If you want to describe the life of a middle-aged married woman, A Yan feels that only one word is needed, and that is fatigue.
Now middle-aged women, life is really too tired. If you choose to be a housewife at home, you will be rejected by your husband and others because you are not independent; But if you are busy with your career, your husband and others will complain that you don't take care of your family. In short, whatever you do, you will be rejected.
The life of a married middle-aged woman is busy and hard. Get up early in the morning to make breakfast for my husband and children, then wash dishes and dress up after breakfast in a hurry, and then send the children to school. Then I rushed to work in the company, and then I was busy with my work all day. Go to pick up the children to buy food after work at night, and cook and do housework when you get home. After supper, I have to help the children with their homework. Only in the middle of the night can you drag your tired body to bed. When I woke up, it was another day.
Even so, you will still be rejected by your husband, eating badly, wearing unclean clothes, and not taking care of your children ... In short, men always have thousands of reasons to refuse their wives, but they don't know how hard their wives live every day.
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What do women get married for? I believe that most women will think about this problem. Is marriage for men and children? Or watch yourself grow old in the days of mechanical repetition?
A Yan thinks that marriage is not like this. In a happy marriage, husband and wife will support each other and rely on each other. Take housework as an example. Couples in a happy marriage must have a sense of responsibility on both sides.
But why are so many married women unhappy in real life? A Yan believes that one is that women can't choose men's eyes, and the other is that they don't know how to manage marriage after marriage.
The reason why I wrote this article is because of the contribution of reader Xiao Nan. It is because I met the wrong person that I fell into a painful marriage. Today, Kobayashi is 32 years old and still single. She has an inexplicable fear of marriage. According to her, "a failed marriage really makes people want to get married all their lives."
Xiaolin met her ex-husband at the age of 28. At that time, Kobayashi was already a small supervisor in a department of the company. She has been busy with her career before, so she never has time to take care of her feelings. Xiao Lin didn't feel the sweetness of love until her ex-husband broke into her life.
Xiaolin's family is very good, and both parents are doctors. As early as a few years ago, her parents bought Xiaolin a house and a car. After working for so many years, Xiaolin has more and more deposits in his hand, which can be said to be food and clothing.
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The ex-husband sneaked into Kobayashi's life and warmed Kobayashi's cold heart. Before, she had only one job in her heart, but after falling in love with her ex-husband, she had the heart of a little girl and wanted to marry this man. Because Xiao Lin feels that he has never met anyone who is so kind to himself. She told her parents that she had met true love.
Her parents advised her to spend more time together instead of getting married in such a hurry. He also said that he had no car or house, so how could he give you a good life? Kobayashi said: "I have all these. I didn't marry her for these reasons. "
Parents looked at their stubborn daughter and knew her character, so they didn't say anything more.
Xiao Lin got married after getting along with her ex-husband for half a year. The man has no car or house and lives in Kobayashi's house after marriage. They had a good relationship and were happy at first.
Half a year later, the man took his mother over and told Xiaolin to be filial. Xiao Lin fulfilled him.
If her mother-in-law hadn't moved in, Xiaolin and her ex-husband wouldn't have divorced at all. But Xiaolin also thanked her mother-in-law. Xiao Lin wouldn't see the true face of a man if she didn't importune.
After her mother-in-law moved in, she began to see Kobayashi. Because there was no man's name at home, her mother-in-law kept talking about it. Xiao Lin thought she was being unreasonable and didn't want to talk to her at all.
This also annoyed her mother-in-law, who often gossips in front of men, saying that Xiaolin spends money indiscriminately, and that she came back from work late and didn't know what she was doing outside. I'm not pregnant. Can't I have a baby?
These words affected the feelings of Kobayashi and her ex-husband, who quarreled because of their mother-in-law. Xiao Lin always feels that he married the wrong person, so how could he marry this ignorant man?
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In this way, Kobayashi endured for a year, and the feelings between husband and wife also faded a lot, and there were more and more contradictions with her mother-in-law. What really made Xiaolin decide to divorce was that the man did something that hurt her.
A man had a younger brother who wanted to get married, but had no money to buy a house. Knowing that Xiaolin's family was rich, her mother-in-law encouraged her son to borrow money from Xiaolin.
The man listened to his mother's words and asked Xiaolin to borrow money from his parents to buy a house for his younger brother. Also said that what is a family, we must help each other.
Xiao Lin felt that this family was simply unreasonable, so he shouted at her mother-in-law and the man, "Are you shameless? My family has no obligation to buy him a house! Borrow money and dream! "
Unexpectedly, Kobayashi was slapped by a man as soon as the voice fell. The man shouted at her, "why are you talking to my mother?" Your family has money. What happened to lending it to my brother? "
Xiao Lin looked at the man doubtfully. She didn't expect men to have the bad habit of domestic violence. How can such a mother-in-law, a domestic violence man, blindly marry him?
So Kobayashi filed for divorce without saying anything. Later, no matter how the man and his mother-in-law apologized, Kobayashi was unmoved and resolutely divorced.
Marriage is the most important thing for every woman, which determines her happiness for the rest of her life. So when choosing a man, we must think more and choose carefully. Don't get married on impulse like Xiao Lin. It's too late to regret ending your marriage when you are hurt by a man.
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