How do blind date start chatting?
Generous, polite and direct.
Since it's a blind date, naturally both sides are moving towards this theme, so there's no need to be coy. If it is an open multi-person blind date, you should dare to get close to your favorite goal. For the opposite sex without feelings, you can politely refuse, and you don't need to have too much psychological burden to refuse others.
Expand the topic from identity information
For the newly contacted blind date, we can start with the identity signal, work and age of the other person to find the same experience. This information can quickly break the deadlock without being too greasy.
When you are familiar with it, ask in-depth and sensitive topics. Such as income, previous marriage experience and so on.
It is also basic courtesy to do so, at least it won't leave a strong image on the other side.
Show more attraction and less shortcomings.
For the opposite sex you just met, the other person knows very little about you. At this time, it is most taboo to expose too many of your own shortcomings, because the other party may think that this is the complete you, not the good-looking you. After the other person has a three-dimensional understanding of you, it is not too late to show the whole of you to the other person.
Attraction is superficial, especially at the beginning. Even if you are rich and talented, you must have the opportunity to show it. If the other party passes by at the beginning, there is no possibility of subsequent discovery. Therefore, both men and women must clean themselves up before blind date, so as to leave a good impression on each other first.
Control the sense of need, advance and retreat freely
Don't take politeness as goodwill. There are many blind date friends, and there is a long-term lack of opportunities to communicate with the opposite sex. Therefore, politeness and kindness are often confused. Especially for girls who meet on blind dates, the two sides may match the bridge through intermediaries, and the other party may be very polite. But please note that women need a large number of samples to feel attracted, and it is impossible to have a good impression on you from the beginning.
At any time, our sense of need should not be higher than that of girls. Asking too much will make you unattractive and have low emotional intelligence. In addition, the water under the bridge, the sense of demand passed out, it is difficult to get back. If you can control your needs, you can advance and retreat freely.
The so-called sense of need is the feeling of need and desire. For example, when I meet a girl for the first time, I confess, be caring and attentive, care too much, and pass on affection to each other too much.
Mobilize emotions and pave the way for a separate invitation
Love itself is an attracted emotion. If you want to amplify each other's goodwill, you need to mobilize each other's emotions. Even if it is a blind date, don't forget that we need to make each other feel good about us. A marriage without feelings is not what you need. Girls always like humorous men because they can arouse women's emotions.
The promotion of love relationship needs more opportunities for interaction, and further invitations should be made at the high point of girls' emotions. In the follow-up date, further sublimate the revolutionary friendship of your.
The topic of blind date chat
About her topic
Everyone always cares about himself. Talking about her topic will more easily arouse girls' curiosity and desire to reply. Especially when I just met girls, it is easier to talk about girls and quickly eliminate the sense of estrangement.
Capture a lovely girl alive (the girl's WeChat is cute)
You must look good with short hair (girls wear long hair now)
1999, you (starting with personal information)
You should be a foodie (there are many food photos in the circle of friends)
The five views of girls are quite similar to those of a southern girl (from the head)
I found one of your advantages (suspense topic)
I know you (suspense topic)
Playing mobile phones at work, not afraid of being caught by the boss and deducting wages?
When did you leave Jinan? Jinan is not beautiful without you.
Are you waiting for me to say good night by staying up so late?
It doesn't matter if the exam is not ideal. The school is divided into 982 1 1, but the internet cafes are all chained, so you can't go anywhere to play!
A topic that can convey value
It can be said that the whole human behavior pattern is looking for higher value, and value can make people feel good, yearning and moved. You are attracted to the goddess because she carries high reproductive value. The favor of the goddess will make you feel good, because you have the opportunity to form a high-value alliance.
A very ordinary girl can't interest you. At this moment, she suddenly sent you a sexy photo, and you were interested in it instantly. The reason is that value appears, and value can change people's mood. The same is true with girls, and the appearance of Yan value can arouse girls' desire to reply.
Just got out of the gym. What are you doing?
Why can you go to work early and get up early, but I can only sleep until I wake up? It's not fair.
(Send a photo of eating goods and directly pull hatred)
The car was scratched, the wallet was stolen, and some people said it was not handsome.
Still preparing for tomorrow's speech, why didn't you sleep?
I seldom stay in a city. When I need a job, I often travel all over the country.
A topic that can arouse emotions
Women are emotional animals, and emotions have a great influence on them. Women often say "feeling" is also an emotional experience. Because a good mood can make people full of energy, such as bathing in the spring breeze and feeling good, which can indirectly make a person more successful. Therefore, emotional value is also a kind of value.
Will you blush when you see me?
Will you hold me from behind when I cook for you?
Princess love, don't go, I declare you.
What's so unhappy about it? Say it to make everyone happy.
Don't take medicine when you are sick. Let me feed you.
We can't concentrate on shopping Handsome men and beautiful women are easy to make people jealous.
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What topics that girls are interested in can arouse girls' interest more?
Opening remarks of blind date follow-up chat
Talk about the same hobbies.
That's what people do. We were strangers before we met. As long as we meet, we will get to know each other. The most important thing between two people on a blind date is to establish a sense of identity. The shallowest expression of identity is the same hobby between you. Talking about some hobbies will definitely shorten the distance between you.
Talk about their personalities.
It's important to know each other's personalities and make plans for future contacts (if you are interested in your blind date). Blind dates are all about getting married. Finding a gregarious personality is the key.
Ask him/her what his/her hobbies are.
We can talk about many hobbies. After knowing his/her hobbies, you can also weigh what kind of person he/she is. Of course, it would be better if you have the same hobbies as him/her ~
Discuss some popular TV programs.
It's easy to start with a TV program, and it won't be embarrassing. After all, young people nowadays still like variety shows very much. Singers, talent shows, blind dates, you name it. Warm up the chat atmosphere first, and the blind date will be easier to carry on.
working situation
You can discuss the job and know what he/she does. Don't ask about level and income. If both sides feel good, you can leave these questions for later. Knowing that this job has at least a bottom, you can guess how much his/her income is.
Introduce yourself.
After greeting, open the topic and introduce yourself in more detail. In addition to the work and hobbies mentioned above, we can also talk about our usual personality, our emotional history and so on. Anything will do.
What do you want to know most?
After introducing yourself, you can also ask the other person what they want to know most, such as intolerable shortcomings and prospects for the future. Don't be too stressed, just relax and chat with friends you haven't seen for a long time.
What should I pay attention to when chatting on a blind date?
Praise girls must start from the details, reject ta people, be polite gentlemen, and pay attention to the topic scale.
Learn to observe, ask less sensitive questions, avoid continuous questions, and avoid cuddling with girls. Maybe you don't know the opening, there is no topic, the chat is boring, and the invitation fails. You confess to the girl you like, and then you are cold to the girl you like, cold to you, avoiding you and hating you. You are too passive, so she doesn't like to talk to you and ask you out. Dating is tense and awkward. Later, girls rarely contacted you. 90% of the reason is that you can't talk to girls.
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