I don't value how much cultural knowledge she can learn at the moment. We usually pay attention to her physical and mental health and let her know self-esteem, self-improvement and self-reliance. I expect my child to be a caring child who knows tolerance and unity. At ordinary times, she is expected to participate in more group activities and play with children, so as to strengthen her social skills, psychological endurance and coping ability from ordinary communication and interaction. Can tell teachers their needs in time, and can speak boldly during recess. I think this moment is the critical period of the child's personality, and it is very helpful for her to form a complete personality by integrating into the group.
At home, we will consciously create a relaxed and independent environment for her and communicate with her as friends at ordinary times. We will not stick to a certain form to educate her, but will do it in the dribs and drabs of ordinary life. In fact, we are her reference, and our words and deeds will have an impact on her, so we should be strict with ourselves while demanding her.
At home, we will give her some independent space and let her learn to manage herself. For example, a corner of our room is dedicated to putting toys for her, where all the objects need to be sorted out by herself. This effect is very good, so that she can realize the hard work of her mother to tidy up the housework at ordinary times, and to put things in order and put them back where they came from. Usually, when dealing with problems, we will ask her for her ideas. For example, when buying clothes for him, we will ask her which color she likes, which will make the child feel that we respect him very much. Then she will also study other people's feelings and think more about others when dealing with things in the future. At ordinary times, we will take time to communicate with her as much as possible, listen to her voice patiently, allow her to express different opinions, and create an atmosphere in which she can fully express her feelings. We will encourage correct views, and we will reason with her for inappropriate ideas. If she still doesn't understand, we will guide her in due course.
In short, we should put down our parents' airs, communicate more as friends, treat her as a member of the family, let the children feel their importance and responsibility, give her equality and trust, and give her a chance to fully show themselves.
Hu Zizheng is six years old now. He speaks and acts like an adult. He has his own opinions and ideas about everything.
Her every progress makes us very happy, but there are also many headaches, stubborn personality and too strong self-esteem. Hu Zizheng loves "face" very much, which is probably the characteristic of children of this age. Every bit of life is a witness to growth. I think I grew up with Zizheng in * * *. She grew up day by day. We learn to be parents every day. Her daily growth will bring us new topics, but I believe communication is the most important, just like communication between adults. Encouragement and trust are important bridges to children's voices. Every child has shortcomings, but every child also has his unique personality. We should know how to appreciate their cutest side!
Tisso
One week after I entered the first grade of Dabao Primary School, I welcomed my second baby, the children in Class 2 of Xianghua Kindergarten. I experienced my childhood and enjoyed her childhood with Dabao. Bauer had many curious experiences in his childhood. With the growth and experience of children, I also clumsily described my five little experiences in parenting. I hope everyone and their parents can learn from each other.
1, * * * grow together and set an example.
Everyone knows how strong the imitation ability of children in early childhood is. Everything parents say and do at home will set an example for their children to learn. They should pay attention to their words and deeds at ordinary times, and remember to "listen, watch and be careful". Listening is listening to the child with your heart. The expression in the child's words is the summary of his day's activities. Even if it is incoherent, you should listen to it and be able to sort it out with him. This is the basis of future language description. Second, look at what your child did today. From small things, see the children's progress day by day and give more encouragement. Third, be careful. Children's emotions are beyond our control. They will be furious because they can't find toys, sad because the little ants are missing, and unhappy because they don't play with their favorite children. We should pay attention to all these and give children correct guidance in words.
2. Children should develop good moral quality.
Diligence and kindness are the traditional virtues of our Chinese nation. We have given our children a kind heart since childhood. Talking kindly with your baby is also the most direct influence on your child. I didn't get along well with Dabao in the past. After Bao Xiao was born, I understood Dabao's proposal. She told me her state of mind at that time. I am grateful that my children forgave me. At this time, I understand that my Dabao has a forgiving heart and I am very happy. All virtues are first and foremost filial piety. He calls his grandparents in his hometown every week and asks them to take the initiative to say hello. Although the two babies' hometown dialect is a mess, it is a small manifestation of filial piety to hear the old man's relieved laughter.
3, the child's hands-on ability, small hands can do it themselves.
Dabao and Bao Xiao both bathed, washed their hair and washed their clothes when they were in small classes. The experience began with eight dirty clothes. A bathroom is full of bubbles, hair or shampoo, but that's all in the past. I looked at them in the mirror and corrected them. Don't think he's not doing well, think he's slow. These things are to be experienced. At present, they are very good, and I believe they will do well. Bao Xiao makes his bed before going to bed every day, and goes to bed after reading an animated book. This habit was brought by Dabao. I once had a strange little treasure, which was stopped by Dabao. So feel free to let your children do it. Nothing is impossible, but parents are unwilling to give up.
4. Give him a happy growth and have the patience to explain his problems.
I gave Bao Xiao a nickname "Thousands of Why". He has many questions every day. He has more and more problems because he often works together. Besides Altman, Monster, Transformers and Underwater Wan Li, there are countless questions I want to ask. Science and Exploration is a program that we must accompany and watch. When watching it, he was very focused. I said thirsty, but I can still talk. My child asked me a question before, and I didn't know how to answer it. Bao Xiao said, how did mom pay for WeChat and how did it fit into her mobile phone? This is a mysterious way. Before I could explain, he had turned on my mobile phone and looked at this hole and that hole. I am annoyed that there is no place to put money. What a lovely and ridiculous thing it is. He has many short stories and many strange things. Every day is very happy and fun.
5. Collect and store the baby's growth.
As a parent, I still remember the growing process of Erbao. When I tell them these stories, they will feel so cute. Compared with himself at the moment, he understands that he is lovely and a kind of sharing when he grows up.
The above points are my simple experience of self-care for two babies. The growth of children is infinite, and Bao Xiao's self-confidence has changed greatly in kindergarten. This is the strength of the group and the adjustment given by the school. Share these with everyone and communicate with each other, and our home will be improved together, and children will be full of songs, laughter and flowers when they grow up.