Wenger Julie once said: No matter how happy a marriage is in this world, there will be 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 impulses to strangle each other.
Therefore, every married couple is bound to have conflicts because of certain things. When there are contradictions between the two sides, mutual tolerance is particularly important.
However, tolerance does not mean giving up your own principles and bottom line. When the other person touches his bottom line, we should think carefully about whether this marriage is what we want.
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When Zhang Jun was in college, she met her wife Xiao Jing. At that time, Zhang Jun was the president of the student union, and Xiao Jing was the minister of the art department. They shared the same interests and eventually became lovers.
After graduating from college, Zhang Jun was admitted to the civil service and got a stable job. Xiao Jing also went to work in a travel agency and became a tour guide on the recommendation of a friend.
In a blink of an eye, both of them are old enough to talk about marriage.
Zhang Jun is the only child in his family. His parents are both middle school teachers and their family conditions are good.
But Xiao Jing is a rural girl. She has a younger brother who is in college, and her parents are farmers. Her family conditions are not good.
When Xiaojing's family learned that she was going to marry Zhang Jun, they were all very happy. Xiaojing's mother also said to her daughter, "Good daughter, you caught a rich husband this time."
On the other hand, Zhang Jun's parents disapproved of this marriage. They think that their son and Xiao Jing are not the right family, and their future life will not be happy. But Zhang Jun insisted on marrying Xiao Jing and even threatened her parents with a hunger strike.
In desperation, Zhang Jun's parents agreed to the marriage.
I thought that Zhang Jun's parents could get married smoothly after crossing this hurdle. Unexpectedly, the two families had a big fight over the house.
Zhang Jun's family has two houses, and the three of them now live in the two-bedroom shared by Zhang Jun's parents.
Another house is a wedding room that Zhang Jun's parents bought for their son with years of savings.
When they bought this wedding room, they wrote the name of their son Zhang Jun. Before getting the marriage certificate, Xiao Jing asked Zhang Jun to add his name to the house, otherwise he would not get the certificate.
In order to prove his love for Xiaojing, Zhang Jun called the two families together and discussed adding Xiaojing's name to the house. Xiao Jing's parents certainly agreed, but Zhang Jun's parents strongly disagreed with adding her name to the house.
Zhang Jun's parents said, "We paid for the house. Xiao Jing didn't pay a penny, so she can't add her name. "
Xiao Jing's mother suddenly became unhappy when she heard this. She said, "I married all my precious daughters to you. What's wrong with adding a name? You just don't treat us as a family! "
In this way, the two sides broke up in discord.
In order to get married with Xiaojing as soon as possible, Zhang Jun secretly added his wife's name to the property certificate of the wedding room.
Zhang Jun's parents later learned about it and had to accept the fact.
Soon, Zhang Jun and Xiao Jing entered the marriage hall, but after marriage, Zhang Jun found that this marriage was not what he wanted.
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After they got married, Xiao Jing often complained to her husband that the travel agency was too tired. Zhang Jun, who was distressed by his wife, asked her to resign and be a full-time wife at home. Xiaojing readily agreed.
Xiao Jing, who doesn't go to work, not only doesn't do housework, but also often plays mahjong with friends and often doesn't go home until 2 o'clock in the evening.
Zhang Jun was particularly distressed by this. He never dreamed that Xiao Jing, who had struggled with himself, had now become like this.
Zhang Jun felt that he was just a civil servant, with a low income, no income and a poor life. He also tried to persuade Xiao Jing to stop playing mahjong, but Xiao Jing kept talking about the divorce.
Zhang Jun became more and more depressed, and he began to regret marrying Xiao Jing.
Later, Xiao Jing's younger brother had a car accident, and his younger brother took full responsibility.
In this case, not only Xiao Jing's younger brother needs money for treatment, but also the victim's medical expenses.
Xiaojing's family couldn't get so much money, so her mother-in-law boarded Zhang Jun's door. She and Zhang Jun said, "Xiaojun, we are a family now. You are a civil servant and earn a lot of money. You must help us. "
Although Zhang Jun was a little unhappy, he could only say, "Mom, although I am a civil servant, my income is not much. Xiaojing doesn't go to work, and our family has little savings. I can only do my best. "
Hearing this, the mother-in-law began to confront Zhang Jun again. Finally, Zhang Jun took out his savings and helped Xiao Jing's family through this difficulty.
As the days passed, Xiao Jing's mother was found to be seriously ill again.
Zhang Jun's parents took out their savings when they learned that their in-laws were in hospital. Zhang Jun also borrowed a lot of money from colleagues and friends, and Xiao Jing also collected some money from relatives, but the sum of these money is still far from enough for her mother-in-law's medical expenses.
Later, Xiao Jing said to Zhang Jun, "Our relatives over there are all farmers, and they are all very poor. They can't borrow money at all, husband. Why don't we sell the house where your parents live to treat my mother? Although their house is old, but the location is good, it will definitely sell a lot of money! "
Zhang Jun listened to Xiao Jing and instantly froze.
It never occurred to him that his wife would think of this way. He said, "Your mother is in hospital. My parents and I helped her. You can't push your luck Why does everything have to be handled by our family? "
Xiao Jing heard her husband say this and said angrily, "I will marry you." You must help our family. Besides, which is more important, my mother's life or your parents' house? How can you be so selfish! "
Zhang Jun was completely angered by Xiao Jing. He said angrily, "I have done enough for you and your family since I got married." Why don't you sell your parents' house? I won't sell my parents' house. Stop dreaming. "
Xiao Jing didn't expect her husband, who has always had a good temper, to talk to herself like this. She threw an angry sentence: "Husband, if you don't sell the house to treat my mother, I will divorce you!" "
Zhang Jun can't stand his wife's unreasonable behavior any longer. He said calmly, "Then divorce."
Xiaojing panicked. She began to try to save Zhang Jun, saying that her words were angry words, but Zhang Jun insisted on divorcing Xiao Jing. He can't stand this wife any longer.
Finally, at Zhang Jun's insistence, they divorced.
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Zhang Jun married Xiao Jing with passion and longing for marriage, but what he didn't expect was that the married life was not only romantic, but also a mess.
Every marriage needs mutual tolerance, but tolerance is not connivance. Once you touch each other's bottom line, enough is enough.
Everyone is destined to come to a family, so we should cherish this fate, don't blindly ask for it, and don't know how to pay.
Only by understanding each other and working together can we gain more happiness.