"You said my life, how much cheaper you. Sir, you too. You have never had a son and a half in your life. Why don't you find a wife? "
Mr. Jin, who sat next to me, said with concern, "Strictly speaking, you should actually call me Xiao San." Say that finish, to Wang Duo fish two people blinked.
At that time, I just thought it was funny. Now, after careful study, I have given birth to a lot of admiration.
You bury your bones under the mud spring, and I send snow all over the world. Imagine that a super-rich man can stick to his sexual orientation, not be bound by traditional concepts such as passing on the family line, and not hurt other girls. This alone is awe-inspiring.
However, more people in this world don't have the consciousness of Sir Zhong. I am obviously a "gay", but I still want to find a woman to marry.
According to the statistics of Zhang Beichuan, a domestic expert on gay men, "there are 20 million sexually active gay men in China, 80% of whom will get married or have already got married."
This means that160,000 girls are about to get married or have already married gay men. What awaits them is a marriage doomed to tragedy.
The sorrow of the same wife
As for the wife of a gay man, there is a special word in society called "Tong Qi" because it covers too many people.
"My world has completely collapsed, and the person I love and trust most lied to me 10 years. If my dad hadn't called me, I would have jumped. "
To outsiders, Liu Siqi, a middle-class family, has an enviable marriage and life. In the second month of her marriage to her husband, at the age of 34, she got pregnant as she wished.
Life during that time was as beautiful as a fairy tale, but her husband's strange behavior made her doubt. When she breast-feeds her baby in the middle of the night, her husband always turns off the browser in a hurry.
It was not until her husband's QQ forgot to go offline that she discovered that her husband was actually gay. She couldn't accept this fact, and her body trembled and searched the information of "same wife" from the Internet.
▲ In the movie "Who fell in love with him first", Liu Sanlian discovered that her husband was gay after his death.
The cruel reality defeated her last line of defense. One night, she clearly heard her husband shouting a person's name, a man's name in his dream.
After her husband's showdown, heartbroken, she sent a suicide note in the gay forum, ready to jump off the building and end everything in front of her. Fortunately, her father called her and asked her to go back and nurse the baby.
Since then, children have become the reason to support her alive. Later, because the suicide note caused an uproar in the forum of the same wife, she established the earliest QQ group of the same wife in China for those who were in the same boat with her.
She found that the same wife faced many similar problems: no sex life, infidelity and violence.
In the eyes of many husbands, they are full of rejection of their wives. It seems that it is a shame to meet their wives, and giving birth to children is a task.
After giving birth to children, they will fabricate various reasons to refuse to share the same room, barely maintain a asexual marriage and find another lover.
This indifference itself is a kind of cold violence, which often turns into real violence.
A lady named Wang tried to control her tears when she talked about her husband and wife's life. In the marriage of 15, the husband never touched her, quarreled and fought constantly, bumped her head against the wall, and even put a knife rest around her neck.
In this way, the pearl held by parents in their hands was casually played and humiliated by some homosexuals, losing the great youth and fun of life.
Disappeared
Douban netizens once shared a case, which made us see a bigger evil: the whole family joined hands to fabricate lies.
The beginning of the story is like an idol drama, which coincides with its meeting and is caught off guard. He is the only child in the family and has a good family.
They were very affectionate when they first met and soon got married. What makes her happier is that her mother-in-law dotes on her like her own mother.
But after giving birth, everything changed.
A normal man will definitely choose to accompany his wife after giving birth. But for 23 days, her husband hasn't even appeared.
▲ Screenshot of the movie "Who fell in love with him first"
Her husband's family sent her to the private room on the grounds of recuperating her health. She called her husband, but she couldn't get through. Asked her mother-in-law for information, but she said she didn't know.
Finally one day, her husband approached her. I touched the child's face and there was a long-lost tenderness in my eyes. But when she approached her husband's hand, he quickly threw it away, and his face was full of disgust.
More than 20 days of injustice, this moment, let her burst into tears. She took his hand and asked, "What's the matter? Do you have someone else? "
Of course he said no and told her not to think about it. But how can such a strange performance be reassuring? She began to pay attention to it from time to time. Once my husband didn't bring his mobile phone to the toilet, and a message appeared in front of her: "Husband, I want it at night."
▲ American drama "Fatal Woman", the female host bumped into her husband and man.
Until now, the girl still wants to never give up. She believes that for the sake of the children, her husband will definitely get back on track. But after some investigation, the private detective found that it was actually a man who cheated her husband.
Unbearable, she showed the evidence, but no matter how she cried, her husband left home without saying a word. The next day, my mother-in-law said that she would take her children out to bask in the sun.
She wanted to tell her mother-in-law what she had been brewing for a long time, but her mother-in-law never appeared again. This home, unexpectedly, evaporated collectively.
▲ Screenshot of the movie "Who fell in love with him first"
It was not until later that she learned that the considerate mother-in-law knew that her son was gay, but she cheated her into getting married in order to carry on the family line. All they want is a fertility machine, which is worthless after giving birth.
Later, she did not hesitate to quit her job to find her own children and walked countless corners in more than 700 days and nights. Many neighbors think she is crazy, and rumors about her are everywhere.
In the eyes of these cheating homosexuals, marriage is just to carry on the family line. They are even full of grievances: a woman just gave birth to a child, but left true love against her will.
Even if the girl is cheated by her husband, her flesh and blood are separated and her sorrow pours down, what does it have to do with them?
▲ Screenshot of the movie "Goodbye, Nanping Night Bell"
Folding edge
For the same wife, the above is just a part of life. In reality, they are like being thrown into a horror movie and may encounter various disasters.
A lady Ma couldn't figure out why she was infected with AIDS. Until one day, when she was in hospital, she happened to meet her ex-husband
It turns out that her ex-husband is gay and AIDS patient. Only then did I find out that it was my same wife and the illness came from my ex-husband.
Gay men are at high risk of AIDS. According to Professor Zhang Beichuan's data, "more than 30% of the wives in the same room will be infected with sexually transmitted diseases."
Xu Jie, a university teacher, is full of longing for love. Unexpectedly, after marriage, her husband never looked at her, and a man even "asked me to give him his man back".
Later, she filed for divorce and was blocked by her husband's family. Mother-in-law told her that she could go to San Xiao, and they also admitted the baby she gave birth to. Induction is invalid, and it is forced. She has to bear millions of house debts.
Although it is difficult to obtain evidence and identify such cases, she has made up her mind. On the condition of keeping an honest and clean life and protecting her ex-husband's privacy, she drew a clear line with her husband.
Although she became nothing, Xu Jie was lucky. Because there are still some women who are not only blocked by their husbands' families when they want to divorce, but even their parents are not allowed because of face and other reasons.
There is a tiger in front and a wolf in the back. The inner pain is like a vine, which is attached to the internal organs. Every step forward is a terrible pain. Some cool-headed women took extreme measures.
90% of depression
Luo Hongling, a lecturer at Sichuan University, was originally a sunny, beautiful and independent girl. After dating her boyfriend Cheng for five or six months, she quickly entered the marriage hall.
She thought that life after marriage would be sweeter, but Cheng seems to be a different person. She often goes home at night 10 on the grounds of fitness. Tasting the bitter honeymoon, Luo Hongling felt very wronged.
In the fourth month of marriage, she finally found out the truth. When her husband was taking a bath, she received an ambiguous message from a man. After some examination, she found more unsightly content, and the man she loved cheated on her.
▲ Luo Hongling
She questioned her husband, but Cheng, who was hesitant and timid, didn't admit it at all and didn't agree with her to break up.
She consulted a psychiatrist when she collapsed, but she didn't get over her depression in the end. 201June 15 in the early morning, Luo Hongling jumped from the apartment 13 floor and died.
She left the last paragraph on the Weibo:
"You have so many opportunities to let me live, why do you have to drag me into the mire? Even after marriage, you looked at me in pain and asked for help everywhere. Go to the forum to find girlfriends, and let the marriage counselor see a psychologist. I've tried all kinds of methods and I can't get rid of them. You just look on coldly and continue this deception? "
▲ Luo Hongling's parents
In her husband's apology, he explained that cheating on marriage was to cover up his sexual orientation.
I can only say that you are a coward.
Suicide by the same wife is not a case. In the survey data of 20 15, more than 90% of the same wives have depressive symptoms, and more than 10% have committed suicide.
He can't give you happiness, and he will kill you. How cruel is this?
What is freedom?
Of course, there are definitely a few wives and husbands who can live in peace, but more families are fragmented and chickens fly and dogs jump.
According to the data of the 20 15 survey report, more than 90% of the same wives in China have experienced domestic violence, of which 38.7% have experienced physical conflict, 37.6% have experienced cold violence, and 15% have experienced serious domestic violence.
Up to 90%, what a terrible probability.
What is even more frightening is that many homosexuals are still full of grievances after marriage: "We also want to be with our lover, but marriage is not guaranteed. What can we do? "
Some people are complacent: "those who reject and discriminate against homosexuality, if they or their daughters suffer (infected with AIDS), they do it themselves."
But there is a good saying that no matter what hardships you encounter, it should not be the reason for your crime. No matter what kind of pressure you face, it should not be the reason for you to cheat.
▲ A gay man's remarks on a website.
No one is qualified to push another person into a cage in order to carry on the family line and save face.
Attention, girls. When you choose a partner, looks, personality, money and so on. It is the second. What you should know more is his sexual orientation.
After all, the cruelest way to ruin a girl is to let her marry a homosexual.
No sex life, having a baby machine, being cheated, depressed, from cold violence to real violence, and even the risk of contracting AIDS. ...
▲ Diary of a Same Wife: What should I do? Divorce? What a ridiculous world! ! ! Aids and homosexuality are all my encounters!
Advise those gay men that if you are brave enough, you should break through the secular prejudice. It's just a sign of cowardice to come up with all kinds of excuses.
Everyone has the freedom of sexual orientation, but no one has the freedom to hurt others.
If you only love men, stay away from women!