? 1. standard Recently, Tencent Video, the leading video-on-demand platform in China, has more than one million hits on a "interview video of a beautiful writer before suicide 18 days". When watching the video, netizens marveled at the gentle literary talent of this female writer and lamented that it was a pity that she died young. Lin, a Taiwan Province-born beauty writer, has just published a novel "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", which has attracted much attention because of the author's confusing cause of death.
? This novel seems to be the subject of youth campus love. In fact, it expounds an extremely serious social problem. Fang Siqi, an adolescent female middle school student, was induced by her tutor Li Guohua to have X relationship many times, which eventually led to the psychological distortion of girls. In order to dilute the sense of shame, Fang Siqi confused herself and fell in love with the rapist. "Because the person you love can forgive you for doing anything" is a typical Stockholm syndrome or hostage complex or hostage syndrome in psychology. Baidu Encyclopedia interprets it as "the complex that crime victims have feelings for criminals and even help them in turn." This kind of emotion leads the victim to have a good impression on the offender, rely on him, and even help him "force himself to fall in love with someone who has hurt you and ravaged your body."
This process is obviously a pain that ordinary people can't understand. According to an insider, this novel is based on Lin's real experience. Fang Siqi, the girl in the novel, is probably the writer herself in middle school. And Li Guohua can also find the prototype in real life. The beauty writer once admitted that girls value their virginity more than life. She compared the worst disaster in the world to the rape of Fang Siqi. Under this long-term mental torture, the writer himself failed to shake off the shadow of being infringed, and finally hanged himself in the bedroom.
? An anonymous questionnaire survey shows that many women have been violated to some extent in their childhood, but they are ashamed to talk about it. When I was young, I was full of curiosity and attraction to my peers' bodies, which may be the sexual confusion in the enlightenment. Instead, they were lured to have sex by the older middle-aged opposite sex, stroking their bodies and even coaxing them. It will sow the seeds of evil in the young hearts of the victims. With the growth and germination of age, the victim will have resistance to men and think that he is dirty and unworthy of others. I am afraid of normal husband and wife life after marriage and live in the shadow all my life. This kind of sexual assault is unspeakable for women. And the social inertia thinking that "a raped girl will be regarded as her own fault", you expose the victim, but also face the situation of being destroyed and rejected. There are too many ideological struggles here. This kind of self-contraction and self-built protective barrier of the dumb eating Coptis chinensis may isolate, suppress and distort her.
? In many news reports, there are often vicious incidents in which primary school girls are molested by animal teachers. The child was once depressed and afraid of going to school. In this regard, parents are also warned to teach their children to strengthen their awareness of self-protection. There are also some parents who buy mobile phones for their children too early, and children in sexual confusion may be exposed to bad information on the Internet through mobile phones. Not long ago, there was a news report that someone sold WeChat pornographic videos to primary school students, which should be resolutely stopped.
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In the novel mentioned at the beginning, the girl's "biscuit" was torn by the teacher and took away her virginity. She went back to her apartment and wanted to give her body to her boyfriend. She couldn't even touch her boyfriend before. Cookie lay in bed, in tears. After being forced to tell the truth by her boyfriend, she broke up immediately. ?
? This also involves men's "virgin complex". China was conservative in ancient times, and he usually had zero tolerance for premarital sex. Now people's ideas are more and more open, and the age of first sexual intercourse has been pushed to universities, even high schools and junior high schools. A few years ago, it was rumored that many gynecological hospitals in Beijing often accepted female middle school students wearing school uniforms for abortion. There are also rumors in the society that "female middle school students give birth in the school toilet and put the fetus into the trash can". What's more, after the fetus was delivered, it was thrown from the second floor window and crushed by a car.
With the opening of social concept, girls' dormitories in many schools are stopped by boys in many cases. When a boy steps into a girl's bedroom, he won't be beaten by a disorderly stick. Others will come to see you with colored glasses. Often in the boys' dormitory, girls don't. There are often female students who are not shy about going out with their boyfriends. ?
? Teaching and educating people is the purpose of the campus, and bad styles are constantly blowing out. For example, after the girls in Baoyan Road were occupied by migrant workers in the school construction, the school sent graduate students directly to calm the storm in order to avoid troubles. There are also female students who send peach news to university professors for a paper. There are many examples, too numerous to mention.
? Come to think of it carefully, this kind of incident can't be completely eliminated. There is neither long-term good nor long-term evil in human nature. Even a great man with a high voice has a dark side. Those men who are cheerful and generous in the eyes of outsiders, have harmonious interpersonal relationships and excellent personalities still report bad incidents of violence against their wives. Some studies even pointed out that people with high academic qualifications have a greater proportion of mental illness. In domestic violence and sexual abuse, the victims of this society are no longer women, and men are gradually becoming vulnerable groups. Human nature is often a demon, and many social problems are ultimately the diversification of human nature.
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