When the old man should have enjoyed his retirement, he was willing to be a servant by his daughter, but his daughter's words chilled him.
Li Nainai is over 60 years old, and her retired sisters are enjoying a leisurely life, while Li Nainai joined the army with her children for her daughter. A few years later, Li Nainai, who worked hard, was heartbroken by her daughter's words.
Case:
Originally, it was common for the elderly to take care of their babies. For the sake of her daughter, Li Nainai is also willing to give up traveling with her sisters and live a free life.
Li Nainai still loves her little daughter very much. So for her daughter, she came to her daughter's house to take care of the baby. Moreover, Li Nainai is basically responsible for housework and works hard at home. She not only helps to take care of her grandson, but also works as a nanny. No matter how hard and tired she was, she persisted.
But when the grandson was 5 years old, something happened that broke Li Nainai's heart.
One day, my grandson got the flu, and Li Nainai took care of him for several days. Although my grandson is getting better, Li Nainai thinks he is infected and his head is a little groggy. Besides, he is a little old and his energy is a little poor. But I still insist on taking care of the children. Finally, at the weekend, I thought I could rest, but my daughter called me to take medicine for my grandson.
Who knows that I didn't pay attention to the water temperature when I was making medicine, and the child was scalded. When my daughter saw the child being burned, she was very distressed and shouted at Li Nainai. What are you doing? You can't even make a medicine. Do you want to burn the child to death? ?
Hearing this, Li Nainai's tears immediately came down, and her heart ached. She knew she was sick, and even ignored everything, yelling at herself. In the past two years, my attitude towards myself has become worse and worse, and I feel that I have really become a servant nanny in the eyes of my daughter.
And Li Nainai, the nanny, is also free and voluntary. Sometimes I think to myself, if I had known this result, I really shouldn't be idle and come here to ask for it. I don't have to suffer this punishment if I am alone at home.
Thinking that in-laws come to see their grandchildren on weekdays, they not only dress naked, but also have to treat themselves as guests. When they come to this home, they have to serve not only the small ones, but also the big ones, even the old ones. What's the difference between this and a servant? The more I think about it, the angrier I get. In a rage, I left my daughter's house directly.
There is no doubt that in this incident, the daughter's practice is indeed very wrong and can be said to be unfilial. The selfless dedication to the elderly is really justified. Maybe such a thing is not a case. It will exist in everyone's life more or less.
Why are many old people unwilling to help their daughters take care of their babies?
Although in the daughter's opinion, if one of her mother-in-law and mother is chosen to take care of the baby, it is estimated that both of them are willing to take care of their mother, but why are many elderly people unwilling to help their daughters take care of the baby?
Many people may think that the elderly prefer boys to girls, but they are not. A large part of them are willing, that is, on their daughters.
Because the daughter may be very casual with her mother, and she will not think about anything to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If it is your own mother, it is estimated that you have to say everything. You don't have to estimate how your mother feels at all. Most of the time, you don't care about your temper. Go straight to your mother if you have a temper. You may also take all the efforts of the elderly for granted. Blame the old man if he can't do it well. Perhaps this is also inseparable from the doting of parents since childhood, but the daughter's practice is really chilling for the elderly.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be maintained, as does the relationship between daughter and mother.
Old people should be grateful if they are willing to help themselves with their babies.
First of all, it must be clear that the things and responsibilities of taking care of the baby are parents' and have nothing to do with the elderly. In fact, the elderly have paid too much for their children, and in their later years, they should actually enjoy their retirement. If you have the ability, try to take care of the baby yourself. After all, the elderly are old and lack of energy, and it is very tiring to take care of the baby, which can easily lead to health problems for the elderly.
If under such circumstances, the old man is still willing to help him take care of the baby, whether it is good or bad, the children should always pay attention to respect and treat the old man with gratitude.
The old man is unwilling to help with the baby, and he can't help but be satisfied.
The old man has been busy all his life. It can be said that he has given everything for his children. In his later years, he didn't want to become rich. He just wants to spend his old age peacefully and live the life he wants. In fact, as a child, you should support him. Even if the old people don't want to help them with their children, it's natural. We can't hold grudges, let alone threaten our parents with providing for the aged. This is the real unfilial.
Two generations have different ideas about raising children, so children should respect the elderly and communicate with them more.
It is only a blessing for children that the old man is willing to help with the baby, but it should be noted that the old man can take the baby, but don't treat the old man as a servant. Don't let old people do everything when there are old people at home. After all, he has grown up and is no longer a child. The old man is old, but he needs his care.
Therefore, when children have time, they should share it with the elderly. Although young people are tired from work, old people are just as tired when they are old and in poor health. It is also a very hard thing to take care of children.
When old people take care of babies, we should respect them. Even if there are differences and mistakes in taking care of the baby, you can't talk about the lessons directly. Instead, we should respect and communicate with the elderly. After all, the elderly can come to help take care of the baby, which shows that the elderly are not people who can't communicate.
As children, we should respect the elderly and communicate with them more if there is anything, which can make the family more harmonious and happy.
to tell the truth
After having a baby, whether you take the baby yourself, let the elderly at home take the baby, or give it to the elderly, the premise must be on the basis of the elderly's willingness, and you can't force it or be dissatisfied. This is what children should do. Finally, I want to say that if you can bring your own baby, you'd better bring it yourself. After all, children can live with themselves and get along with each other for only a few years. If you miss it, there will be no more. Children will spend less and less time at home when they start studying! What did you say?/Sorry? # Parents #
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