There is no denying that some people are born with advantages.
Advantages include many, such as face value, IQ, ability, economy and so on. As long as there are two people, there is comparison, and some people have their own advantages.
Superiority does not mean superiority. The sense of superiority exists objectively, but the parties concerned don't care and won't be complacent. Superiority means that under the condition of superiority, you are somewhat contemptuous of others, quite conceited and feel good about yourself.
Juan and Qin graduated from the same art school in the same place. Both of them are modern dance majors. 1997, they came to Shenzhen together and joined the same performing arts company to dance for the performers.
Juan has a beautiful face. The standard goose egg face is inlaid with a pair of watery eyes, and the long eyelashes are flickering, which is fascinating for anyone to see. Qin, on the other hand, looks a little ordinary, with a square face and big eyes, but a little crooked and lifeless.
Although Juan and Qin are equal in dancing skills, Juan always stands in the center of the stage because of her outstanding appearance. After the performance, someone secretly gave Juan a business card backstage and invited her to jump ship with great appreciation.
Over time, Juan began to feel a little light, felt indispensable and had a bright future. Too many companies are scrambling for it.
So when rehearsing at ordinary times, Juan began to be late. Jean kindly reminded her that it was not good. Rehearsal was very important and should be serious. Juan said disdainfully, I am not like you, with solid basic skills and good image, rushing to perform everywhere. I missed a half-time rehearsal, and the boss won't have a problem with it. I'm not afraid of opinions, others are waiting to invite me.
Then one day, Juan didn't come to rehearsal again. During the evening performance, she went to the wrong stage and bumped into another dancer. It happened that the boss saw it at the scene and fired Juan that night.
Juan still said disdainfully, well, I made a mistake once. You don't want me, many people are waiting for me to rob me.
Sure enough, the next day, Juan signed a contract with another performing arts company with his solid basic skills and beautiful image. Juan's sense of superiority has expanded. She feels that she is a talented dancer and the darling of the stage, which is different from ordinary dancers.
Because of this sense of superiority, Juan has always disapproved of rehearsal, feeling that he is at home and that beauty is an important prerequisite for the stage.
Then, Juan made a mistake during the performance because he didn't rehearse, which caused the audience to roar and was fired again.
Two mistakes made Juan famous in the industry, and no company signed with her. Can only temporarily undertake some substitute performances, or run with singers. Sometimes I run several games in one night, and sometimes I don't perform for a week. Life is hard to guarantee.
Different from Qin, Qin has been in the original company, practicing basic skills hard every day, rehearsing diligently every day and performing every day. Because of Qin's outstanding performance, she was promoted to dance teacher by the company and then to artistic director.
The superior condition is to win at the starting line by luck, seize the opportunity and strive to become a better person. Instead of letting you enjoy superiority, it is better to lower your demands on yourself and give yourself a chance to be lazy, thinking that you can reach a certain height with no effort and get what you want with superiority.
Such people are ignorant. Life is jogging. If you stagnate with a sense of superiority, there will naturally be latecomers. Your sense of superiority will soon be submerged in the efforts of others, and there is no chance to bubble. Waiting for you, only ruthless elimination.
You can't have a sense of superiority on the road of growth, nor can you have a sense of superiority in marriage.
My wife is from Wuhan, Hubei. She graduated from Peking University and has a good image. My cousin comes from a remote rural area in Xianning, Hubei Province, with a bachelor's degree. After my wife and my cousin got married, she was full of superiority.
My wife told my cousin frankly more than once that I have such good conditions that everything is better than you. It is unfair for me to marry you. You must treat me well and pamper me in every way. You didn't let me down.
So, my cousin wanted to eat sweet potato porridge on a whim in the middle of the night, and my cousin had to go out and buy it at once; My wife likes to sleep late on weekends, so my cousin must stay with her in bed until she wakes up. Where to spend our holidays is always up to my wife. I never need to ask my cousin for advice, and I never give my cousin a chance to express my opinion. He always said, you are a peasant with little knowledge, just follow me.
Cousins are often wronged. Because she feels that she has a good family background, good looks and high academic qualifications, and should have a higher quality of life. Live in a spacious and bright house, drive a fancy car and go out to eat and drink with a temper. Instead of living in a second-hand house of less than 80 square meters like now, driving a domestic car of 10,000 yuan.
My wife explodes almost once a week and scolds my cousin: How did you marry an undergraduate from the countryside? If I marry a Wuhan native, I will live a better life than now!
My wife always forgets that although she is a graduate student, her cousin's salary is higher than her. Cousin keeps her monthly salary, and cousin's salary also pays the mortgage and all the expenses at home.
At the beginning, my cousin was also very guilty and felt wronged. He was bent on letting his wife live a good life. However, my wife said that you are a countryman and an undergraduate, and you won't say anything encouraging at all. Cousin silently endured all this, quietly reported to class to study, worked overtime, got a promotion and salary increase, and took on the expenses of the whole family.
But cousin still can't see the change of cousin. I can't see any improvement in my life. Still complaining that I didn't live the life I wanted, complaining that I shouldn't marry such an undergraduate from the countryside. And myself, except complaining, will always be a dispensable clerical job in the company.
Finally, one day, my cousin couldn't bear it anymore and divorced his wife. When divorced, my wife cried and scolded. You have no conscience! Heartless and heartless, I am a city girl with higher education and better image than you. Do you still want to abandon me? What qualifications do you have?
In the end, my wife never let go of that sense of superiority. I don't even understand that this sense of superiority made her end in divorce.
The taboo in marriage is the superiority of one party. I think I have a high face value and good conditions in all aspects. Being with the other person is condescending, and the other person should be obedient to himself. This will form an unequal relationship. However, emotional imbalance is unsustainable.
The sense of superiority in marriage can make people lack warmth, become bossy and like to laugh at each other. Who can live in this disrespected state for a long time?
The sense of superiority in marriage makes people fail to see each other's goodness, do not know how to be grateful, and only know how to complain; Don't know how to give, only know how to take. People can do nothing but criticize and dislike.
It is precisely respect and encouragement that must be learned in marriage. You should respect each other's differences, encourage each other, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, help each other and become better people together! Only in this way can we help each other and grow old together.
A sense of superiority is not appropriate under any circumstances. It has subjective conceit and arrogance. Will blind people's eyes, can not find the good of others, can not see how others work hard. The sense of superiority will expand itself and hinder its progress; The sense of superiority will not respect others, and it is difficult to establish an equal, harmonious, mutual assistance and friendly relationship with others.
The sense of superiority makes people in marriage lose love because they don't understand!
He was promoted to dance teacher and then artistic director. He was promoted to dance teacher and then artistic director.