Xiaohua's parents bought her a house before marriage, and now she is married. She wants to sell her house before marriage and buy a school district house with her husband. However, she is worried that the new house will become the property of husband and wife. In case of divorce in the future, the house will be divided into half and the parents' savings will be transferred to Shui Piao, but she is worried that this agreement will affect the relationship between husband and wife.
In fact, this is also the idea of many friends. To put it bluntly, they want to keep their property, but they don't want to destroy the relationship between husband and wife. Then we boldly assume that these two needs cannot be met at the same time. Which do you care more about and which do you want to achieve?
If you propose to sign an agreement with your husband, the worst result is that he will be angry, which will really affect his feelings, but it will not affect his divorce.
If the agreement is not mentioned, the worst result is that the house that parents originally bought with pension money will divorce each other.
Which of the two worst outcomes is more unbearable for you?
If you sign the agreement, you can live with peace of mind in the future, so you won't worry and explain it to your parents.
If you don't sign an agreement, two people can at least maintain a superficial harmony and pretend not to know or forget about it, and the relationship between husband and wife will not be affected. Which of these two benefits do you prefer?
As for the so-called "affecting feelings", it may also be your own imagination, because you have not talked to the other party, I wonder if he cares about signing this agreement?
You can talk to your husband first, after all, you are not sure whether it will affect your feelings.
Tell another story about Xiaoyan, a client.
She entrusted me to write two property agreements, one with my ex-boyfriend and the other with my current husband.
The ex-boyfriend was really unhappy at the time, but it was time to sign. Still boyfriend and girlfriend after all. The house is written in her name, the money is given by Xiaoyan, and he has to sign it.
Later facts also proved that this agreement greatly protected Xiaoyan. If you don't sign it, Xiaoyan will fight for the house for half a year.
Xiaoyan said that the process of getting an ex-boyfriend to sign an agreement is also quite challenging. The ex-boyfriend was anxious at that time, saying that he just wanted to run away with the money.
Later, Xiaoyan proposed to sign an agreement with her current husband, and now the public easily agreed because they didn't want to take advantage of Xiaoyan's money.
Many people think that talking about money with their spouses will hurt their feelings, but who can really treat money like dirt? How many people don't mention it, their hearts are like a mirror, and they are calculating over and over again. In fact, the problem is not money, nor lack of money, but dare not talk about money!
Marriage needs not only love, but also a good economic model. "Talking about money well" is an essential ability for two people to go better and further, and agreement is just one of the ways to talk about money. Choose the right way to manage your marriage.