Starting from human nature: human nature is to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Everyone has their own needs and pays attention to what is good for them. It's no use if the other party doesn't pay attention.
First, sort out three questions before communication:
1. Will others listen to me?
If others don't want to listen, just shut up early and practice deliberately: if others don't want to listen to what I say, they should swallow it back even when it comes to their mouth.
2. Will others take action after listening?
If you are going to say some chicken soup for the soul, although others like to listen to it, but don't act after listening, it's better to say less. Because knowledge can't change fate unless it brings action.
3. Are there any good results after others' actions?
Action can't change fate, unless it brings good results, good results can change fate. Never bring anyone, into the pit!
Second, effective communication means three things:
1. Say what the other person cares about;
2. The advantages and disadvantages of doing what I told others;
3. Tell me the value and help I can bring to others.
The above golden magic weapon of efficient communication is very effective at work and at home!
Whether it is persuading customers or educating children, the effect is good!
For example, I want to teach my children to brush their teeth carefully, and I will say to her, Baby, you must want to be a baby with both talents and looks, right? Mom tells you that teeth have a great influence on a person's beauty. If your teeth are not cleaned, they will be too dark, and others will think your teeth are ugly when they talk. More importantly, if you don't clean your teeth, they will be bad and you will not be able to eat anything in the future. Do you think it's important to brush your teeth carefully? If you don't know how to clean up, mom will tell you. ......
The child told me that night to brush inside and out for 3 minutes as I said.
Take the opportunity to continue to encourage: baby, you are great, you will definitely teach, and we will brush our teeth several times every morning and evening, and we will definitely brush our teeth white and healthy!
Make a little progress every day, narrow the target distance and come on together!