My mother told me the news. The next night after I came back from Spain, the old lady couldn't sleep, wrapped in a quilt in the middle of the night, and told me emotionally that it was good for you to leave Jiang Yi, but it was also a pain for her to live.
From the age of 50, for twelve years, Aunt Jiang went from dementia to aphasia, to slow life, unable to take care of herself, and finally paralyzed in bed until her death.
The most direct reason for Aunt Jiang's dementia is just a house. Maybe she didn't understand why her brothers and sisters treated her like this until she died.
Aunt Jiang is my father's colleague and our neighbor.
We lived in the tube-shaped building where my father worked for seven years.
At that time, Jiang Yi was in his thirties and worked in the guest house of his unit.
Our home is close to Aunt Jiang's, and we can smell the smell of cooking from the kitchen every day.
In my memory, Aunt Jiang loves cleanliness, and her hair is always curly and not messy. Even her daughter Shanshan is dressed like a butterfly.
Aunt Jiang has two younger brothers and two younger sisters. She is the boss. Their brothers and sisters are on good terms. Aunt Jiang's family often comes and goes, and Shanshan's two menses and uncle always visit with their children.
In 200 1 year, Aunt Jiang's father's unit will build a welfare home. Aunt Jiang's father, as a middle-level unit, has three housing targets, but he needs to pay 38,000 yuan as the cost of buying a house.
At that time, the property market on the west coast of Qingdao was still in its infancy, and ordinary people did not have much concept of investment in houses. Aunt Jiang's parents feel that they already have a house, and they are old, and several children also have their own houses. There is no need to spend money on buying a house.
Aunt Jiang's two sisters both work in institutions. One brother is a teacher and the other is a businessman. Their financial situation is better than Aunt Jiang's. They are not interested in their father's housing index.
Aunt Jiang has her own considerations. She and her husband cutie have only one daughter, Shanshan. They don't want their children to be too far away from themselves. After Shanshan gets married, it's good to have her own house even if she doesn't live together. Moreover, the small room we live in is about 30 square meters, so it is a bit stiff for a family of three to live together. Who doesn't want to live in a big house?
Therefore, Jiang Yi discussed with his parents and paid 38,000 yuan for the house with his father's housing index. When the house is demolished, she will be transferred to Jiang Yi's name.
Everyone has no objection to this.
So, Aunt Jiang and Uncle Zhang took out all their savings and collected 38,000 yuan, which was handed over to Aunt Jiang's father's unit.
In the third year, the house was delivered as scheduled.
On one occasion, Aunt Jiang chatted with her mother and said happily that the house was big and bright, and the apartment was good.
Mom asked smoothly, has the real estate license come down?
Aunt Jiang said, down, the name is dad's, if parents want to live, anyway, Shanshan is still young.
Mom asked, didn't you write something with your brother and sister? Let them sign it, then don't do anything else. The house is no small matter.
What my mother means is to remind Jiang Yi that it is best to sign an agreement, and the two brothers have to make it clear. After all, the name on the property certificate is her father. Although my brothers and sisters are fine with it now, who can say in the future?
Aunt Jiang disagreed, smiled and waved her hand and said, impossible. They are all sisters. How could they do that? I paid the house price, and my brother and sister all said the house was mine. What's the signature? What a difference.
Yes, it is often half-brothers and sisters who hurt each other the most.
Sometimes I think, if we can predict the future, can we avoid a lot of sadness?
In 2006, Aunt Jiang's father proposed to move to a new home.
One weekend, after a family dinner, everyone chatted. Aunt Jiang's eldest brother looked around the room. How to bite a "parent's house" made Aunt Jiang and Uncle Zhang suspicious again.
The next day, Aunt Jiang took time to go to her parents' house to find out. Sure enough, my mother quietly told Aunt Jiang that my brother and sister talked to their parents about the new house and a lot of property rights last month. It was at their instigation that my father voluntarily moved to a new house.
Aunt Jiang's parents have different attitudes towards the house. The mother admitted that the house belonged to her eldest daughter. Although the real estate license is currently his wife's name, it can be transferred at any time. Father thinks that although the house price is paid by his eldest daughter, the property is his own. Without his housing index, it is impossible to get this house. He has the right of residence, and as for the transfer of real estate, he will not consider it for the time being.
Obviously, my father has been privately counselled by several other children. He wanted to put off the question as long as possible, and he left on the day he died, and the rest was everything he liked.
To put it bluntly, the old man is a bit irresponsible.
This is exactly what Jiang Yi's brothers and sisters want. Their parents are almost eighty years old. When they are gone, the house will naturally be divided equally as an inheritance.
Aunt Jiang was shocked and even a little dead. I didn't expect my mother's suggestion to become a prophecy when chatting.
She came home in a daze and told Zhang Shu about it.
Zhang Shu was naturally angry and said that it was no wonder that Uncle Shanshan took a bite of the old man last night. He is telling us something.
Aunt Jiang cried and said, no, it was all agreed at the beginning, and we also paid the house payment. How can you go back on your word now?
Zhang Shu said, I just saw that house prices have gone up now. I looked down on that 38 thousand at the beginning, but now the house is 380 thousand, and I can't stop it. I am jealous!
Aunt Jiang still thinks it is impossible, muttering, is my mother talking nonsense? I have to call my brother and sister.
Zhang Shu stopped her and said, don't call them yet. Last night, I felt something was wrong. Your brothers and sisters are prodigies, and each of them can calculate. In the early years, they even ate and got food in our house. Do you think I can't see their little plan? Only you are a big fool.
Aunt Jiang said in a hurry, what should I do?
Cutie comforted her until Shanshan came back. It's urgent.
At that time, Shanshan was 22 years old. After graduating from high school, she worked as an apprentice in a bakery. Her dream is to open her own bakery.
Unlike Jiang Yi, Shanshan didn't like her uncle and menstruation and their children since she was a child.
When I was a teenager, Shanshan once said that she was annoyed that my uncle and menstruation came to harass her home every few days, as if mom and dad owed them.
Sure enough, I owe them a big … house this time.
That night, Shanshan knew about it.
Aunt Jiang listened to Uncle Zhang's suggestion and called her Shanshan, not her brother and sister. She needs evidence, and more importantly, someone needs to give her an explanation.
Aunt Jiang cried badly on the phone, so Shanshan asked the boss for a day off and went home to comfort her mother.
For ordinary people like Jiang Yi and Zhang Shu, is there anything more important than a house? How many people have been working hard for a house all their lives?
In the afternoon, Shanshan went to her aunt's unit. Compared with the other three, Shanshan can still say a few words with her.
Because it was working hours, they had a brief talk outside the reception room of the unit.
Shanshan's aunt didn't hide anything. She told Shanshan that as early as last year, the big uncle, the little uncle and the second aunt were already planning this house.
Aunt told Shanshan frankly that there was undeniable collective miscalculation in that year, and no one had eyes before and after. Of course, there is no denying that Shanshan's family took advantage. If there is no housing index for the elderly, where will the new house come from? Therefore, her attitude is not to give up without fighting. If others don't pursue it, she won't take the initiative. But if the house eventually becomes the legacy of the old man and the old lady, her share will definitely be indispensable.
Looking at my aunt's best decission gesture, Shanshan said nothing and stuck in her heart.
Since then, the house problem has been officially showdown. The family, which used to look so harmonious, is now like being thrown into the water by a modest stone. After the ripples, it seems that they are in their places and calm. In fact, the falling stone is actually stuck at the bottom of the water, like a thorn, and it can't move.
The last straw that crushed Aunt Jiang's spirit was in the autumn one year later, my father's 75th birthday.
On that day, although everyone had a tacit understanding of the house problem, the birthday of the old man was still together.
Originally, Jiang Yi didn't want to go. During this year, she couldn't figure out why her brothers and sisters did this to her and often shed tears.
Shanshan advised her mother not to hurt her health because of a house. Only 38,000 yuan. If the house is gone, she can earn money again. It's not like the whole family is embarrassed to sleep on the street now. Why not go to such a happy event as grandpa's birthday? What's more, uncles and menstruation are indefensible, so why be proud?
So, with Shanshan's persuasion and encouragement, Jiang Yi got up and packed her luggage, and the mother and daughter took a taxi to the reserved hotel.
The old man's birthday party is set in room 302 of the hotel. Pushing open the door, Shanshan found that her grandparents and several uncles, menstrual family members had arrived, and the banquet was just needed.
In an instant, everyone had a trace of unspeakable embarrassment, just for an instant. Adults, they know, have been pretending for so many years, and it's not bad for a while.
Everyone smiles and greets Jiang Yi and Shan Shan. There were just two empty seats next to my little aunt, so I quickly waved them over. The younger brother also asked, why didn't my sister and brother-in-law come?
Aunt Jiang didn't speak, and Shanshan immediately replied, my dad has something to do tonight.
My dad really doesn't want to talk to you.
A birthday party can't be separated from pushing a cup for a change. Two uncles and two menstrual families have cars, and both husband and wife have driver's licenses, so each family sends a representative to toast with their father.
Aunt Jiang's father has been drinking white wine since he was a child. He drinks it every day, and he doesn't drink much every time. The children all know that the old man has this habit, so they will accompany him to drink a little when they eat together.
Aunt Jiang has a dull heart, five brothers and sisters, and only her family has no car. If there is no comparison between the two, it is a lie. In the past, Shanshan's father worked as a dispatcher in the company, and his family had good economic conditions. My brothers and sisters often come to eat and drink, but Shanshan's father never says anything. It doesn't matter. Now my brothers and sisters are better off than her. Are they short of houses? Why doesn't what I said at the beginning count again?
When I feel bored, I want to drink. Aunt Jiang poured her own wine, then raised her glass to my parents and said, Mom and Dad, I wish you … a long life.
What I want to say is longevity.
Jiang Mo, the son of my uncle, couldn't help laughing and said, Long live aunt, that's a turtle.
Shan just looked at it faintly. She didn't like this cousin since she was a child.
When I was a child, Jiang Mo came to her home with her parents, and she especially liked to rummage through the things that were awkward.
A boy is interested in girls' things. Moreover, she often steals one or two trinkets while Shanshan is unprepared, which makes Shanshan very disgusted.
Shanshan once talked to Aunt Jiang about this problem, hoping that Big Uncle and Aunt would take good care of it.
Who would have thought that Jiang Mo was seventeen years old and couldn't even talk about occasions?
My aunt scolded Jiang Mo, shut up!
Jiang Mo smiled sarcastically at his mother, didn't he? Besides, what's wrong with being an asshole?
Shanshan conveniently took Jiang Mo's words. It seems that you like being a turtle?
As if touching something sensitive on a string, everyone looked at Shanshan with different eyes.
Big JIU spoke first. Sam, you are my sister. Why do you care about Jiang Mo? He is not sensible. Ignore him.
Shanshan smiled at her uncle. What happened to her sister? According to you, my brother is not sensible, and my sister shouldn't be in charge?
Pun.
The atmosphere suddenly became dignified.
At this point, Jiang Yi slowly smoothed out a little taste. It turned out that the reason why daughter Shanshan asked her to attend her father's birthday party was to fight for her dignity as a sister.
When Shanshan's second aunt interrupted, her tone was a little impatient. Come on, let's have dinner. Today is his birthday. Don't make trouble. Leave immediately after eating.
The fire in Shanshan's heart came up.
She stood up, looked at her second aunt calmly and said, are you marching orders? It seems that you didn't take grandpa's birthday party seriously, did you? Who do you think is causing trouble? Don't play dumb. My parents are honest and don't care about many things. That's for grandparents, but it doesn't mean how glorious you are. By the way, I heard from my aunt that since the year before last, you and your big brother have been thinking about this house, hehe ... It's like a snake swallowing an elephant without a heart!
Speaking of which, shan deliberately paused, pleasing to the eye at the man's sharp eyes rested on his aunt.
Shanshan picked up the cup and said to the old man who had been silent, Grandpa, today is your birthday. I wish you a happy birthday and a long life to your parents. My mother is dumb and can't talk, so don't worry. During this time, she is in poor health and has been taking Chinese medicine. The doctor also told her to pay more attention to rest. Grandparents, after drinking this glass of wine, we will go first.
Say that finish, she gulped down the wine in the cup, then picked up her backpack, patted her mother's arm and left the room with Jiang Yi very indifferently.
On the way home, Jiang Yi said to Shanshan, You were so fierce just now. They must be angry.
Shanshan said they were untenable. With my second aunt's temper, can I talk like that without refuting? No
After a while, Jiang Yi said stupefied, your grandparents didn't say a word to me tonight.
She sighed softly and murmured, it seems that your father is right, and I am a big fool …
The next day, Jiang Yi's spirit became very trance-like, always muttering to himself, muttering' They are obviously wrong' for a while, and chanting' Mom and Dad, why don't you talk' for a while ...
Zhang Shu is a little worried. He touched her forehead and didn't have a fever. I wanted to help her go to bed, but I didn't expect Jiang Yi to wait for a long time before looking up at him and saying, Lao Zhang, I'm so stupid, I'm so stupid …
Zhang Shu knows that her heart is bitter and she can't bear it. He patted her on the shoulder to comfort her, saying that fools are blessed with stupidity, so why be so smart.
Aunt Jiang pursed her lips and asked, what will Shanshan do in the future?
Zhang Shu covered her with a quilt and said, go to sleep quickly, don't worry.
Aunt Jiang has been in a trance for nearly two months, and there are increasingly serious signs. She often suffers from insomnia and keeps talking to herself.
Cutie went to the drugstore to buy her some medicine to regulate her sleep. Later, Shanshan went to the hospital for consultation and bought her a sedative.
It's just, it's not getting any better
Shanshan slowly felt that the problem was serious. She took time to take Aunt Jiang to a big hospital for a check-up. The doctor's conclusion is that it is similar to Alzheimer's Harmo's disease, that is, Alzheimer's Harmo's disease, but there are differences. Obviously, Aunt Jiang was greatly stimulated, which led to mental problems and her condition developed rapidly. Like Alzheimer's disease, her condition is irreversible, and her family can only give patience and companionship.
Originally, I just suspected. When the doctor was diagnosed and the conclusion was clear, Shanshan's heart was still unacceptable.
At home, Shanshan told Zhang Shu about Jiang Yi's illness, but he was calm, as if expected.
Uncle Zhang said that your mother and I have retired anyway. I'll wait on her, so you can work hard and don't worry about us. ?
One day in September, 20 15, I went to Xiangxiang bakery and ordered a birthday cake for my mother.
The proprietress greeted her warmly. She got married and gave birth to two beautiful daughters. My husband used to drive for the company because the bakery business was very busy, but now he has resigned to help her.
Shanshan is very talkative We don't see each other very often, and we have been talking about this since we met.
By the way, Shanshan said, my grandfather died last year.
Oh? I ate.
When it comes to grandpa, you can't help but mention the house.
I asked, did you get the results of your apartment?
Shanshan said with a smile, now the house has been transferred to my mother's name.
I was surprised and asked her how she did it.
Shanshan said that my mother could not take care of herself three years ago. Basically, every ten days and a half, I will push her to her grandparents' house in a wheelchair. I told them that my mother missed them and always talked about them. The old man and the old lady were both moved and sad. Actually, my mom doesn't know anyone anymore. Who will she say?
I nodded and said, I know what you mean.
Shanshan said, to tell you the truth, I hate my grandfather. Grandma has no right to speak at home. Grandpa is in charge of all the major events. This is my mother's responsibility.
I asked, so you brought Aunt Jiang to them to prove him wrong?
Shanshan shook her head and said, no, my mother has been like this. There is no point in obsessing about right and wrong. What I need is their guilt.
Guilt.
Shanshan used the guilt of the old man to sign an agreement with her grandparents in private. A hundred years later, the house was owned by Jiang Yi.
For the legitimacy of the agreement, Shanshan specially drove two old people to the notary office for notarization.
After grandpa died last year, in order to prevent a big sleep, Shanshan took time to take grandma and mom and dad to the real estate trading center to go through the transfer formalities.
Grandma is eighty years old, and the old lady has clear eyes. Once, she took Shanshan's hand and said with tears, Shanshan, we are sorry for your mother and five children. This is her most filial piety and her stupidest.
Speaking of which, Shanshan wiped her eyes and said, in fact, in our family, grandma is the clearest person in my heart.
The day after the house was transferred, Shanshan took a photo of Aunt Jiang and sent it to her.
Aunt Jiang in the photo is haggard, thin, with blurred eyes and hunched back in a wheelchair, so small.
Shanshan wrote a few words under the photo: My mother, your big sister. Thanks to you, she has dementia and can't take care of herself for many years. I don't want to talk about the past for many years. I hope they will get better.
I'm confused. The house has been transferred to Aunt Jiang. Why should I send her photo to my aunt?
Shanshan said, because grandma is still alive, I don't want to embarrass the old man. Aunt is one of the most rational. Originally, she didn't have such a deep desire for that house. They haven't seen my mother for a long time. That photo will definitely stimulate her.
I asked, why should I stimulate her?
Shanshan smiled to see if her conscience had been eaten by a dog. If I'm not mistaken, she will definitely send her mother's photo to several other people.
I can't help but marvel that your family's story is really a kung fu drama.
Shan sighed and said, what if the house wins? My mother is already stupid. Before she lost her voice, one of her most common words was, Lao Zhang, what if Shanshan got married? …
Shanshan choked again.
I haven't seen aunt Jiang since I moved out of that tube-shaped building, and my memory of her has been stuck in my childhood. She is disheveled and untidy.
Shanshan said that her mother has been unable to find the correct answer between affection and interests since she was 50 years old, but she just helped her mother make a direct response with reality.