My husband and I both got married late,' the netizen wrote. I was 30 when I got married. After I got married, I had nothing. Fortunately, we all have jobs and fixed incomes. He wanted to start a second job and borrowed a lot of loans. I agreed. I think a man must have some ambitions. I have always supported him, even when he was not married, using his salary as collateral to help him. When he got married, we didn't even have a house. We live in a bungalow rental house in 18, and my parents rented another house when they came to serve him. So I didn't say anything about him, just because he was lazy.
Later, with my insistence, the days passed day by day. He always wants to do a lot of things, things will only begin, and there is no good result. We quarreled and fought over this matter, but most of them didn't have a direct conflict with him, just hit each other on the side.
In fact, there are many differences in personality. I thought about divorce, but I always gave up after having children. 20 10, we invested in a small hotel with a loan, and the business was good. It can be said that we have paid off all the debts we owed in the past and life seems to be getting better. But things have changed again. He started to beat and scold me and never took my salary home. We can't discuss his income and expenses. Only he can ask me for money and won't spend a penny for me. My friend said he might have a lover outside, but I said it was impossible. I don't think there is any reason. I can say that I have done my best for him.
Until June 5, 20 12, I saw him in a room with a woman (the former waiter of my hotel) and stayed alone for three hours. When I opened the door, he was lying on the bed, his belt fell to the ground, and the woman was sitting in the dark. I was confused at that time and didn't know what to do. I have always believed that he is not the kind of person who cheated, because he is a post-60 s generation with traditional education. Even at 20 1 1, a waiter said he was drunk and asked to make out with him. I thought it was fake, let alone believe that he would have an affair. I just think he is rude after drinking. I didn't know what to do when I saw what was in front of me, and then I ignored him, waiting for him to say sorry and ask for forgiveness, but he didn't say anything before he came, so I slept with him and my daughter all the time.
Later, I accidentally saw him secretly texting others, and then I carefully checked his phone records. I found that I sent more than 10 messages to that woman every day, and more after I found out. I called the woman, and she said that it was nothing to do business with him. Until now, my husband has not admitted his mistake to me. During the quarrel, he kept saying: I do. Should I let go? I am a 4 1 year-old woman. I don't want a divorce. Our family has gone from nothing to normal now. This is my effort. After the divorce, there was nothing. It is very sad to lose a home. My husband is not at home recently, and we have been apart for two months. It's not missing, it's resentment and injustice. What should I do?
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Pan Xiao answered your friend, Hello. Your husband's infidelity is a manifestation of man's nature and a long-term accumulation of marital contradictions. First, the material aspects of life were relatively tight at first, and then it gradually became normal. In the words of the ancients, food and clothing means lust. Only in a comfortable living environment will people have the desire to entertain. Second, you and your husband have different personalities, and there are constant contradictions in life, but there is no direct conflict. Some estrangement and resentment have accumulated between them, and over time, your feelings have been diluted.
When men and women cheat, their brains will be crazy and lose their minds for a while. During this time, you can't wait for him to reflect on himself and apologize to you. Today's situation, resentment and injustice can only make you feel worse. If you want to keep your family and marriage, you should take the initiative. On the one hand, you should talk to your mistress, on the other hand, you should improve your attitude towards your husband, and care about him enthusiastically anyway.
In addition, if things get to the point where they can't be handled, we should try our best to strive for the greatest material benefits through judicial procedures, so that neither ourselves nor our children will suffer. In fact, marriage is only the external expression of the combination of people, and the purpose of forming a family is to make people live and develop better. If it becomes a powerful obstacle to people's happiness, then you should redefine the marriage in front of you and where to go.