As long as it is conscious, self-active and under the control of self-control, it is self-harm.
Sister Rhonda believes that people who will self-harm generally have one or more of the following psychology:
1 emotional venting, transferring psychological pain to the body.
Self-mutilation is a bad mood for teenagers. Severe depression and bad emotions, as well as loneliness, despair, anger and other bad emotions. Teenagers usually feel bad before self-mutilation, and they are dissatisfied and hostile to their families or others. Self-mutilators express these emotions by hurting themselves, thus helping themselves to get a relief from unbearable negative emotions.
Some respondents believe that self-harm is to "transfer stress"; Another interviewee said, "I will feel better after rowing" and "I just want to vent". They transfer the pain they can't feel psychologically to the real pain on the body, so as to achieve the purpose of transferring emotions.
2? Get the attention of others
Teenagers are facing great pressure in their study and life, and self-injury behavior is the embodiment that individuals can't cope with setbacks and pressures. Although self-injury can't solve the problem directly, it sends a signal to others:
Let others know that they need help and force others to face up to their needs.
Self-mutilators tend to think that they are unpopular and neglected. In their view, extreme measures can attract enough attention.
3 seek sensory stimulation
Some students hurt themselves because of "excitement", "personality" and "fun"
Foreign research shows that 2 1. 9% of teenagers' self-harm thoughts come from newspapers, movies and the Internet. Bad information spread by the media is likely to affect teenagers, making them curious about self-harm behavior and mistaking it for fun and avant-garde behavior, thus imitating this behavior and pursuing a feeling of "coolness" and "courage".
4 Imitation psychology leads to self-harm
Students who see self-harm get some benefits, and blind imitation leads to self-harm. "When I was in the first grade, a classmate liked to hurt herself, so I learned from her." At that time, I thought self-mutilation was really cool for the first time, and then it became more and more cruel.
Because the first stimulus is often more profound than the subsequent self-harm, the degree of self-harm will gradually deepen, and this self-harm behavior caused by students' curious imitation psychology will be as contagious as a cold and as addictive as drugs.
5 The catharsis of attacking desire
According to the investigation of teenagers, most self-injured individuals are accompanied by aggressive behavior. When they have no other communication methods available to express aggression and lack the ability to delay satisfaction and hostile desire, self-injury as a means can avoid attacking others.
Because attacking others may lead to social exclusion, self-mutilation people use their own bodies as a substitute for their goals to vent their impulse to attack.
6 family environment and education
Family environment, as an important background of teenagers' growth, has a great influence on self-harm behavior.
12- 18 years old self-injured people, the proportion of family difficulties is large. Children whose families are broken up by divorce, separation or death are 20 times more likely to hurt themselves than teenagers with good care.
In addition, it is generally believed that there is a direct relationship between self-harm and suicide, but Cornell University's research shows that although self-harm may lead to death when it causes serious physical injury, the purpose of self-harm is not suicide.
For example, if self-hatred leads to self-punishment, when self-hatred intensifies, it will easily lead to suicide; But if you are addicted to pain, it has little to do with suicide, and you should analyze the specific problems.
When a person is difficult to support, you can seek the help of a psychological counselor.
Talk to professionals, they will understand your feelings better, and they can accompany you into this hopeless whirlpool, and then work together to get back on track.