Original intention: parents told us to promise immediately, without delay; When our parents ask us to do something, we should act immediately, without delay or laziness. This is a kind of respect for parents.
Having said that, I want to share a short story with you first, so that you can feel the filial piety of the ancients together.
? A long time ago, there was a dutiful son named Meng Zong in the State of Chu. He took good care of his mother. One winter, the weather was very cold Meng Mu suddenly fell ill and didn't want to eat anything. Meng Zong asked anxiously, "Mom, what do you want to eat?" Meng Mu said, "I just want to drink a bowl of fresh bamboo shoot soup." After hearing this, Meng Zong immediately ran to the bamboo garden behind the house and dug around, hoping to find bamboo shoots. But in winter, where are the bamboo shoots? Meng Zong burst into tears. His tears drop by drop on the snow, tears melt the snow and green bamboo shoots grow on the ground. He quickly dug it out and went home to make a bowl of bamboo shoot soup. After Meng Mu drank the soup, he recovered. Meng Zong touched the heavens and the earth with his filial piety, even the grass and trees were touched. Although this is only a fable, we can see that it is these simple words that have laid the moral order between children and parents. What kind of energy can it be passed down from generation to generation? Let's discuss it with modern thinking today.
There is a one-to-one correspondence between children and parents in family relations, such as the harmony between husband and wife, students and teachers, employees and bosses, and even colleagues, friends, children and parents, which determines their harmony in social relations. In other words, a person who can respond to his parents' call in time and act quickly according to their wishes will have a harmonious relationship with his wife, his boss, high efficiency in doing things and a good reputation among his friends.
In this respect, our family is a typical negative example. As I said before, parents' doting on their eldest brother and second brother often doesn't respond after shouting several times, and finally they have to knock on their window before they come out. Later, eldest brother learned to drive and transport, and met his childhood playmates on the way. Maybe it's because there was a contradiction before. As a result, eldest brother stopped in the middle of the road and refused to give way, so no one could pass. Later, the master who taught him to learn to drive came over and scolded him, clearing the way. Because the relationship between big brother and his parents was not harmonious when he was a child, he couldn't get along well with his friends after entering the society.
? In fact, family is also an internship place before we enter the society. Filial piety to parents is a kind of filial piety on the surface, but it is also cultivating children's character. As the old saying goes, filial piety comes first. This is also the truth, especially in modern society, everyone has to face dozens of times more things every day than in the past. While life is convenient, people's hearts are complicated, and parents always have endless hearts for their children. Parents want their children to be healthy and happy every day. When we get home, our parents are most concerned about our situation today. Although simple words are repeated every day, parents can judge whether our mood today brings them worry or joy from the tone of our reaction. This kind of influence is very different.
? For example, sometimes I get angry with my clients. When I first entered the room, my mother asked me what I wanted to eat. I said with a depressed face, I don't want to eat anything, and then slammed the door. I never thought about what kind of worry my mother outside the door had, which might keep her awake all night. What kind of harm is this?
The national health survey in 20 16 summarized the factors that affect human health. Besides air pollution, water pollution and over-industrialization of food, it also listed four artificially controllable factors to maintain health. The first is optimism, accounting for 50% of the four factors. Therefore, we say that to be filial to parents, we must start from the most basic things to reassure parents and make them feel better.
? Similarly, regarding actions, when parents ask us to do something, it is something we recognize and most of them can be followed; On the other hand, when this incident conflicts with our ideas, we often take a confrontational attitude and are eager to persuade our parents to give up this idea.
? For example, my mother didn't go to school, and now I think she is very smart. I don't remember when my mother began to believe in Christ. My grandmother also praised me for imitating my uncle's kneeling and praying when I was a child, so my mother especially wanted me to believe in Christ. Every night before going to bed and in the morning, I can hear my mother's pious prayer and her singing voice. Although I don't understand the meaning of the poem, I can remember the lyrics and hum her rhythm.
Supposedly, if I were sensible, I would follow her, but it backfired. I thought I had studied science from school, and I knew what superstition was, so my mother added another sentence in her confession: Dear father, please forgive my sins. I failed to bring the lamb to you and kiss you to give him light and make him repent. Strangely, the more I listen to it, the more I object. Even my father and my two brothers don't believe it. These are not enough. I often argue with her with some scientific common sense, hoping to make her give up her faith.
In this way, we persuaded each other for more than 20 years. It was not until I was going to be a father that I realized my mother's strength and persistence. The first thing I do when I take my mother to Suzhou is to take her to church. I gave up persuading my mother because it was her spiritual pillar, but I always wanted to destroy her. But my mother never gave up convincing me. Until a few months ago, I met a group of young girls who were going to a nursing home to do charity. I took it by the way. One of the girls also believed in Christ, and her mother told her that she was guilty. The girl listened to her mother's words and said with a smile, Aunt, you are not guilty. It's not your responsibility to bring anyone before God. This is God's responsibility. If the time comes, he will naturally believe it. Then praise me. My mother listened thoughtfully, so I couldn't understand her real thoughts. I don't think she will give up, and I don't know when she will believe it. But through this, I think I can at least make my mother feel less guilty and more relieved!
So much for my sharing today. Thank you for listening, understanding this platform, interpreting the right path, and transmitting positive energy, so that more people can live and like to live understanding! Bless everyone!